We often say that love must require the joint efforts of both parties.
Yes, there is no reason for love, and it does not mean that if you love me, I must love you.
So, falling in love with someone may require you to have the courage to take a desperate gamble.
However, you must understand: in love, women have "no idea" about you, so they will give you these signals, and don't force them when you receive one.
01
I will always emphasize to you that you are very good friends
When a woman always emphasizes to you that you are good friends, it often means that she has no idea of being in love with you.
She may really value your friendship in her heart, but she doesn't want to escalate the relationship to lovers. At this time, you should respect her choice and not try to forcibly change her mind.
I have seen such a famous saying: "The difference between friendship and love is that friendship is when two people are comfortable together, while love is when two people are happy together." ”
Just like in a TV series I watched, the female protagonist and the male protagonist were originally good friends, but as time passed, the male protagonist developed feelings for the female protagonist, and the female protagonist always adhered to the bottom line of friendship. Eventually, they both found their own happiness.
The falling flowers are intentional, the flowing water is ruthless, there is no true love between the two parties, only the affection of one party, this kind of love is still not good.
02
Always refuses your invitations and doesn't want to be alone with you
If a woman always refuses to go out to dinner or other activities with you, then she is definitely not interested in you. Because she feels that being alone with you will make her feel uncomfortable.
So, in this case, you should give her enough space and don't invite her too often, so as not to make her feel stressed in her heart, which will affect the friendship between you.
There is a good saying: "Don't force others to accept your kindness, sometimes it is also a virtue to respect other people's choices." ”
My friend Xiao Wu, a male colleague in her unit has a crush on her and has invited her to dinner many times, but Xiao Wu has declined every time for various reasons.
Later, we asked her why she refused the invitation, and she said that she didn't like the other person, so she chose to keep her distance from him, which would be good for both parties.
Therefore, if a woman always refuses your invitation, then she must not have that kind of idea for you, so don't force it anymore.
03
The tone is cold and distant, and I don't want to talk to you
When a woman chats with you in a cold and distant tone, or even often does not reply to your messages, this is a sign that she is not interested in you.
She may find it pointless to chat with you or find your topic boring. At this point, you should learn to exit the chat in a playful way and not dwell on it.
A well-known emotional blogger once said: "In the process of pursuing love, you must learn to observe words and colors." When the other person shows apathy and distantness, don't force yourself to sell. ”
Therefore, when you talk to the other person, if her attitude towards you is particularly cold and distant, then don't force yourself to move forward, and in the end you will end up in a sad situation, which is really not worth it.
04
Share with you the male god in your heart, hinting at your out
When a woman often shares her male god with you, it often means that you are just an ordinary friend in her heart.
When she does this, she is actually showing you her criteria for choosing a mate or suggesting that she already has a crush.
If this is the situation between you, you should learn to accept reality and bless her.
We often say that a twisted melon is not sweet, since she already has a favorite person, we should learn to let go and bless, and show a man's generosity and freedom in front of her.
In the movie "The Little Thing of First Love", Xiaoshui has always had a crush on Senior A Liang, but Senior A Liang likes another girl. Although Xiaoshui was sad, she still chose to bless Senior A Liang and the girl he liked.
Xiao Shui will not affect her friendship with Ah Liang by doing this, nor will she put herself in an embarrassing situation.
05
Keep your distance from you and avoid close contact
When a woman keeps her distance from you, it usually means that she has no interest in you. For example, when you inevitably come into contact because of work, she will deliberately keep a certain distance from you, and if you sit together, she must also be separated from you for a while.
There is such a saying, which makes a lot of sense: "In interpersonal communication, learn to respect the wishes of others and do not force others to do things that you are not willing to do." ”
Therefore, when you find that the woman you like is with you, she always deliberately keeps a certain distance from you, and pays special attention to the sense of boundaries, then you don't have any delusions about her, because she doesn't have you in her heart.
In short, on the road of pursuing love, we must learn to observe words and colors, and respect the wishes of others.
When a woman gives you these signals, you should learn to accept reality.
Remember: love cannot be forced, and reluctant love will not be happy.
If she's not interesting to you, don't pursue it. On the contrary, they will lose their bottom line and dignity. It's better to withdraw generously, because those who should come are on the way.