In the relationship, in order to capture the heart of a man, many women always dig out their hearts and lungs and try their best to please. In the end, I found that no matter how active I was, I couldn't get my heart moved; No matter how much you please, it will be empty after all.
After a woman falls in love, she can give her whole heart to a man, and she will also be very dependent on each other, and even give up everything for the sake of a man. Although this is a manifestation of deep love for each other, it is also destined for this woman's future suffering.
For a man, she will not have the same return for your unconditional dedication and dependence, cherish you and protect you, on the contrary, you will become his psychological burden, and the man thinks that a woman can sacrifice everything for her, and this woman is not worthy of his cherishment.
Therefore, when a woman loves a man deeply, she must have her own bottom line. Women should keep in mind that no matter how much you love a man, you must not do these 4 things for him!
01
Love without ego
As the saying goes: when the moon is full, it is lost, and when the water is full, it overflows. It's the same with loving someone, love should be moderate, three points love yourself, seven points love others, so that you don't get hurt too much.
But in reality, there are many "love brain" women, once they fall into a relationship, they only have others in their eyes, and they no longer have themselves. Star Zhang Meng is like this, just because her ex-boyfriend said that her nose was not good-looking, she went for plastic surgery.
This kind of love is blind and dangerous, too much love is a burden for men, and your lack of personality will also make men lose interest in you, and in the end it will only push away the person you love faster.
Therefore, women must leave three points of reason in their relationship, love others first, and never lose themselves for a person, so that even if you break up one day, you still have yourself.
02
Lose hobbies and give up jobs
It's not that easy to fall in love, everyone has his temper, everyone has their own hobbies.
For a woman, no matter how good a man you marry, you must not easily lose your hobbies, hobbies can fill the blanks and emptiness of life, and losing hobbies is equivalent to losing a part of life.
In this world, there are really too many women who give up their jobs for the sake of men and families, and women really don't feel overconfident that they have made sacrifices for their families and men, and men will be moved. Because no one can guarantee that a man will love you forever, until the last moment, everything is unknown.
Women, always remember to leave a way out for yourself, and don't wait until the end to find that there is no way out.
03
Reluctant to spend money for themselves, not focusing on improving themselves
There is a famous saying: the best investment is to invest in yourself. However, many women give their time and money to their husbands and children after marriage, but they are reluctant to give a little to themselves.
Buying clothes is too expensive, buying cosmetics is too expensive, traveling is hesitant, and enrolling in classes is hesitant...... What are your hobbies? Lost it. Former social circles? Cut off.
I don't have time to dress up on the outside, and I don't pay attention to improving the inside, not only do I live like I hate it, but I often become a housewife who doesn't understand anything in the eyes of her husband, so why bother?
A wise woman who knows how to invest time and money, keep learning, keep improving, and let herself exude charm from the inside out.
04
Easily forgive a man for his mistakes
In the relationship, making small mistakes appropriately and making noises can enhance the relationship between the two, but for the mistakes of men involving the bottom line, they must not be easily forgiven, otherwise it is the woman herself who suffers.
The mistake that touches the bottom line can not be easily forgiven, since the mistake is knowingly committed and has to bear the corresponding consequences, if a woman is soft-hearted and repeatedly forgives, she is helping to abuse, and it will only hurt herself.
For men to make mistakes, many women don't have the courage not to forgive him, and many times they think about using their generosity and tolerance to tolerate everything about men, thinking about influencing them, which will only make men repeat their old tricks.
When a man makes a serious mistake, a woman should think clearly, to prevent such a thing from happening again, it is necessary to solve the problem fundamentally, and it is useless to cry about grievances or forgive forcibly.
05
Emotional message
Feelings are sometimes so strange, things you desperately want to grasp, but often more easily lost. And you think there is little hope, but you inadvertently have feedback.
In a relationship, the tighter you grip, the more pressure you put on the other person. And the other party will also have no fear because of your preference, because they think you will not leave, so they will not care about you.
A good relationship is always relaxed, intimate when it should be intimate, and leave a space for each other when it should be left to make each other comfortable, so that the relationship can be more stable.
It's still the same sentence: remember to love yourself before loving others, only if you know how to love yourself, others will love you.
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