#头条创作挑战赛#
In the hustle and bustle of market life, I came across a scene that was quite revealing:
A young man hurriedly rode an electric car through, but was inadvertently blocked by an uncle who was moving slowly. The young man's impatience instantly exploded, and he scolded sharply: "Can't you see anyone? Let's get it! ”
The air seemed to freeze, and the conflict was on the verge of breaking out.
But to everyone's surprise, instead of getting angry, the uncle apologized in a gentle tone and reminded the young man to be careful on the road. This scene made the young man's face flush and full of shame.
The uncle's high wind and bright festival undoubtedly gave us a vivid interpersonal lesson. Faced with a possible dispute, he chose to suppress his instinctive impulses and was not swayed by his emotions.
As the master of psychology Adler said, "Maturity is not about getting older, but about learning how to reconcile with the world." ”
Uncle's approach is a vivid interpretation of this sentence.
Every intersection between people is essentially a mutual temptation and understanding in the depths of human nature.
If you focus only on yourself, you will inevitably be isolated in the ocean of relationships.
On the contrary, if we can jump out of the self-centered framework and try to consider the problem from the other person's point of view, we can effectively resolve many unnecessary contradictions and conflicts. This is not only a manifestation of wisdom, but also a sign of maturity.
"Understanding others is the only way to win people's hearts."
In the delicate chess game of interpersonal relationships, walking against the selfish nature and choosing understanding and tolerance is often the secret path to harmonious coexistence. This is not only respect for others, but also the sublimation of self-cultivation.
In the fast-paced, stressful world of modern life, this wisdom is especially valuable, reminding us that true maturity begins with understanding human nature and empathy for others.
Overcome arrogance
When discussing which traits are untimely, a high-praise comment hits the nail on the head: "I think too highly of myself, I treat others like a mustard, and I am extremely arrogant." ”
This is a taboo in the social arena, as the old saying goes: "Full of losses, humble benefits." ”
The book "Manage People in Advance, Manage People to Manage Hearts" tells a fable-like story: a new employee who is rich in learning five cars is quickly promoted to department head, and at first he is humble and courteous, and he is full of respect for senior colleagues.
However, as time went on, he found that he surpassed these "veterans" in some aspects of his skills, and he began to inflate himself, openly flaunting his talents and pointing fingers at others.
Faced with a colleague who made a mistake, he gloated: "You should have listened to me a long time ago." ”
When he sees others working overtime, he sneers at them for their inefficiency; Even in the face of Shang Jia's work plan, you have to pick the bones in the egg and show your cleverness. Gradually, the people around him turned away from him.
Eventually, even the boss realized the shortcomings of the young executive's arrogance and fired him. It's a vivid lesson in the high price of arrogance.
The cautionary words in "The Three-Body Problem" are deafening: "Weakness and ignorance are not obstacles to survival, arrogance is." ”
This is not only the profound philosophy of science fiction, but also a reflection of the real world. Those who pride themselves on their talents tend to ignore the fact that personal achievements are only a drop in the ocean, and that what they know and see is not enough to control the breadth and depth of life.
The water is deep, the flow is slow, and the head is low when the ears are full. True wisdom lies in reining in the edge and treating others with an equal heart.
Only by abandoning arrogance and embracing humility can we win the respect and closeness of others.
In the intertwined web of people, arrogance is like an invisible wall, blocking understanding and empathy, and humility is the key to opening the heart and mind.
Let us remember that in the journey of life, there is no nobler gesture than to walk a far-reaching road with a normal heart.
Curbing greed
In the profound wisdom of the Zhuangzi, there is such a warning saying: "Greed for money leads to danger, greed for power leads to exhaustion." ”
This is not only a warning to the ancient sages, but also a profound warning to the people of today that span thousands of years.
It tells us that the excessive pursuit of material things and power will only lead people to danger and ultimately reap the consequences.
In the story, Qiao Chunyan in "The World" is a character blinded by greed.
Her friendship with Zhou Bingkun began with an innocent childhood sweetheart, but it gradually became distorted because of her philistine and greed.
used the reputation of the Zhou family to pave the way for himself, and even when faced with the benefits of demolition, he did not hesitate to ask Zhou Bingkun's mayoral brother to open the back door in an attempt to make additional profits.
When her wish failed, instead of introspection, she chose to take revenge, which completely tore the veil of friendship between her and the Zhou family, and also exposed the ugliness of her heart.
In stark contrast to this is Zhou Bingkun, who has consistently maintained simplicity and loyalty.
When his friends were in trouble, he lent a helping hand, not only helping them find a job, but also lending his old house generously, interpreting "adversity sees the truth" with practical actions.
As the saying goes, "Plant melons and get melons, plant beans and get beans", many years later, when he encountered difficulties, those who had been helped gave back, which was the best reward for his kindness and generosity.
Charlie Munger's words of wisdom reaffirm this truth: "Even if you have the ability to calculate shrewdly, if you cannot free yourself from the shackles of desire, you will eventually go to destruction." ”
This is not only an insight into the investment philosophy, but also a profound guide to the path of life.
The reason why many people struggle in life is often because they are too calculating and forget the power of sincerity and kindness.
As everyone knows, in the process of this calculation, what I lost the most was my inner peace and the trust of the outside world.
Therefore, being a kind person is the choice of the wise.
Don't covet undivided blessings, don't covet unwarranted profits, and think about others with a broad mind, such behavior will eventually inadvertently accumulate priceless hearts and good luck for you.
As the ancients said: "Virtue is not lonely, there must be neighbors." ”
In this complex world, maintaining purity and kindness is perhaps the wisest philosophy of life.
Resist selfishness
In a far-reaching animated short film, the scalper and the red bull meet on a single-plank bridge, and the two sides stubbornly refuse to give in, and finally end up in the river together.
This short picture profoundly reveals a truth: fighting will hurt both, and giving will be a win-win situation.
The wisdom of life lies in understanding that giving in is not a sign of weakness, but another form of display of strength.
Lao Tzu Youyun: "The reason why Jianghai can be the king of a hundred valleys is because of his goodness." ”
This sentence aptly reflects the clever strategy in interpersonal communication - taking the initiative to suffer losses, but in fact it is a strategy of retreating into advance. Beneath the seemingly lost appearance, there is often a broader space for gain.
The story of Xin Fengxia is a vivid interpretation of this wisdom.
In the face of her partner's illness, she resolutely took the lead alone, but refused to enjoy the glory alone when she was full of praise, and insisted on advancing and retreating with her partner.
Her choice came from a senior's point: "The protagonist needs to think of the supporting role and leave a seat for others in order to build a stage together." This not only showed her open-mindedness, but also paved the way for her to success.
Kazuo Inamori's theory that "altruism is really high-level self-interest" is like a mirror, reflecting the glorious side of human nature.
It tells us that generosity and sharing are the causes of good that will eventually bear sweet fruit inadvertently.
People's hearts are the most accurate scales, and every time you give and take, you are silently recorded.
In this fast-paced society, we should learn to be generous.
Helping others not only warms others, but also paves up more possibilities for one's own life journey.
As the old saying goes, "Give someone a rose, and your hand will have a fragrance." ”
Every time you reach out, you are paving a path to spiritual abundance for yourself.
Therefore, a truly wise man understands that on the single-plank bridge of life, timely concessions are not cowardice, but profound wisdom and pattern.
While pursuing personal interests, we do not forget to benefit others, such a philosophy of life can enable us to win more companions and supporters on the road of life through ups and downs, and reach the other side of success and happiness together.
Fight against jealousy
"Jealousy, as described by the ancient Greek poet Homer, is a double-edged sword, which hurts others while also pointing the other side of the sharp edge at itself."
This metaphor profoundly reveals the self-destructive nature of the jealous mentality.
When someone witnesses the success of others, instead of wanting to forge ahead, they have evil thoughts and try to block their progress with a stumbling block, but they do not realize that such behavior is tantamount to holding a torch against the wind and will eventually lead to a burn.
There is a story about a relative who shared his business wisdom.
When a new seafood market opened nearby, many businesses flocked to it, and he joined it. At the beginning of the market, a store dominated the market because of its abundant goods.
Faced with this situation, other stall owners not only did not reflect on the improvement, but became jealous and adopted a short-sighted strategy of price reduction competition, intending to drag down their opponents, but the result was a lose-lose situation and reaped the consequences.
However, this relative chose a different path. When the shop was overwhelmed, he reached out and helped them.
This act of kindness not only won the gratitude of the owner, but also opened the door to cooperation between the two parties.
One person is responsible for the supply chain and customer sources, and the other focuses on product handling, and the two complement each other's strengths, and ultimately achieve a win-win situation.
This is illustrated by the philosopher Aristotle, who said, "Friendship is the same soul living in two bodies." ”
Cooperation, not confrontation, is the right path to success.
"The wise make each other accomplish, and the stupid drag each other down." This old saying speaks to the true meaning of interpersonal communication.
In the world, no one can walk in isolation. To speculate maliciously about others is to imprison oneself in the dark abyss.
On the contrary, learning to appreciate the light of others and give sincere support can not only illuminate the path of others, but also make your own world wider and brighter.
Therefore, when facing people who are comparable to or even surpass themselves, the correct attitude should be to embrace rather than reject.
As Socrates advocated, "I know only one thing, and that is that I know nothing." ”
By learning from the best and fighting side by side with the capable, we can learn from the strengths of others and make up for our own shortcomings, so as to move forward steadily on the road of growth.
Remember, true strength comes from an open mind and continuous learning, not from narrow envy and needless competition.
Stepping into the world, the journey of personal growth is nothing more than a series of trials and errors.
One day, you will deeply understand:
Everything in the world is not determined by our will; The minds of others cannot be easily changed.
It's a life lesson that teaches us to conform rather than force.
Only by introspecting and sometimes going against the river of humanity can we find the path of least resistance and achieve efficient growth.
As Lao Tzu said: "The opposite is the movement of the Tao." ”
Rebelling against oneself is actually the wisdom of inward exploration, and the best response to external disturbances.
With a single click, the focus is not only on the words, but also on the expectation of self-transformation.
May you not only grow into a wise person who perceives people's hearts in this complex world, but also have a life journey full of color and deep meaning.
Remember, every time you challenge the boundaries of humanity, you are a ladder to a higher realm.