When Arlene entered the counseling room, her face looked exhausted, and her eyes were empty and dull. Before he could say a word, tears flowed. "With only a few months to go until graduation, I felt like I was enveloped in a tense, suffocating atmosphere, constantly feeling distraught. Grades have been declining since the winter break, and math is on a downward trend. For this reason, I was worried all day. The competition was so fierce that everyone didn't dare to slack off, everyone else was paying their full attention and not wasting every moment, and I couldn't concentrate. Now I panic when I do math problems, especially during mock exams, and I don't know what I'm doing at all. Although I have a strong desire to learn, I just can't control myself. How can I participate in this? When I couldn't get into the books, I really felt hopeless. If you want to take a break from school to review and take the exam next year, is it better to have a better chance of success? Her statement was full of anxiety and helplessness.
Because Arlene's psychological pressure mainly comes from the competitive pressure in the learning process, the pathological memory is activated, and a large amount of negative emotions are accumulated without being reasonably released, resulting in strong stress behaviors. I helped her release the negative emotions in her heart through scene reconstruction intervention.
Me: Arlene, why did you want to give up this year's opportunity?
Arlene: Because my grades are declining and my form has not been good, I have tried to change it, but it has not worked. I definitely won't be able to get into college this year. It's so hard to live in a family of teachers.
Me: How you worked, can you talk about it?
Arlene: I've been cheering myself up, treating every exam as a graduation exam, especially a math exam, and I keep saying to myself before the exam, "This is what I'm good at, and I'm sure I'll do well." But the reality is quite the opposite.
Because of test anxiety, Arlene had difficulty falling asleep again, which further increased her anxiety level and intention, and the two interacted and seriously affected her studies and life. I intervened through scene reconstruction to make her heart happy and relaxed. Only in the learning process to obtain a sense of self-achievement and "peak experience", learning can be energetic, and the results can be significantly improved.
It's easy to get frustrated if you set goals that are too ambitious, too far out of your reach, or completely unrealistic. Learning is not to bite the expected goal, but to grasp the process in a down-to-earth manner when paying attention to it, only when the process has no regrets, the results and goals will be achieved naturally.
At this time, some of Arlene's distorted ideas and thinking have begun to be exposed, and her academic frustration makes her want to escape from the reality crisis in an escaping way.
Me: What do you think you should be in order to pass your graduation exam?
Arlene: The mentality should always be stable and optimistic, the academic performance should continue to improve, at least not slip, the concentration should be highly concentrated, not disturbed, and the practice needs to be carried out according to the requirements, in short, the current situation is not ideal.
Me: Can you tell me more about how bad it is?
Arlene: Recently, my ranking has dropped to more than 300 in the whole school, and I used to be in the top 50 in the whole school. In particular, the math score is not up to the excellent grade. The progress of other students is very obvious, and the concentration of learning is also very high.
Me: Have you been doing well since you started school?
Arlene: Not really. When I first entered high school, because I didn't adapt to it, my learning efficiency couldn't improve, and my mood was still sluggish, so I only ranked 40th in the class during the midterm exam. However, later, after his hard work and adjustment of his mentality, his grades slowly came up, and he was able to rank in the top few in the class.
Me: Do you feel like the academic gap between you and your classmates is widening? How did you find out that they were all serious about it?
Arlene: They were so engrossed in the book that they didn't move, and they didn't see any signs of distraction or irritability.
She muttered to herself: It turns out that I am not the only one who has this kind of trouble!
Me: Yes, everybody can have problems of one kind or another.
Me: People are depressed when they are difficult, let alone facing a big exam like the graduation exam? It's normal to be a little nervous and worried. Don't be too yourself, in fact, you are already very good, and it is impossible for people to be without shortcomings.
Arlene: It's true that I often feel a lot of stress and can't find a solution to it, so I just sulk.
Me: The problems you have are developmental issues that are common to everyone your age.
Arlene: That's true, during this period of time, I have been studying nervously and nervously, and I am worried that I will appear in the exam when I encounter a problem that I can't do, which reduces my problem-solving ability.
Me: Are you saying that the current state is caused by the pressure of graduation exams? Man is not troubled by the thing itself, but by his perception of it.
I found Arlene's pathological memories in a subconscious state, and I had to memorize every morning in junior high school, and there were many assignments to be completed, and the teacher would check the recitation. If she can't memorize it, she has to go to the teacher to re-memorize it during class, which makes her feel very nervous, very worried, very anxious, and afraid that she will not be able to memorize it. I crave rest. But when I think about my parents' expectations, I feel like I'm being pulled forward by someone, and I can't stop. I restructured Arlene's pathological memories, and her anxious mood stabilized a lot. Let Arlene gradually master the method of adjusting her emotions, change herself, and tolerate her weaknesses.
After more than two months of memory restructuring intervention, she gradually began to see Arlene's face begin to show a confident smile, and she began to learn to face and adapt to real life independently. I encouraged Arlene to cultivate her own joie de vivre, often take the time to reach out to others, and gradually change her closed lifestyle, and later Arlene was admitted to her dream university.