Zhang Fengyi was born in Changsha, Hunan, but his ancestral home is in Tanghe County, Henan. Due to the needs of life, he moved to Kunming, Yunnan Province with his parents at a young age. When he was a teenager, Zhang Fengyi worked in the art troupe, and under the influence of his colleagues, he began to have a dream of pursuing art.
In order to realize his artistic dream, Zhang Fengyi decided to be admitted to the Beijing Film Academy from Yunnan.
Zhang Fengyi is a student at the Beijing Film Academy, and Lu Xiaogang is his classmate here. Because his hometown of Yunnan is too far away from Beijing and the cost of travel is very expensive, Zhang Fengyi rarely goes home during the holidays.
Lu Xiaogang is a kind person, he often invites Zhang Fengyi to his house as a guest, and by such a coincidence, Zhang Fengyi met Lu Xiaogang's 18-year-old sister Lu Liping.
Zhang Fengyi is 3 years older than Lu Liping, and his mature and steady temperament attracts Lu Liping, who is confused about the future. At the suggestion of Zhang Fengyi and other classmates, Lu Liping also applied for the Academy of Arts, and thus embarked on the road of acting.
In 1987, Zhang Fengyi and Lu Liping got married at that time, let's put it this way, their wedding was very simple, and they only spent 50 yuan to invite their parents to a meal, but their faces were full of happiness.
However, this hard-won happiness was short-lived.
In this year, Lu Liping quickly became popular with the excellent performance of the movie "Old Well" and won the title of actress. In contrast, Zhang Fengyi's career development is much more bland. In order to support her husband, Lu Liping firmly chose to retire and concentrate on her husband and children at home.
In 1988, Zhang Boyu's birth should have brought more joy to the family, but it became a turning point in the marriage. Lu Liping takes care of housework every day and has to dress up before going out, but Zhang Fengyi is busy with his career, and the two are drifting apart.
At a dinner, Zhang Fengyi's sentence "You still have to dress up at home" deeply pierced Lu Liping's heart.
In the end, the marriage that lasted only three years in 1991 ended in divorce. The pain of parting, the burden of their careers, and their concern for their children have all become the marks of their respective life paths, but the impact of this marriage is far from stopping, laying the groundwork for the complicated family relationships ahead.
The stars are bright, and the love road is bumpy. Although Zhang Fengyi and Lu Liping's marriage had problems, they did not stop their careers because of this. After the divorce, Lu Liping not only had to raise her son Zhang Boyu alone, but also had to return to the film industry to make ends meet.
Fortunately, her friends and colleagues gave her selfless help, and Lu Liping soon participated in the two TV series "Youth Without Regrets" and "The Story of the Editorial Department", and won the audience's love again.
In 1992, Lu Liping won the "Feitian Award for Best Actress" for her role as "Ge Ling", and was selected as one of the "First Top Ten Chinese Film and Television Stars".
Taking advantage of her comeback, Lu Liping also founded Beijing Qunxing Performing Arts School and started a new chapter in her career.
At the same time, Zhang Fengyi's acting career also ushered in a turning point. In 1992, he was fortunate to participate in "Farewell My Concubine" directed by Chen Kaige, and played on the same stage with Leslie Cheung and Gong Li. This film not only brought Zhang Fengyi's acting career to a higher level, but also allowed him to meet the second spring of his life - Huo Fan during the filming process.
Huo Fan is 12 years younger than Zhang Fengyi and is a dance teacher with outstanding temperament. She had a failed marriage and had a daughter. Two souls with past pain meet at the crossroads of life, comfort each other, and finally come together.
After the Spring Festival in 1994, Zhang Fengyi and Huo Fan held a wedding in Beijing and officially formed a new family. Although this decision gave Zhang Fengyi a new starting point in life, it also laid hidden dangers for their family relationship.
In the new family, Zhang Fengyi's behavior is very different from his attitude in his previous marriage. He cares for Huo Fan very much, and respects Huo Fan's opinion in everything. As Zhang Fengyi said on the show: "It was all chosen by my wife, and she had the final say in everything." "
This affection is also reflected in the residence they choose, and their mansion in Beijing covers an area of more than 500 square meters, with a simple and bright decoration, all run by Huo Fan.
Moreover, Zhang Fengyi loves his stepdaughter even more. No matter where he is filming, Huo Fan and her daughter can always be seen in the family room prepared by the crew for him and his family. This kind of companionship is an experience that he and his biological son Zhang Boyu have never had.
However, when Zhang Fengyi was dealing with his new family, he did not balance all aspects of the relationship, which made the distance between him and his ex-wife Lu Liping and his biological son Zhang Boyu widened. This emotional imbalance planted the seeds for the outbreak of family conflicts in the future.
Zhang Fengyi's devotion to his new family invisibly reproduces a complex family network.
Zhang Fengyi has found a new balance on the balance of career and love. However, is this balance solid? How will it affect his relationship with his biological son? These questions are quietly brewing, waiting for time to answer.
Myths about strict fathers, loving fathers, love. Whether in family life or in the major choices of children's lives, Zhang Fengyi's attitude towards Zhang Boyu is characterized by "indifference" and is known to outsiders.
When 14-year-old Zhang Boyu began to have the idea of becoming an actor, Zhang Fengyi ruthlessly objected. His words were as sharp as a knife: "You hurry back to high school, you have to go to college."
In the face of his son's firmness, Zhang Fengyi even said hurtful words such as "Don't call me in the future, I won't know you in the future", this dialogue not only deeply pierced Zhang Boyu's young heart, but also built an invisible wall between father and son.
After Zhang Boyu entered the Central Academy of Drama, Zhang Fengyi's attitude has been very cold, and he can even be described as "harsh" to his son.
When his son wanted to invite him to watch the graduation drama, Zhang Fengyi's response was chilling: "You can play the male lead?" Then you can't watch this play, I won't go.
These ruthless words were like a sharp blade, piercing deep into Zhang Boyu's heart.
However, behind Zhang Fengyi's seemingly indifferent appearance, there may be a unique fatherly love. He adheres to the concept of "people should rely on themselves", believing that playing more small roles, and when the audience accepts it, there will be filming naturally, and there is no need to rely on the help of others.
When asked by the host why he didn't help his son, Zhang Fengyi's response was this seemingly ruthless attitude, which may be a manifestation of his hope that his son can be independent and self-reliant.
Zhang Fengyi's education method is very different from the mainstream style of "holding children". He even bluntly criticized his son's appearance on the show: "He doesn't look like me, and he is not suitable to be an actor." ”
What's even more amazing is that he said to his son: "You must find a beautiful traditional woman to marry, and have children in the future to make up for your ugly genes", although these words are harsh, but they also reflect his expectations for his son - I hope he can recognize his strengths and weaknesses and develop on the right path.
The most jaw-dropping thing is that Zhang Fengyi refused to attend his son's wedding. His reason seems ridiculous: "The wedding can only be held with one table, but he has set up 27 tables, and the banquet is a waste." "You're nothing, just making such a big fuss, it's too public.
He also added: "His mother must be there, Sun Haiying is also there, how embarrassing it will be for me to go again, I usually don't come and go, and the three of them don't look good there" and even joked: "Moreover, the wedding I attended, the bride and groom were divorced in the end, so I didn't dare to go."
These words and deeds are confusing and shocking. However, does it also imply that Zhang Fengyi has some kind of expectation for his son? Is it an extreme way to teach his son to be frugal and low-key?
Zhang Fengyi adheres to the educational concept of "raising sons and rich daughters in poverty". His harshness towards his son, in stark contrast to his pampering of his stepdaughter, is a controversial way of education, but it also reminds us to think about how to strike a balance between love and education.
Does fatherly love have to be gentle and considerate? Is a harsh education also an expression of love? These questions may take time to be answered.
The father-son relationship between Zhang Fengyi and Zhang Boyu gradually cooled, however, the stepfather Sun Haiying interpreted father's love in his own unique way. Zhang Boyu always calls Sun Haiying "Teacher Sun Haiying", but Sun Haiying's love for this stepson is no less than that of her own son.
In his career, Sun Haiying paved the way for Zhang Boyu. He took his stepson to participate in "The Legend of Chu and Han", and let him get acquainted with Qin Lan, Chen Daoming, Yang Lixin and other big names in the entertainment industry. On the set, Sun Haiying personally rehearsed for Zhang Boyu and carefully guided him.
This dedication made many staff members praise Zhang Boyu's luck.
In addition to the TV series "The Legend of Chu and Han", Sun Haiying also took Zhang Boyu to participate in many other TV series. In 2013, Lu Liping took Zhang Boyu to star in "The Story of the New Editorial Department", and then in "Inheritance", Lu Liping and Sun Haiying directed Zhang Boyu's performance together.
In these crews, Sun Haiying will personally guide Zhang Boyu and do her best to cultivate him.
In daily life, Sun Haiying cares for her son Zhang Boyu meticulously, and he cooks far more meals for Zhang Boyu than Lu Liping. Whenever Zhang Boyu goes out, Sun Haiying will always carefully polish his shoes.
These seemingly insignificant but warm gestures fully demonstrate the delicacy and thoughtfulness of a father, as Lu Liping said: "Lao Sun's care for Boyu is more thoughtful than my own mother."
In the face of Zhang Boyu's persistent follow-up to his biological father Zhang Fengyi, Sun Haiying chose to understand and tolerate. Once, a relative of Sun Haiying's hometown came to Beijing to see a doctor, and he couldn't get out of his job because of work, so he asked Zhang Boyu to pick up people at the airport.
However, Zhang Boyu refused Sun Haiying's request because he wanted to help Zhang Fengyi move the coffee tree, and in the face of this situation, Sun Haiying did not blame, but silently thought of another way.
When asked why he paid so much but couldn't get the title of "Dad", Sun Haiying said calmly: "You don't care what he calls you, he doesn't call you, you are also a father, you have to be worthy of this identity, don't care how he treats you." How much tolerance and love are contained in these words.
Sun Haiying's selflessness and tolerance inject warmth into this reorganized family. He showed true fatherly love with his actions, not wanting to reciprocate, but only willing to give. This kind of unsung dedication may be the true meaning of fatherly love.
When it comes to choosing between loving and being loved, I hesitate.
Between his cold biological father Zhang Fengyi and his enthusiastic stepfather Sun Haiying, Zhang Boyu's heart has always struggled fiercely, feeling the different emotions of the two. But even so, he still received meticulous love from his stepfather and mother, but he always cared about the strict biological father in his heart.
This contradiction is especially evident in the show "Traveling with My Parents". When several other families were parents and children together, Zhang Boyu suddenly disappeared and went to find Zhang Fengyi alone.
He didn't say hello to anyone, nor did he tell Lu Liping and Sun Haiying where he went, which made Lu Liping and Sun Haiying very sad, and also revealed Zhang Boyu's deep desire for his biological father's approval.
After learning the truth, Lu Liping was greatly hurt in her heart, she cried and said: "If you want to find your biological father, we will not stop you."
Even if you can call us after you leave, even if it's just a phone call, even if it's just a message to let us know.
Sun Haiying was extremely sad, always sighed silently with her eyes closed, and couldn't say a word.
Zhang Boyu's following of his father has reached the point of "recognizing a thief as a father", and the father he mentioned in the show is Zhang Fengyi, but he rarely mentions his mother Lu Liping and stepfather Sun Haiying.
Even when his stepfather Sun Haiying needed help, he would not hesitate to choose to help Zhang Fengyi move the coffee tree, which shows his desire and pursuit of father's love.
However, Zhang Boyu's efforts never seemed to be recognized by Zhang Fengyi, although he once called his father late at night and apologized sincerely, saying: "Dad, I may have discredited your career, I'm sorry."
I will work hard, I love you" Zhang Fengyi responded: "Dad loves you too" After hanging up the phone, Zhang Boyu burned his arm with a cigarette butt, he wanted to leave a scar for himself, so that this scar will always remember how many grievances and inferiority are contained in these words and behaviors on this day, and how much desire for father's love is contained?
In this journey to find his father, Zhang Boyu has paid too much, but he has always wandered on the edge of loving and being loved.
His experience makes people think deeply, how should children balance their feelings for their biological father and stepfather in a restructured family? Is blood relationship really more important than getting along on a daily basis? There may not be a standard answer to these questions, but they are worth pondering for every restructured family.
Complex relationships are like untieable knots, which are difficult to break in two.
Zhang Fengyi's family story sheds light on the common emotional difficulties in restructured families. He loved his stepdaughter so much that he even gave her a million-dollar luxury car on her 18th birthday. However, he has always been strict and distant from his biological son Zhang Boyu, and even refused to attend his son's wedding.
This emotional deviation creates discord in family relationships and has a long-term negative impact on everyone's psyche. Zhang Boyu has experienced ups and downs on the road to finding his father's love, and he has oscillated back and forth between his biological father Zhang Fengyi and his stepfather Sun Haiying.
He longs for Zhang Fengyi's recognition, but he can't ignore Sun Haiying's dedication.
Lu Liping and Sun Haiying put in all their efforts, but they didn't get the rewards they deserved. Lu Liping once said frankly: "But your surname is Zhang, and my surname is Lu." I don't want to pay attention to him anymore, you go your Yangguan Road, I'm tired. This sentence is full of helplessness and sadness.
In a restructured family, everyone tries to find their place in the new family, trying to adapt to the new family relationships and responsibilities.
However, due to the interweaving of factors such as blood, feelings, and responsibilities, this family relationship has become complicated, forming an emotional knot that is difficult to untie.
Zhang Fengyi's story reminds us that the balance between love and education in a restructured family is an issue that requires deep consideration. In such a family, the importance of understanding, inclusion and communication cannot be overstated.
Only by allowing everyone to think of others can this seemingly unsolvable problem find a balance.