There are three key points in choosing a boyfriend:
First, integrity, kindness, cognitive level (attitude)
Second, love
Third, character, ability
First of all, no matter what the second point, the third point, the first point is very important, do not be blinded by the second, the third
Come on, I'll repeat a horror story to you:
It is said that there is an insect in this world called the scorpion
This insect is very interesting, that males need to propose... And a large prey is needed as a gift
The more able to catch large prey, the more favored the male, after all, this proves the superiority of the male
Yeah, the prey is small, still want me to follow you?
Natural selection allows the male to catch a larger prey, and then the female chooses to mate with it... Then the female will work hard to lay eggs...
Look, even insects know that looking for males is to find good, for the sake of the lives of future generations...
Therefore, it is instinctive for girls to choose a boy with good material conditions, no problem
But
What do you think males think? All males are trying to catch bigger prey – to make money
But the strategy of many males is this, to catch a large prey, dedicate it to the female, and then, mate
When the female is weak after laying eggs, he beats the female violently, takes away the prey, and continues to use this big prey to find the next female?
Slag or not slag?
Quite a scumbag, do you think those houses, the tickets are ultimately yours?
You know, there was a guy who raised Xiao San, and finally sent Xiao San to prison and chased all the money back...
Therefore, in love, first consider the character...
Character pass, and then consider love
So how to test character, this is a problem, after all, not all girls are masters of psychology...
I used to work in a company, and I was still working in another city, and I was a dick... Although it is also a dick now, but the realm is different, at that time colleagues were just graduated, young people, a group of young boys together, naturally discussing girls
I found a basic rule:
Everything that is described in the mouth to a girl is objectified, lack of respect, disdain, whether it is to an ex-girlfriend, or a female colleague, or a female star... Everything is described poorly... There's basically no good thing...
Character is all problematic...
No matter how men and women evaluate women, they can directly see whether this person is kind or not...
The most essential difference of human beings lies in the level of cognition, and the definition of cognitive low is to forcibly establish an inevitable causal logical relationship in unrelated factors/things;
Look at a man's cognitive level, don't listen to him talk about politics/economy/world/philosophy and other tall and vast things, the core is to see how he talks about women.
The differences between men and women constitute the foundation of this world, and a person who can rationally interpret the opposite sex must be able to sort out his own cognition and determine his responsibilities and obligations.
Therefore, if you take a fancy to a boy, decide to examine his character and judge whether it is a scumbag. The most intuitive and simple way is to let him evaluate another girl, which can be a star event, or a traffic girl you know.
From the boy's evaluation of the girl, you can see his true inner cognition. This is the touchstone for choosing the other half.
A person who truly respects women's independence and freedom in his bones will not be worse. Regardless of men and women, people who respect women must respect themselves, and those who respect themselves must pursue careers. Pursuing a career will inevitably face ups and downs. But a brave and just heart, the future must be bright.
Therefore, to guide boys to talk more about their views on a certain girl will be a direct display of character
What love is, is the degree to which it is to be good to a person, to make an unfavorable choice for oneself, that is, the degree of love...
To love someone, the heart will be filled with a person, but it will be separated from possessiveness.
Everyone has a number of this, so it will not be unfolded.
The main way to examine character and ability is to work together, that is, to solve a problem together and see if two people are a good fit. For example, two or three days of vacation two people together to arrange a trip, from planning, route development, material preparation, to the conflict during the trip, the way to deal with differences... You can see a lot of problems. Whether it is suitable or not, there are almost a number.
Humans exhibit their character and abilities in the process of solving problems
Finally, roll the sheets... This is the most obvious character!
Psychology, emotions, motivation. Every move reflects the other side of the human heart.
You get the idea
If a girl feels like a simple, gentle and kind person, the person who makes you feel uncomfortable in the relationship must be a problem...
Tips: Human beings always have a psychology of finding a remedy, that is, the pursuit of whitewashing psychological balance
For example, when nouveau rich, nouveau rich people are used to giving themselves a literate title...
Fuerdai strives to prove that he can succeed without relying on his parents...
Scammers who fool old men and old women sell health products always try to get themselves to have a brand with the title of "Medical Research Society" or something.
Even the underworld has to whitewash itself as a serious business
So watch the boy whitewash himself in which direction...
Based on this, the rat is for it