On this complex social stage, everyone is a passer-by, but they are also inadvertently weaving their own web of human feelings. Those who once thought that innocence and directness were gradually revealed a different face under the tempering of reality. The following are the ten human feelings and sophistications that I deeply realized after being gently slapped by society, they are like the brightest stars in the night sky, guiding me forward.
1. Fools have foolish blessings, and wisdom hides foolishness
In the ocean of interpersonal relationships, the most popular are often not those who are sharp and wise, but those who seem to be "stupid". They don't know how to calculate, they don't care about gains and losses, and this kind of "stupidity" is actually a kind of great wisdom and foolishness. People are willing to approach them because around them, people feel relaxed, don't have to worry about being calculated, don't have to be on constant alert. This kind of "stupidity" is actually a manifestation of high emotional intelligence and a manifestation of a deep understanding of human nature. They know that true wisdom lies in knowing when to play dumb and when to show their edge.
2. Repay grievances with virtue and turn enemies into friends
When there is criticism behind the scenes, the most immediate impulse may be to fight back, but such an approach will only lead you deeper into the quagmire. A true master will choose to deal with it in a more clever way - that is, to repay grievances with virtue. An inadvertent compliment, a recognition, can not only catch the other party off guard, but also gradually change the perception of others about you in the passage of time. This kind of wisdom is a profound insight into human nature, and it is also an extremely high requirement for self-cultivation.
3. Words and deeds are steady, and the people's hearts are wanted
The power of words is often beyond imagination. A warm word is enough to warm people's hearts; A clever compliment can instantly shorten the distance between each other. In our daily lives, we may not be able to do everything perfectly, but we must learn to speak beautifully. Just like the owner of that noodle restaurant, a simple sentence of "add more meat to this little brother", even if it is not really realized, is enough to make customers feel good and become repeat customers. This is the charm of language and the mystery of the human heart.
Fourth, in the face of interests, the villain first and then the gentleman
The adult world is often full of various entanglements of interests. On this stage, there are no eternal friends and no eternal enemies, only eternal interests. Therefore, in the face of interests, we must learn to put villains before gentlemen. It is not to encourage us to become selfish, but to protect ourselves while respecting the interests of others. Only in this way can we maintain a sober and rational relationship in complex interpersonal relationships.
Fifth, life events, be cautious in words and deeds
Buying a house, buying a car, falling in love and getting married, these major events in life often tug at everyone's heartstrings. When friends and relatives ask you for advice, remember to think twice. Because, once your suggestion is taken, you will inevitably get involved regardless of the outcome. If the result is good, it may be able to win a moment of gratitude; But if something goes wrong, you could be the target of public criticism. Therefore, it may be wisest to remain silent at these critical moments.
Sixth, when the water is clear, there are no fish, and when people are observed, there are no fugitives
People who are too shrewd often find it difficult to gain a foothold in relationships. Because, no one wants to associate with a person who can see through them at a glance, and no one wants to be in the company of a person who cares about everything. In this world full of calculations and interests, learning to pretend to be confused and let others take advantage of you can win more friends and trust. Because, people always like to be around people who can make them feel comfortable and relaxed.
7. A smile is the best business card
Facial expressions are the windows of the soul and the most direct language in interpersonal communication. A smile is enough to break the barrier and bring each other closer. Therefore, we must learn to manage our expressions and not frown, pout, and roll our eyes at every turn. These negative expressions will only make people feel that you are unapproachable. And a sincere smile, coupled with looking into the other person's eyes to speak, can instantly enhance your popularity and affinity.
8. Only when you understand the meaning is it interesting
In the workplace, a leader's words often have multiple meanings. If you can understand the deeper meaning and respond appropriately, then your position in the leader's mind will naturally be enhanced. On the contrary, if you are always unable to understand the intentions of the leader, or even go against them, then your career may be full of ups and downs. Therefore, learning to observe words and understand the meaning of leaders is one of the important rules of workplace survival.
9. Wine and wealth, human nature
While we don't advocate indulging in booze, it's undeniable that they are an effective way to bring people closer together. This is the root of human inferiority, but we should also conform to human nature and use these means to achieve our goals. Of course, this does not mean that we should give up our principles and bottom line, but we should flexibly use these means to create more opportunities and possibilities for ourselves while maintaining ourselves.
10. To change fate, we need to win people's hearts
In this world, it is important to work hard, but it is more important to make those who can decide your fate inseparable from you. Just like the story of the scalper and the domestic cat, although the scalper is industrious, it will eventually be slaughtered; Although the domestic cat is lazy, it can win the favor of the owner with its coquettishness. This tells us a truth: if you want to change your fate, you must learn how to get along with people, so that those key people will rely on and trust you. Only in this way can you go further and more steadily on the road of life.