The information is extracted from the Internet; Original Fenzhou Nostalgia Editorial Department ■ / Kong Fanjin
Kong Fanjin was born in 1972 in Luocheng Village, Fenyang, and now works in Fenyang Museum.
Speaking of family style, I also reminisce about my family. My family is a very ordinary, very ordinary small family. My father was born in Luocheng Village, Fenyang, a rural area at that time, where materials were scarce, and most families were still living in poverty. Fortunately, my grandfather was also a literate person in the village at that time, so he also gave my father the preaching and edification of the sage poetry. The current situation of poverty also made my father secretly strive to change his destiny, and the school environment in the village was also poor, and when my father was 18 years old, he chose to become a soldier.
After being a soldier, my father worked hard, performed well in training, studied cultural knowledge hard in his spare time, and was rated as a good soldier every year during his military life, because of his excellent performance, he was promoted to deputy squad leader, squad leader, deputy platoon leader, platoon leader, originally in the army There is a broader world of development, because of marriage, Dad chose to be discharged from the army and demobilized, returned to Fenyang hometown and assigned to Fenyang Chemical Plant, after work, Dad is also full of enthusiasm and diligence, and became a workshop director after one year of work, and then was transferred to the newly formed catalyst factory, Because of his down-to-earth and positive work style, he has become the director of the factory office and the chairman of the labor union in the factory. In our eyes, Dad is a person who takes his work seriously and responsibly, and works hard. The father in the family is responsible for the family, diligent and thrifty.
My mother is a standard rural woman, but my mother is also a person with a relatively high level of education in the village, at that time it was still a people's commune collective system, and all the members needed to go to the field to participate in collective labor and earn work points. In my memory, every few days, members of the club would come to check the correct work, and every now and then, our family would be crowded. Although the workload is heavy, my mother has never made mistakes or made mistakes for others, and has been highly praised by the members and cadres of the brigade.
Mom's student days (front row, left)
My mother is very hardworking, and her simple home is spotless and tidy at all times. Our clothes, my mother always washes them clean, fresh and refreshing. Mom is very good at living, even if it is a patch of clothes, she will use the color of the patch to splice it into a beautiful ornament. There is also a school bag made for my younger sisters, which is made of leftover fabrics such as square, round, diamond-shaped, and special-shaped, and evolves into a beautiful work. When we were very young, I remember that my mother would always say: waste food, the dragon in the sky will come down to arrest people. So we all know how to abide by thrift, be proud of thrift, and be ashamed of waste from an early age.
Grandma's family and we are in the same village, and eating dumplings was a very rare thing at that time, except for the New Year, which is usually a festival. Every time we eat dumplings, the three of us sisters are watching our mother boil the dumplings into the boiling iron pot one by one, watching the dumplings tumble up and down, and their saliva is also swallowed, and finally watching my mother drain the white and fat dumplings into the plate, the three of us sisters leaned over, feeling that the stomach was already growling, at this time my mother first divided the dumplings into a bowl, and said to me, first send it to your grandfather, I will be very depressed in an instant, but in fact, I also know that my mother makes something rare and delicious every time, will be the first to send one to grandparents. When I ran home at the speed of the 100-meter sprint, there were not many dumplings on the plate, and it turned out that my mother sent my eldest sister to deliver a bowl to the neighbor's house.
There would also be neighbors who brought us dumplings, and when we put down the dumplings, my mother would put a small half bowl of salt in the bowl where the dumplings were delivered. Later, I realized that my mother paid attention to courtesy, and at that time, there was a shortage of materials, so I could only go back to the past with some salt.
My mother is the eldest in my grandmother's house, with three younger brothers and two younger sisters. is not only filial piety to parents, but also the responsibility of the boss, what is the matter with the younger brothers and sisters, the mother is busy running forward, both money and effort. The third uncle was the youngest, and his mother gave up the small family to take care of everyone, and persuaded his father to take out the small amount of money in the family to help the third uncle build a house, buy furniture, and marry a daughter-in-law. Driven by my mother, the whole family is united and harmonious, and the family is harmonious.
Mom when she was young (left)
When I was a child, I was looking forward to the New Year, except for wearing new clothes and setting off firecrackers, I could eat delicious food that I couldn't usually eat. In the first month, a string of relatives, back and forth, guests came to the house, my mother was always very enthusiastic, usually careful and calculating, there were guests who were not stingy, under the skillful hands of my mother, a table of sumptuous meals was instantly shining. My mother would always tell us in advance: if the elders don't move the chopsticks during the meal, we can't move; Don't laugh when eating, and don't pout; You can't use chopsticks to pick and pull around on the plate, you can't point chopsticks at others, etc. From an early age, we have developed the habit of behaving in a proper manner.
At that time, the conditions of rural people were still relatively poor, because my father was at work and belonged to the economic household in the village, so my family often had neighbors to borrow money, and my mother always responded to requests and never refused anyone.
From time to time, there will be beggars to beg, and when my mother meets her, she will always take out the food at home, or give some small money. We don't understand it, and our family is not rich, so my mother will tell us that no one can help people when they are in trouble, and when they can help them, they are quite pitiful.
Dad when he was in the army (right)
Medals received by Dad
I remember when I was in elementary school, I once bought an iron pencil case, and I remember that the pen case was the pattern of Sun Wukong making trouble in the heavenly palace, and the inside of the pen case was a multiplication formula, which I particularly cherished. As a result, my classmates at the same table accidentally touched my new pencil case to the ground, and the stool was pressed again, and it became a flat piece in an instant. After my mother found out, she said to me, your table mate's family conditions are very poor, and you are usually good friends, so you don't have to worry about it, ask others to pay compensation, and your father is about to pay his salary, and then buy you a new one.
My mother was very strict with us, and after school, she would first supervise us to finish our homework, and then ask us what we had learned and what we had learned today. Although the family's economic situation is average, my mother will always buy us a lot of books, and at that time, my own comic book villain books, stacks and stacks, also developed a good habit of reading. At that time, the teachers and teaching conditions in the county were good, and my parents worked hard to let me go to school in the city to receive a better education, and when I was 13 years old, I lived alone in a strange place and started a new way of studying. Washing clothes alone, going to eat in the canteen of my father's factory alone, it was also from this time that I learned to be self-reliant, self-motivated and study harder.
When I was in junior high school, during the holidays of each semester, my mother would always let me go to work with my third uncle, who took a civil engineering team, and the most impressive thing was the work of putting bricks, that is, taking one or more bricks at a time and throwing them to the master who laid bricks on the shelf. When the strength was too strong, he threw it elsewhere, and after a while, his hands were blistered with blood. I am young, and at the end of the day, I am discouraged, and the blood blisters on my hands hurt my heart. At that time, I couldn't figure out why my mother didn't feel sorry for me and let me do such a hard job at a young age. When I grew up, I understood my mother's hard work. Although it was very hard at that time, I understood that it is not easy to make money, learned the spirit of hardship, and strengthened my determination to study hard.
Under the teaching and influence of our parents, although we are all ordinary members, we all abide by the principles, work diligently, abide by the bottom line, and shine in our ordinary industries and positions; In life, he is also honest and down-to-earth, courteous and grateful, kind to others, and filial piety.
Diligence and thrift are the foundation of governing the family, harmony is the foundation of the Qi family, prudence is the foundation of protecting the family, poetry and books are the foundation of the family, and etiquette and filial piety are the foundation of the heirloom. A good family style is the foundation of a family, in the nourishment of daily life influence and discipline, children will have upbringing, understand etiquette, the future will be more brilliant, and the family will be more prosperous.