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Will you choose someone you like, or the right person to marry?
Maybe when you are in your twenties, you will make a choice very sincerely, and if you want to be with the person you love deeply, the most important premise is the heartbeat. But when you mature a little more, something changes.
Adults don't choose, they want it all.
In fact, liking and suitability cannot be a single choice question, and the two must be combined to have a long-lasting and happy relationship.
During a relationship, if a woman identifies with you, her behavior will be different.
She will take the initiative to do these two things, if she occupies it, it means that she wants to marry you, and the boy must understand.
01: Will take the initiative to understand your family style
In fact, many girls nowadays do not particularly yearn for marriage, they will choose to fall in love, but they will not impulsively enter family life.
Even if you like someone very much, you will calmly manage your feelings.
If after you have been dating for a period of time, she begins to take the initiative to understand your family style, and will carefully ask your parents about their living habits and the way they treat people, which means that she has a clearer plan for the future.
A girl who is just in love with you and doesn't think too much about you in her heart doesn't think too much.
She doesn't care about your family situation at all, because you only get along for a short time.
Whether your parents are good or not, whether your family style is good or not, has nothing to do with her. Only a woman who really identifies with you will change her attitude, because marriage is inherently risky.
She needs to know more in advance before she can feel safe.
Xiaoman (pseudonym) has been dating her boyfriend for almost three years, and the year before she first fell in love, she actually had no intention of getting married. However, the longer they spent together, the more Xiao Man found that her boyfriend was a good partner.
He is very self-motivated, knows how to respect women, and is a very careful and ceremonial boy in life, which gives Xiaoman a lot of security.
Slowly, she recognized her boyfriend's personality and hoped that they could be together forever. After identifying her boyfriend, Xiao Man began to pay attention to her boyfriend's family style.
No matter how busy she is, Xiaoman will find time to go back to her boyfriend's hometown, spend more time with his parents, and interact more with other family members.
Xiaoman is very cautious, she feels that whether the relationship between husband and wife can last is directly related to the man's family style.
After a clear understanding, Xiao Man was even more sure that her boyfriend was the man she wanted to marry.
She insinuated her boyfriend in life, and they got married soon after.
02: I will ask you about your plans for the future, hoping that you can give her a safe harbor
You don't need to think about firewood, rice, oil and salt in love, as long as you are happy with each other.
If a girl doesn't love you so much, she won't want to marry you and won't worry about the future.
She doesn't care if you are self-motivated or not, and what your life plan is.
When one day the love for each other stops, then break up, and there will not be too much reluctance to this relationship. But if she has already identified you and wants to marry you, her mentality will be different.
She will take the initiative to ask you about your future plans, where you will buy a house, whether you can have a stable income, etc., and she hopes that you can give yourself a safe harbor.
When a girl puts pressure on you appropriately, don't think that she is materialistic or dislike you, but understand the needs of the girl.
Only when she identifies you will she care so much about your plans for the future.
If you love her and cherish each other's feelings, you have to work harder, and even take the initiative to prove that you are worthy of TOEFL.
Falling in love is simple, but marriage means very differently to women.
Once in the family, there are more adjustments and sacrifices to be made. For example, if you get married and have children, your work will definitely be affected, and there will be endless housework, as well as complicated mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships to face.
These pressures can only be bravely faced by truly loving someone.
Therefore, when she starts to do these two things to you, it means that she loves you to the bone, wants to marry you, and hopes that all men can cherish the happiness and beauty of the moment.