In the life of ordinary people, the less cause and effect they are exposed to, the better.
If there is too much cause and effect, there will be more "love and hatred" that you will be exposed to. Possibly, the misfortune of others will also involve you. This is the so-called "fire at the city gate, which affects the fish in the pond".
There is a classic example of "The Farmer and the Snake". It was snowing heavily, and the farmer saw a snake frozen on the side of the road, and he couldn't bear it, so he put the snake in his arms.
When the snake woke up, the first thing he did not do was to repay the farmer, but to bite the farmer and poison him. Helpless and kind farmer, his kindness is not rewarded.
The farmer was unfortunate because he was contaminated with the cause and effect of poisonous snakes. If you go straight to it, regardless of whether the snake lives or dies, won't the farmer survive?
A piece of advice, don't let these people interfere with your fate and cause and effect.
1. Don't let people with different views and frequencies interfere with your life.
The so-called "three views are different, there is no need to be strong." "You have your three views, he has his ideas, everyone is different, and you are destined to be unable to go with him.
If you don't give up and have to force it, then you will have a serious conflict of ideas with him. If you don't obey him, and he doesn't obey you, everyone will become enemies.
This can be seen by looking at "marriage". A girl, on the spur of the moment, married a boy. But these two people have inconsistent views and frequencies, and they have no tacit understanding at all.
In the first two years of marriage, both parties still have a sense of freshness, so naturally you and I are nong. But in the seventh year, the two parties were tired of it, and the marital conflict broke out completely, and the family became a Shura field.
Can a marriage that makes the family a Shura field really make people happy? It doesn't make people happy, it just makes people miserable. Otherwise, there wouldn't be so many people who choose to divorce now.
Whether it is making friends or looking for a significant other, you need to find people with similar views and frequencies. Otherwise, contradictions will only appear frequently.
2. Don't let people who have neither interests nor feelings interfere with your life.
The relationship between people is about two points, either about feelings or about interests. If there is no affection and no interest, then there is no need for the two sides to communicate.
When you meet a stranger on the street, will you take the initiative to socialize with him? You won't. Because you know that this man has nothing to do with you. This relationship is the carrier of interests and feelings.
You have a relationship with your boss because your boss hired you, you came to work for him, and there was an exchange of interests between the two parties; You have a relationship with your family because your family is connected to you by blood, and there is a deep relationship between the two parties.
As for the relationship that has neither interests nor feelings, it is basically not as good as "chicken ribs". Too much exposure will only waste your energy and time.
It's like meeting a passerby, no matter how hateful he is, he has nothing to do with us. Unless, on our own initiative, we approach them and taint their cause and effect.
People, we still have to live realistically. Because this world is realistic, it lives because of material interests, and it also lives warmly because of feelings. Everything else is just rotten people.
3. Don't let short-sighted people who pinch each other at the bottom interfere with your destiny.
There is a question on the Internet: why is it difficult for people at the bottom to stand out from the encirclement? The answer is heart-wrenching, because the people around the people at the bottom are dragging them to the death and preventing them from standing out of the encirclement.
How to understand it? For example, if you work in a factory and make a lot of money, you want to go it alone and become a small boss yourself. At this time, the workers around you will stop you.
Some workers tell you that it is risky to work alone, so it is better to continue working; Some workers tell you that the boss who chose to work alone went bankrupt and jumped off the building; Some workers told you that if you have money, you should eat, drink and have fun, why do you want to make yourself so tired?
When you listen to these words for the first time, you will feel a little bit of truth. But if you think about it, you will find that when I am down, they don't come to comfort me. When I have money, you will come and hold me and not let me leave?
Because others don't want you to do well. You have money and want to work alone, and your co-workers are still working and still poor, so how can others want you to live well?
The biggest problem at the bottom is that the situation of "pinching each other" is particularly serious. You pinched me, and I pinched you, and in the end, everyone couldn't get out.
Fourth, don't let hypocrites and backstabbing people at any time interfere with your cause and effect.
In a humane society, there is a kind of person who is particularly terrible - hypocritical hypocrites.
Hypocrites have three characteristics. First of all, on the surface, he is full of benevolence, righteousness and morality, but behind his back, he is full of men and prostitutes; second, there is no principle and bottom line, and it is easy to turn around and not recognize people; Third, backstabbing at any time, the risk factor is particularly high.
If you are an honest person, but you believe in a hypocrite and dig out your heart and lungs with him, then he will think that you are a bully and a soft persimmon, and he will come to pinch you.
No matter what you do, you will feel uncomfortable. The reason for the disobedience is that these hypocrites are working in secret. It is possible that your efforts have become a stepping stone for others to ascend to the top.
In this regard, you will definitely complain that the world is hot and cold, and people's hearts are shallow. What's the point of complaining afterwards? Only by overcoming the defect of "having eyes but not beads" can it be possible to live a better life.
People in the rivers and lakes, you might as well keep your eyes open and don't get too close to hypocrites. Otherwise, the future will be twists and turns.
Text/Shushan has deer