In our lives, everyone will have a few friends of the opposite sex who can talk to. Because work and life are inevitably in contact, and friends of the opposite sex will give them more appropriate advice than friends of the same sex.
But when interacting with friends of the opposite sex, you also need to pay attention to proportion. Because, it doesn't matter if everyone is single when they are young, after all, the opposite sex can take a step back and become friends and further develop into lovers.
But when people reach middle age, they must understand the sense of proportion when interacting with the opposite sex. Because, at this age, most people have already started a family, and getting too close to friends of the opposite sex is likely to bring disaster to their families and lives.
Therefore, if you are middle-aged, such a friend of the opposite sex is best not to contact unless necessary.
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The first love of the year
First love is one of the best memories in everyone's heart. But when Hua died, the first love had already become a passerby in each other's lives.
If people reach middle age and frequently contact their first love, it is likely to cause some unnecessary emotional entanglements. After all, the innocence and beauty of first love are difficult to reproduce in middle age, and both parties already have their own lives and families.
Therefore, in order to avoid hurting yourself and others, it is best to keep a certain distance from your first love.
As George Bernard Shaw said, "First love is a little clumsiness and a lot of curiosity." ”
Under this curiosity, what you can't get is the best, so there are often many people who re-encounter their first love after middle age, and because of the impulse of the moment and the rekindling of the old love of the first love, they finally ruined their originally happy home.
Such an ending is obviously more than worth the loss for us who are entering middle age.
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Friends of the opposite sex who used to have a crush on each other
In the journey of life, we will always meet some friends of the opposite sex who have a good impression of each other. With the passage of time and the vicissitudes of life, this goodwill may also fade.
However, if you contact each other more often, it is very likely that the good feelings that used to be reborn.
After a long time, if there are some problems in your marriage, at this time, the other party will become the object of your confiding and comfort.
At this time, anyone can imagine what is likely to happen between you if this continues. Once you cross the line between men and women because of your affection, the consequences are unimaginable.
Therefore, in order to avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and emotional entanglements, it is best to keep a certain distance from the other party.
There are too many such examples in life, some people meet friends of the opposite sex who used to have a crush on each other when they attend a class reunion in middle age.
Later, under the influence of alcohol, the two made mistakes on impulse, but eventually chose to break up because of family and responsibilities. Such an ending not only hurts each other, but also hurts their respective families.
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A colleague who gets along with you day and night
In the workplace, we tend to have close relationships with our colleagues. However, if the relationship is too close, especially between colleagues of the opposite sex, it can easily lead to some unnecessary misunderstandings and suspicions.
Therefore, when people reach middle age, they should pay more attention to their image and reputation in the workplace to avoid causing trouble to themselves because of excessive intimacy with colleagues of the opposite sex.
We often say: distance produces beauty.
There is some truth in this sentence, whether it is in work or life, we should learn to keep a good distance from the opposite sex when we reach middle age, so as not to put ourselves in an embarrassing situation.
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Always take care of your friends of the opposite sex for work reasons
Some people are always concerned about your life and emotional state on the grounds of work. This kind of care may seem intimate, but it is likely that there are some impure motives hidden in it.
When people reach middle age, they should learn to discern the truth of this kind of concern and avoid falling into emotional difficulties because they are gullible about others.
Cao Xueqin wrote such a sentence in the book "Dream of Red Mansions": "People's hearts are separated from their belly, and they know people and faces but do not know their hearts." ”
It is true that many times, we are not clear about the other party's intention to approach us, and it is always good for us to pay more attention and keep a sense of distance from the other party.
In conclusion, when interacting with people, we should be vigilant to avoid being hurt and troubled by being gullible with others.
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Always find all kinds of reasons to contact your friends of the opposite sex frequently
In life, some people may always find various reasons to contact you frequently, whether it is through phone calls, text messages, social media, etc., this frequent contact will definitely affect your relationship with your lover.
Think about it, if your lover is always receptive to other connections of the opposite sex, how would you feel in your heart?
Therefore, for those friends of the opposite sex who are always looking for various reasons to contact you frequently, we have to be vigilant, because frequent contact for a long time will not only disrupt your life, but also cause irreparable effects on your marriage.
We have an ancient Chinese proverb that says: "If you have nothing to do, you will be a thief." This old proverb succinctly reveals the motives that may be hidden behind frequent contact.
So, for the kind of people who contact you frequently, most of them have other ideas, and for such people, the best way is to refuse contact and keep their distance.
Otherwise, if you are not careful, the final thing that will be ruined is your long-term marriage and family, once you can't get over this emotional entanglement, then all your previous efforts will be in vain.
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In short, people need to be more cautious and rational in their interactions with friends of the opposite sex in middle age. If the above five types of friends of the opposite sex are not necessary, it is best to keep a certain distance to avoid bringing unnecessary trouble to each other's lives.
At the same time, we should also learn to cherish our time and energy, and pay more attention to our own family and life.
We should not be afraid of the dullness in marriage, we must know that the peak of life is just a point, learn to comfort ourselves, and manage our lives with our hearts, which is what we should do.
You know, those things that look fresh and exciting are often exchanged for a great price. As for whether you will be happy after getting it, no one will really tell you.
Please remember: grasp the happiness that belongs to you, and don't be too greedy.