In this complex world, each of us has our own story, laughter and tears. However, when we are faced with life's difficulties, should we confide in others about our misfortunes?
The famous writer Mo Yan once said: "Never tell others how miserable you are, because 80% of people are indifferent, 19% will gloat, and the remaining 1% will have more than enough to do." These short but profound words are like a slap in the face, reminding us how to face our own suffering in the journey of life.
Imagine when you're tired of confiding in your friends about your predicament, they may just listen politely without any waves in their hearts. It's not that they don't care about you, but because they can't really understand how you're feeling. After all, everyone's life experience is unique, and they can't empathize. As Mo Yan said, 80% of people are indifferent to what happens to you, and this is not their fault, but the norm of human nature.
And what about the remaining 19%? They may feel a little happy when they hear about your misfortune. It's not because they're cruel, it's because they subconsciously compare their lives to yours and find a sense of superiority. This schadenfreude mentality, while painful, is also part of human nature. We can't change them, we can only learn to accept this reality.
So, what about the 1%? They may feel sympathy for what you are going through and are willing to lend a helping hand. However, the reality is often harsh, and they may not be able to do enough. They may have their own family, career, and other responsibilities to take on, and they can't devote themselves to your predicament. At this time, we need to understand their situation and not rely too much on others.
Therefore, Mo Yan's words tell us a truth: on the road of life, we should learn to face difficulties independently. This is not to ask us to be isolated, but to learn to find strength in difficulties and learn to grow in setbacks. When we encounter a setback, we must first calm down, analyze the root cause of the problem, and find a solution to the problem. At the same time, we can also improve our abilities and become stronger by reading, studying, etc.
Of course, this does not mean that we have to completely close ourselves off and not communicate with others. Instead, we should learn to ask others for help when appropriate. But before that, we need to work on our own and try to solve the problem ourselves. In this way, when we ask others for help, our attitude will be more sincere and our requests will be more persuasive.
In addition, we should also learn to pay attention to the feelings of others. When we see others in difficulty, don't look indifferently and don't gloat. Instead, we should do what we can to help them. In this way, we will not only gain friendship and trust, but also make the world a better place.
In short, Mo Yan's words remind us to learn to face difficulties independently on the road of life. We should learn to find strength in difficulties and grow in setbacks. At the same time, we should also pay attention to the feelings of others and do what we can to help them. In this way, we will not only be able to make ourselves stronger and more mature, but we will also be able to make the world a better and warmer place.
So, let's be brave and face life's challenges! Don't let suffering be a stumbling block to our progress, but let it be a ladder for our growth!