Hu Yinmeng, this woman, was known for her beauty in the first half of her life, and in the second half of her life, she bloomed with wisdom and lived an extraordinary bearing. When she wrote her autobiography, The Incredible of Life, she was only in her forties, in the eyes of the world, in the eyes of the world, but she chose to delicately outline the trajectory of her life with extraordinary candor and delicate—from the love of parents to the experience of open life in New York, from her unique insights into the world of film and entertainment to the complex entanglement with Li Ao, to the profound analysis of the relationship between men and women. Her writing, sober and direct, fearless of any taboos, contains a profound exploration in her calmness, giving the reader endless strength.
Li Ao once had a widely circulated comment that accurately captured the multifaceted charm of Hu Yinmeng: "If there really is such a new woman in the world, she is beautiful and adrift, charming and confused, both leisurely and talented, both sad and sexy, both elusive and seemingly unreasonable, then this person is none other than Hu Yinmeng." This is undoubtedly the highest praise for her extreme charm from a male perspective.
In the eyes of men, the love for Hu Yinmeng, whether it is admiration for his appearance and posture, or his deep attraction to his temperament and soul, is pure and thorough. As depicted in the recent hit "The Story of the Rose", meeting a woman like Hu Yinmeng seems to be a fateful disaster, which makes people intoxicated and unable to extricate themselves.
Her beauty and deep desire for love and freedom weave her colorful map of gender relations. And in the process, there are three important people who have had a profound impact on her growth trajectory.
1. Love and hatred with Li Ao
The beginning of the story is like a thunderbolt stirring the earth, vigorous. When Hu Yinmeng was at Fu Jen University, he admired Li Ao's talent and personality. She once analyzed her state of mind when she first met Li Ao: "Readers like me, who are weak-willed, rebellious, pretentious, and have dreams of redemption, can't help but regard him as an idol and worship him. Li Ao's passionate pursuit made Hu Yinmeng deeply involved, and he even broke up with his girlfriend at the time resolutely at any monetary cost, which is undoubtedly a clear proof of deep affection in Hu Yinmeng's eyes. However, Hu's mother's opposition unexpectedly accelerated the union of the rebellious couple, and they quickly entered the palace of marriage.
"His talent and mental state make me hover between admiration and pity. I wanted to bring him joy, so I used to play my favorite music and play my own witch dance in front of him. Hu Yinmeng recalled, "At that moment, I firmly believed that he was happy and defenseless. The innocence and envy on his face are the best proof. At that time, they loved each other deeply and loved each other.
However, cohabitation not only exposes the trivialities of life, but also exposes the true face of human nature. Li Ao took a tough approach and embezzled the property and house of his friend Xiao Mengneng (the property was registered in Hu Yinmeng's name). Although the newlywed Yan'er is still sweet, Hu Yinmeng is extremely awake and realizes that he has seen the wrong person. She silently returned the property to Xiao Mengneng. After learning of this, Li Ao was furious, quickly filed for divorce, and started a long legal battle with Hu Yinmeng and Xiao Mengneng. In the end, Li Ao was sentenced to half a year in prison for embezzlement of property, and since then, Hu Yinmeng has become a great enemy in his eyes.
In newspaper columns, books, and television programs, Li Ao endlessly slandered and abused Hu Yinmeng, portraying her as a high-priced call girl, and even publicizing embarrassing scenes of her constipation. This kind of behavior is more egregious and lasting than Wang Xiaofei's implicit accusation against his ex-wife Da S on Weibo.
When Hu Yinmeng wrote his autobiography, he had let go of his grievances with Li Ao and his mind tended to be peaceful. But that experience was undoubtedly painful for her. From falling madly in love to getting married desperately, to quickly turning against each other, being ruthlessly attacked and accused by a loved one, all this has changed so quickly that it is embarrassing.
However, it was these injuries that became the catalyst for Hu Yinmeng's growth. Through her practice and self-realization, she eventually attained inner liberation. For people who are caught up in love and hatred, Hu Yinmeng's experience is undoubtedly a good medicine: "Behind hatred, there are often opposite emotions. When the dust settles, we will eventually face our lonely selves and the struggles of trying to justify ourselves. "May we all learn to let go, no longer be trapped by resentment and accusations, and become a better version of ourselves.
2. Soulmates and paternal complexes
Hu Yinmeng's father was born into a noble family of the former Qingzheng Red Banner, but he lost his parents at an early age and had to live in a relative's house and complete his studies. He studied at Waseda University in Japan in his early years, and was known for his image as a young talent, handsome and somewhat gloomy and gentle, and fascinated many young girls when he was young. As the former president of the Kuomintang "Central Daily", after his father was elected as a legislator in Taiwan, his political career was not satisfactory, and he turned to Go, and was separated for a long time because he could not bear his mother's strong personality.
Hu Yinmeng analyzed his parents as follows: the strong desire for control in her mother's personality and the insecurity in her childhood made her extremely possessive of material things; And the father, the descendant of this declining aristocracy, pursued face and dignity far more than money and material things. Although Hu Yinmeng didn't get along with her father much, she had deep feelings for him, and this emotion even affected her view of mate selection, making her have no resistance to men with the characteristics of "lonely city son" as an adult, and prefer those types who are sensitive and deep, lack of love in childhood, and explore the soul of life.
Don, the first love, and Robert, the lover, are outliers of this kind of psychic level. Don, despite being a Western man, is deeply sensitive, with a sad and sensitive poetic temperament. When he found a tacit understanding, he showed a humorous and smart side, and easily resolved the domineering in Hu Yinmeng's character. The two of them looked at each other silently for an afternoon in the café of the Liang Building, and their bodies, bodies and spirits seemed to be adjusted to the same frequency, without physical contact, and they could feel the infinite resonance of energy just through eye contact. However, after Don left for Laos to teach, the separation of the two left Hu Yinmeng in deep pain, and she couldn't even imagine how vulnerable she could be.
After experiencing this profound emotional shock, Hu Yinmeng began to reflect on why he had left his fate in the hands of others to the point of losing himself. In order to protect herself, she chose to bury the relationship deep in her heart, and escaped the soul-shaking emotion by accepting new feelings. But this feeling is like an "addiction" in her heart, which drives her to constantly look for the feeling of "soul connection" in the later relationship between the sexes.
Robert was one of the few "soul mates" she later met. However, the cohabitation with the Jewish man gradually revealed various problems. "Gender relations can always break the illusion and make people face their own limitations and truths." Hu Yinmeng deeply realized that the belief in sacrificial devotion as true love often hides the motives of control, dependence, exploitation, and self-sanctification. She also talked about emotional addiction, pointing out that dependents are more likely to avoid themselves and rely on each other because they are unable to face the great inner insecurity and fear of losing the other person.
Hu Yinmeng's emotional experience and profound analysis make us realize that everyone aspires to develop the capacity for love, empathy, and compassion, but in practice it can be hindered by negative emotions such as fear, insecurity, possessiveness, and jealousy. Because true love cannot coexist with these negative emotions, nor can it coexist with inner conflicts.
3. Daughter's self-treatment with body, mind and spirit
When Hu Yinmeng is mentioned, it often focuses on her external labels: one of Taiwan's most beautiful actresses, the identity of Li Ao's ex-wife, and complex emotions involving third parties, and even the mysterious identity of the child's father. However, if you read her autobiography in depth, you will feel more and more the infinite beauty of women's self-exploration, deep introspection and spiritual access.
Hu Yinmeng's daughter, Jiesheng, was born together with a married man. The man shirks the responsibilities of marriage, but is attracted to Hu Yinmeng's beauty and intelligence, while still constantly showing his masculine charm to the women around him. But Hu Yinmeng gave birth to her daughter not out of irresistible love, but deeply perceived the special fate between mother and daughter, so she bravely chose to give birth to a child, and calmly faced all kinds of suspicions and accusations from the outside world.
In the three years after the birth of her daughter, Hu Yinmeng often felt unwell and was riddled with illness. However, she never asked or complained to the man, but in her own way helped him realize his problems, guided him back into the family, and took his due responsibility.