Yesterday, July 1st, was the day we paid our hardship fee to my sister.
I transferred 1,000 yuan to my sister in the group.
I said, "Sister hasn't confiscated it yet."
Ma Tuan'er: How much do you and your mother need to live on a month?
Me: I don't know. Two or three thousand.
Ma Tuan'er: I'm just talking about eating.
Me: yes, I also said eating.
Ma Tuan'er: Two or three thousand can't be used. How much money does our family use, more than 1,000 yuan a month.
Me: You're compared to our family. What do we eat, what do we eat in Harbin? Twenty yuan a pound of cherries, buy every day, open to eat. Look, have I ever bought cherries? Expensive fruits, never bought once.
Ma Tuan'er: Then why don't you buy it?
Me:~
Ma Tuan'er asked well, why don't I buy it?
Me: I'm stressed out to be with you, and I'm stressed about spending money.
Ma Tuan'er: I didn't say I wouldn't let you buy it, I won't carry this pot.
Yes, Ma Tuan'er didn't seem to say that he wouldn't let me buy it, nor did he quarrel with me because I bought anything to eat.
So why am I stressed? Am I sick?
Me: I went to Nanning and Beihai by myself this time, and I had the most enjoyable food. I ate whatever I wanted, and I bought a total of three durians.
Ma Tuan'er: I didn't stop you from buying it.
Ma Tuan'er is also telling the truth, he didn't let me buy it, but with him, why should I spend money and have pressure?
Last spring, I traveled with Ma Tuaner by car and arrived in Nanchang.
Coming out of King Teng's Pavilion, I was ready to go to lunch.
There was a fruit shop on the side of the road, and the smell of durian wafted out, and I was hooked. Unconsciously walked over, asked for the price, and then picked a durian and said: I want this.
Ma Tuan'er stood on the side and blurted out: Did you really buy it?
I'm also a cautious person, sensitive and suspicious.
Depending on my personality, I would get angry and say, "No." Then he turned around and walked away.
That day, it happened that I was emotionally stable and strong inside, and I said, "Yes, I'll buy this."
Then I paid (1780 yuan, I forgot the specifics), and I took the durian to the restaurant.
It may also be that I am too careful, and I think Ma Tuan'er is depressed.
It was last year, and I still remember it, which means it had an impact on me. Of course, it can't be ruled out that I was careful and thought about Ma Tuan'er crookedly.
However, if Ma Tuan'er is generous, I came back from outside and said that I spent 1,000 yuan today, he didn't ask me carefully where I spent it, but "clicked" to transfer 2,000 to me, and said, "The flower is gone, I'll transfer 2,000 to you, so old, buy whatever you want, you are not the loser." ”
Then I don't think I'm going to be pressured to spend money, right?
I checked it on the Internet, and Ma Tuan'er started to manage money in 2019, and from 2019 onwards, my salary was handed over to Ma Tuan'er. He gave me 1,000 yuan of pocket money every month.
It's been five years in the blink of an eye, and in five years, I've sat down with such a problem: in front of Ma Tuan'er, there is pressure to spend money.
Last year, I went back to Harbin to take care of my mother, and my brother and sister didn't give me 1,000 yuan per month, a total of 3,000 yuan, plus my own 1,000 yuan pocket money, a total of 4,000 yuan per month.
In Harbin, Ma Tuan'er is not around, I spend money openly, so it is comfortable.
Not counting vegetables, just buying fruit costs twenty or thirty yuan a day. Fruits are eaten as soon as they are on the market, which is more expensive to buy. It's not about tasting it, it's about eating as much as you want.
Besides, spending money is like running water, and when you add up, you will be much older.
The above pictures are part of the non-eating and drinking expenses when I take care of my mother in Harbin in 2023.
It doesn't count buying vegetables, fruits, rice, flour, oil, etc.
It's just a mess, I can't see how much money there is, and when it comes together, by July, it has cost more than 6,000.
Later, I bought a used car and spent another 25,000.
It took a car trip to Zhenbao Island with Ma Tuan'er and spent thousands.
Anyway, it took a lot.
Ma Tuan'er asked me a few times: You spent 4,000 yuan a month? It doesn't cost that much.
That's why I keep accounts, I'm confused, and I don't know why the money is gone.
I don't keep accounts, people asked, I really can't say one, two, three.
Alas, with Ma Tuan'er, I have pressure to spend money. If Ma Tuan'er was around, I wanted to buy something, so I walked around the supermarket or vegetable market and came out empty-handed.
Maybe I'm the one who is sick.