Parents play a vital role in their child's development. They are the guides of children's learning and development, and their words and actions have a profound impact on children. However, during parenting, sometimes parents may inadvertently say something that hurts their child's heart. Although these sentences may be well-intentioned or unconscious, they can have a negative impact on the child that cannot be ignored. Therefore, in order to protect and cultivate a healthy, confident, and positive personality, parents should take care to avoid using the following ten words that hurt their child's heart.
1. "You're so stupid!" : Criticizing and belittling a person is one of the easiest ways to make them lose their self-confidence. When we express dissatisfaction with our children, choose appropriate and constructive ways to express them and encourage them to correct their mistakes.
2. "You'll never be able to do it!" : Giving children a sense of failure and instilling despair will only prevent them from trying new things and developing their potential. Encouragement and support can motivate them to overcome difficulties and achieve their goals.
3. "You're like that smart kid in the XX family!" : Comparing a child to other peers will only make them feel frustrated and feel inferior. Everyone has unique talents and abilities, and when developing self-esteem, focus on what makes each person unique and encourage them to be aggressive.
4. "I regret having you!" Any form of treatment that emphasizes the existence of denial or regret is itself a huge blow to the child's creativity, values and sense of security. Remember, positive expressions such as "I love you", "I support you", and "I'm lucky to have you" will be more conducive to good intimacy.
5. "Don't be pushy!" When we tell a child who is going through a setback or a difficult time to give up and persevere, we are in fact weakening their problem-solving skills and the courage and perseverance needed to stay the course and complete the task.
6. "Didn't do well in this exam? So what are you still studying? Education should focus on overall quality and not just on high or low scores. If we associate learning with failure and believe that achievement depends only on test scores, we ignore the opportunities offered for exploration, creativity, and other non-academic aspects.
7. "You're too fat/too skinny!" : Commenting on a person's physical appearance can easily cause problems such as body image anxiety or anorexia/bulimia, and damage their self-esteem and healthy development. "Health" should be seen as the result of a combination of factors, rather than relying solely on physical appearance.
8. "Don't cry, the boy has ambitions!" (Male or female): Emotional expression is within the normal range of everyone's response, regardless of age and gender; Negative emotions do not lead to increased emotional intelligence, but can lead to greater suffering
9. "No matter what, don't be squeamish": Emphasize the characteristics of traditional roles (both male and female) Even if some cultural transmissions have changed, the educated cannot imitate the Eastern and Western conceptual systems.
10. "From today onwards, there will be no medals and no prizes": Participants in sports competitions (including the general public) may not always get medals for some reasons, and even get prizes such as certain types of products by participating in activities; Proper dissemination of information (e.g. halving of class registration fees) needs to be published within a reasonable time frame It is a mistake to see if there is some kind of realistic return.
In conclusion, parents need to be careful with their words and pay close attention to how what they say affects their growing children. Proper guidance builds good character, promotes positive action, and stabilizes emotional well-being.