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#长文创作激励计划#俗话说: "The love of parents is far-reaching." ”
As a parent, of course, I hope that my child will have a bright future and a safe and worry-free life.
Nowadays, the competition in society is becoming more and more fierce, and it is the wish of every parent to let their children live a better life in the future.
In a family, the father is often the pillar of economic life, while the mother needs to be delicate, grasp the direction, and become the backbone of the family's thinking.
How to avoid children becoming "bottom-up"? As a mother, you should master the following three concentrations.
"Judgment" that is helpless in pursuing school
Do you still remember the "noble son of the poor" who has frequently made hot search headlines?
Born in the countryside of Cangzhou, Hebei Province, he waited for his university admission letter in 2017 and was admitted to the Department of Precision Instruments of Tsinghua University with the title of champion in Cangzhou City.
Such a happy event undoubtedly caused a sensation in that small village with extremely poor living conditions at that time.
However, for Pang Zhongwang and his family, being admitted to Tsinghua University is a surprise but also an expectation.
Pang Zhongwang was born in an unhappy family, his father was a schizophrenic patient, and his mother was disabled in the lower limbs, and she was accompanied by a wheelchair for life.
It is not an exaggeration to describe the living environment of Pang Zhongwang with the four walls of the house, and the dilapidated earthen walls are plastered with the awards that the boy has received since he was a child.
This wall is also the best decoration of this humble little home.
Someone once asked Pang Zhongwang: "Why do you live in such a family and are so optimistic and laughing?" ”
The boy just touched his head shyly, saying that he didn't feel that he was any different from others, and that he also had parents who loved him and were very happy.
If you live in such a poor family, has Pang Zhongwang ever had the idea of giving up his studies?
The answer is, yes.
In the process of studying, due to financial difficulties, Pang Zhongwang had to do small odd jobs to earn money while taking care of his studies.
When he was physically and mentally exhausted, the young child also thought about terminating his studies.
At this time, Pang Zhongwang's mother will silently accompany her son, using her crippled body to support a haven of rest for the child.
Mother's warm embrace will always make Pang Zhongwang full of strength.
This woman, who had not been to school much, did not know how to enlighten her son with philosophical words, but she always knew in her heart that learning was the only way out for her son.
As a mother, she clearly understands that her child has an amazing talent for learning, and if it were not for the drag of the family, the child would definitely receive a better education.
Having experienced the ups and downs of life, she also hopes to use her weak light to illuminate the road ahead for her children.
Pang Zhongwang once recalled that when he was young, his mother often said to himself that he would study hard so that he could have better development in the future.
It is also his mother's support all the way that gives Pang Zhongwang the courage to overcome all difficulties, no matter how hard it is, he always moves forward bravely on the road of learning and never gives up.
"Time will not disappoint those who work hard", Pang Zhongwang also handed in the best answer.
Today, he is studying for a PhD at Tsinghua University and continues to fulfill his dream.
Discovering the child's shining point and doing the right thing at the right time is the judgment that every mother should have.
The "guiding power" of employment confusion
Recently, it is graduation season, and countless college graduates are worried about finding a job.
As early as my senior year of internship, my cousin complained to me about his mother's forced interference in his work.
As a liberal arts student, he has been extremely interested in literature since he was a child, and reciting ancient texts and poems when he was a child shows an amazing memory.
Naturally, my college cousin also chose the Chinese department that he had always loved.
Time flies, and when I graduated, my cousin had a heart-to-heart talk with me, saying that after graduation, I wanted to take the teaching test and become a Chinese teacher, so that I could always work in the atmosphere I liked.
However, such a choice was strongly opposed by the aunt.
My aunt is a strong woman, she did business with her friends when she was young, and she has a good business acumen in recent years.
As a mother, she has tried her best to give her best in her cousin's food and clothing since she was a child.
For her, the teaching profession is not well-paid, and at the same time, it is a hard job, so she doesn't want her cousin to go to the podium.
For this reason, the mother and son quarreled a lot, in fact, in terms of reason, neither of them was wrong.
But the crux of the matter is that it is the cousin who needs to work now, and in any case, the will of the parties should be respected, provided that there is no violation of principles and violations of the law.
Instead of imposing your own ideas on your child, even if you are his mother.
In fact, for any industry, it is not a cage, and in such a situation, the stalemate between mother and son is not beneficial to both parties, but will hurt the feelings.
Instead of this, it is better to give your child the greatest freedom while he is young and let him do what he likes.
As a mother, you should give your children the right guidance in terms of employment, not just protection.
The "Supporting Force" of Difficulty in Choosing a Mate
Marriage is a major event in everyone's life, and parents value it more than their children.
Choosing a beloved and suitable person is related to the happiness of her children in the second half of their lives, and it is the greatest expectation of every mother.
Looking at the sky-high bride price incidents in the past, the woman's mother opened her mouth to pay hundreds of thousands of bride price regardless of the other party's family background.
In the name of beauty, it is to use money to see if the other party cares about his daughter, but ask yourself, is this really the case?
When did money become the test of a person's sincerity?
When feelings can be measured by money, how many pounds and taels is such sincerity worth?
Mothers do play a crucial role in the marriage of their children.
As a person who has come over, when judging whether two people can enter the marriage hall, they should pay more attention to each other's character, ability and sincerity.
Instead of using the banner of "for your good" to turn children into bargaining chips for money.
As the saying goes, "Marriage is a person's second reincarnation." ”
If you can help your child find a high-quality person to accompany you until you grow old, you are also responsible for your child's life.
As a mother, when your child has difficulty choosing a mate, she should keep her eyes open as a support, not the biggest resistance.
epilogue
"Mothers are good at teaching, and children are good at learning."
A mother's mind is the child's initial education.
When a mother learns to teach her children in the right way and understands how to be a good guide, then the children will never go wrong.
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Poor students are expected to go to Tsinghua University, and the story of self-improvement touched netizens. ——Tsinghua University News, 2017.07.17