That being said, his behavior may still make you feel that something is wrong, and you will still feel very upset.
Today, I will give you a few practical criteria to help you judge whether he really wants to return to the family.
At the same time, I will also tell you where the crux of the problem lies.
Whether you're dealing with an extramarital affair or your marital business, the key is to get to know the man.
So, how do you know if a man is really back in the family and not just talking?
In fact, it can be observed from a few details.
The first thing to look at is the cost.
As I said before, whether a man is loyal or not often depends on the cost of his cheating.
In other words, if he didn't pay any substantial cost after he was discovered by you, do you think he will really return? This is unlikely.
For example, the cost of money, did he take the initiative to buy you something?
Have you put your property in your hands or made your family's property situation transparent?
In terms of actions, has he started to help the child more, such as helping the child with homework?
Can he show you his phone at any time? Did you get home early after work? These are the basis for judgment.
The cost of time is the same. Did he hang out with you on the weekends?
Or do you spend more time with you and your children?
To give another simple example, is he still the same as before, with a lot of socializing every day, and he is too busy to see anyone?
A girl had been in such a situation before. After her husband cheated, he told her every day that he was busy.
Her husband is indeed a busy man, a businessman, and has a lot of socializing every day.
Then I told her a way to try it, and I told her, "Tell your husband, can I go to dinner tonight?" Just this sentence can test his sincerity.
If he dodges and finds all kinds of reasons not to let you go, then don't you understand in your heart? If he is willing to take you there, isn't that also paying for your time?
So, be sure to see if he pays you a cost. If there is no cost, it is not a sincere return.
You have to remember this truth.
The second criterion is physical contact.
The mouth can be said to be fantastic, but the body language cannot be disguised.
Physical contact here is not just about that aspect of contact, but also about the little things in everyday life.
For example, if he is sitting on the couch and you approach him and want to be closer to him, he immediately gets up and walks away.
For example, you want to have some intimacy with him, but he avoids you.
Can this situation be considered a sincere return?
At most, this situation can only be regarded as him temporarily perfunctory and coping with you after you find out that he is cheating.
The real return should be to be willing to maintain close physical contact with you, not to avoid it.
The third way to judge is to look at the feelings.
What does it feel like? It's a woman's sixth sense.
Think back, how did you find out that a man was cheating?
It's definitely not the two of them passing in front of you that you just noticed, and you're too slow to react.
It must be that you feel something is wrong and that there is something wrong with the relationship between you, and then you go to the bottom and find out that there is a problem.
It is the same whether he actually returns.
If he still goes his own way every day after cheating, you will feel very insecure.
This insecurity is actually an answer for you.
Whether he really returns or not, just look at these three things.
But here's the point, what if you find out that he didn't really come back?
Don't rush to find him a theory, and don't forward my video to him, saying, "Look, the teacher said that you didn't really return." ”
It's useless. You should ask yourself a question: Did I change anything after he cheated?
If you don't change anything, just stand on the moral high ground and accuse him: "You cheated, you were wrong, what should you do." ”
It's really hard to get him back for good.
For example, if you fail the first exam and come back and don't do anything, you say that the examiner is not good, and then you take the test again, and the result may still be the same.
Therefore, we have to take the initiative to reap good results.
If you don't know what to do, I suggest you start by taking one of our courses, such as "Getting an Affair Done".
Only when you have a clear idea in your mind and master the right method can you solve the problem.
After the baptism of wind and rain, we can cherish those calm and beautiful times even more.
No matter how many twists and turns we go through, as long as we insist on growing up, I believe that after the wind and rain, we will eventually usher in a clear sky.