Hello, I'm Promise Mom, a second-child town mother who is determined to die from the media after being unemployed.
A few days ago, I listened to a family education lecture, and in the interactive session, there was a slightly older parent, who was answering the questions raised by the lecturer, unhurried, and seemed to be very literate.
Later, when everyone was chatting and asked how many grandchildren she had at home, she said:
Two grandchildren, the older child goes to school in Shanghai, the daughter-in-law accompanies him, and now the second child is the youngest, and he will pick up and drop off first, and when he is a little older, he will also be sent to Shanghai to go to school, and their hukou is there.
At that moment, I suddenly felt so mediocre and incompetent.
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Accept your imperfections
My two children, my sister goes to a public primary school, and my younger brother goes to kindergarten in the village, and I can't even afford to go to a local private school, let alone a school in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen.
10 years ago, I fled Zhengzhou and returned to my hometown to start a business, thinking that I could make a big show and do a good job, but as a result, we were too naïve, and there are still few opportunities in small cities after all.
Later, with the birth of two children, the pressure increased.
Looking back at the past 39 years, it seems that nothing has been accomplished.
Our parents didn't take care of us, and they always let them worry about us.
Life is a mess, and every day is spent in chickens and dogs.
Not to mention the job, which is still unemployed......
Although I still work hard every day, for my dreams, I keep tossing, but it seems that my efforts will never reach the starting point of others.
Gradually, I came to terms with this fact:
Some things can't be obtained by hard work, and everyone has a different starting point, so they are destined to end up on a different trajectory in life.
I choose to accept my imperfections, but I still work the ground, which may also be a kind of growth.
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Accept mediocre self
I'm not a smart person, but in the eyes of everyone, I'm a hard-working, down-to-earth and reliable person.
It has been 16 years since I graduated in 08, and I have worked for a long time in large and small companies, but the salary is still not high, and I only got more than 3,000 wages in my last job, and I am still unemployed......
Sometimes I really feel like I've gone to college in vain.
When I first graduated, I thought that I could finally make money, my parents would no longer have to work so hard for me to go to school, and I would be able to change my family's life by my own efforts.
But now more than ten years have passed, and my career has not made any progress, but it is really difficult for me now.
When looking for a job, you also need to consider the actual situation of the family, after all, the children are young, and it is a fact that you need to pick up and drop off your children to school first.
Moreover, small cities not only have few opportunities, but also generally low wages, and the annual salary of 50,000 yuan is considered high.
What's more, at my age, many companies clearly stipulate that under 35 years old, it is really difficult to break through in the workplace.
Despite this, I still don't want to admit defeat, and I work hard to create opportunities for myself to develop through self-media.
It is said that the threshold of self-media is very low, but it is not so easy to reach the ceiling.
I don't know what kind of breakthroughs will be made in the future, but it's better to try to do the things in front of you than to wait passively.
03
Accept yourself who doesn't accept your fate
I used to feel that it was not easy, but after reading Mr. Yu Hua's "Alive", the book tells an ordinary story:
Fugui has changed from a broad young master to a poor tenant, experiencing bankruptcy, pulling strong men, losing his wife, son, and grandchildren...... and all kinds of tribulations, struggling in misfortune.
In contrast, our suffering is not worth mentioning at all, and there is no comparison.
On the contrary, I consider myself quite lucky, at least my parents are alive, my children are not the best, but they are not bad, and the family atmosphere is very good.
Although my qualifications are mediocre, I have a heart that is uneasy about the status quo.
Although I struggle with the life of chicken feathers all over the floor every day, I also want to tie it into a beautiful feather duster.
At the age of 39, he can still devote himself to new media with enthusiasm, find what he likes, and start a new chapter.
Write at the end
Some people say that what can make oneself better slowly is to persevere day after day after identifying the goal.
Accept our own mediocrity, on the road to becoming better, we never lack action, but more important than action, when we can't see the result, we can still stick to our choices.
It's hard to stick to, but it's cool.
I believe that every time I insist, it is for meeting a better self and for tomorrow!
Come on, mediocre but unresigned to our fate!
END
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About the author:【Promise Mom】
A post-85 generation who focuses on personal growth and self-media dry goods
Write dehydrated dry goods with one hand, and gentle words with the other
A brave woman with two babies who is changing herself through writing