"Life must be happy, don't make the gold bottle empty to the moon." This poem comes from the mouth of the Tang Dynasty poet Li Bai, and it expresses the truth that life is short and should be enjoyed to the fullest. However, when people reach middle age and experience deepen, they realize that some happiness is not necessarily the more people there are.
I remember when I was young, I always felt that a crowded dinner was lively, and lively meant success, and lively meant popularity. As a result, we followed suit, and having a meal became a "must-have" for socializing. However, as time went by, it was discovered that this kind of excitement was actually a kind of "fake excitement".
"When the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives." The ancients said that if they pursue perfection too much, they lose the joy of life. The same is true for dinners, there are too many people, but it is easy to hide the real emotions. It's hard to tell from the noise who really cares about you and who just comes to eat.
After middle age, I realized that instead of inviting a large group of people to dinner, it is better to have a pot of tea and talk with three or five confidants. As said in "Zhuangzi Wandering Away": "To the man has no self, the god has no merit, and the saint has no name." "A true friend doesn't care about the pomp and circumstance you invite him to dinner, only cares about your sincere care for him.
Once upon a time, we had to invite a large group of people to dinner for the sake of face and entertainment. However, such a meal often makes people feel tired. You need to be careful to maintain the relationship at the dinner table, for fear of saying the wrong thing and offending anyone. And those who really care about you are often ignored by you.
"Life has to be a confidant and content, and the world should treat it with sympathy." This sentence came from the hand of Mr. Lu Xun and expressed the greatest happiness in life. Get together with your confidants, no red tape, just true feelings. At such a meal, you can speak freely and freely.
After middle age, we begin to understand that the true meaning of life lies not in liveliness, but in inner peace. As said in "Caigen Tan": "Don't be shocked by the humiliation, watch the flowers bloom and fall in front of the court; Go and stay unintentionally, looking at the sky and clouds. "Learning to let go of prosperity and cherish the ordinary is the true meaning of life.
So, how can you avoid the hassle of inviting a large group of people to dinner?
First of all, we need to learn to screen friends. Friends who genuinely care about you, needless to say, will naturally appear in your life. And those who just come to rub the rice, over time, will naturally reveal their original form.
Secondly, we must learn to cherish our time. When gathering with friends, choose a quiet environment to chat, drink tea and enjoy the tranquility. In this way, you can appreciate the beauty of life.
Finally, we need to learn to say no. In life, there are always some socializations that we can't avoid. However, we can be selective and learn to refuse those inconsequential dinners.
When people reach middle age, we understand that the true meaning of life lies in simplicity. Don't invite a large group of people to dinner, but share life with three or five confidants. In this way, we can find our own peace and happiness in the hustle and bustle of the world.