Author: Insight Ciyu
Every ordinary everyday life experienced is a miracle that happens continuously.
Some time ago, a friend was diagnosed with thyroid cancer.
Although it is early, at the moment of talking about cancer discoloration, it also scares him a lot.
Fortunately, after active treatment, the body is not in serious trouble.
To my surprise, he walked around the ghost door and changed into a person.
There are more photos of family members in the circle of friends, some are ordinary days of playing, and some are time to go out and play.
Life is much more regular, quit smoking, drinking, staying up late, send him a message at eleven o'clock, and only receive a reply the next day.
I'm curious as to why he's changed so much.
He said to me:
"Living things, living people are often unable to see clearly. Wait until one day, hit the wall of death, bounce back, and then understand what it is to be alive. ”
Recently, I have seen the news of 3 anti-cancer patients in succession, and every time this sentence always pops up in my mind, it becomes more and more profound.
I have never seen the darkness, and I do not know the preciousness of the light.
Watch their difficult journey of fighting the disease and listen to their stories about life.
I gradually understood, why is a person alive?
01
Love life: every line to a place, see a landscape.
This is 29-year-old Huo Jiujiu, with advanced lung cancer.
On the eve of the Spring Festival in 2020, on the night when she returned from the hospital after check-up, Huo Jiujiu sat on the bed with a pillow and her husband faced her face to face.
Half silent, the husband said, you can ask me a few questions.
"The results came out, did I have cancer?"
The husband nodded, tears in his eyes.
She asked again, "Is there any salvation?" ”
The husband said, "There is salvation." ”
The two didn't say anything else, hugging each other and crying bitterly.
At this time, it had only been a few months since they were married.
When the 2020 New Year bell rang, Huo Jiujiu made a wish: to live through this year.
Although the doctor's verdict was "not to live more than three months".
In the last days of her life, she completed her bucket list one by one in the company of her family.
Singing "Song of Beidaihe" with the GALA band, on the stage, she wore light makeup, wore a rainbow shirt and jeans, screamed madly, and bloomed her last passion.
Wander HuluDao, step on the soft sand, and smell the salty wind blowing from the sea.
Going to the Hulunbuir Grassland, the clouds gathered and scattered, and the endless grassland made her moved to tears.
In a few days, Huo Jiujiu captured the tenderness of all life.
Because she could eat a bunch of rock sugar gourds, she had a happy smile on her face.
Because the puppy can make a bark like "mom", she feels great satisfaction.
There are too many beautiful things in the world, and time is too short to fit.
On September 12, 2021, Huo Jiujiu left with his thoughts.
The Bucket List says, "We can't always think of waiting until I have money, time, or whatever other conditions, and then do something we've long wanted to do, because you never know if you can see the sun tomorrow." ”
We walk like travelers into the distance, death is the end, and all along the way are landscapes.
If you reach the end and only go to look at the surrounding scenery, you will only leave regrets.
The real way to live in life is to go to a place and see a scenery.
If you want to play in the mountains and rivers, you will leave for the next time.
Those who have thoughts will go to him immediately, not wait for tomorrow.
We must understand that every day in life is unique, cherish the present, live with joy, in order to live up to this trip.
02
Loving Family: Leave time for those you love.
Seeing these two pictures, it is difficult to imagine that they are the same person.
The young man, named Ah Jian, recorded his anti-cancer journey with video.
Flipping through the videos, I found that he was most worried about his daughter and parents.
When he learned that he was terminally ill, he fell into a dark fear, followed by concerns about his family.
There are two young girls below, there are parents in their seventies, as the top pillar of his, if it collapses, what will this family do?
After the first surgery, Ah Jian felt that his health was not as good as before, but he would still go to stir-fry cooking, clean up the room, and try to do more for the family as much as he could.
In just a few months, his condition deteriorated dramatically.
Ah Jian endured great pain, "The physical state is not as good as a day, I have not eaten anything for two days, and now my stomach has been hurting, and I have taken painkillers, and there is no effect." The urine that has been urinating for the past two days is blood-colored, mixed with blood clots, and I don't know how much time I can hold on. ”
Death was a relief for him, but in order for his family to have a thought, even if there was no hope in sight, he had to grit his teeth and live.
One more day he lives, and the children will see him one more day.
One more video he makes, he can bring a little more income to the family.
He once said with great guilt: "As a father, I failed to fulfill my responsibilities and failed to give my children a complete childhood." As a son, I also did not fulfill my responsibilities, and let my parents work for me every day. ”
He once dreamed: "My biggest dream is to grow up with my two daughters, then send them to school, and then personally accompany them to marry and find happiness in life." ”
Every sentence makes people feel heart-wrenching.
Fate did not favor Ah Jian after all.
On September 9, Ah Jian still left, leaving behind his young daughter and two white-sided parents.
People live in the world, and their families are the deepest bondage.
When we cry in the middle of the night, at the time of life and death, the first thing we think of is our family, who are our armor and the softest part of our hearts.
But in life, some people forget the person who left the lamp in situ because they are chasing a distant place; because the relationship is too close, they will lose their temper at will.
We always think that the years are long, and there is a lot of time to accompany and cherish.
But in the blink of an eye, as soon as you turn around, the parent's figure gradually becomes rickety, and the child will travel alone.
A lifetime, which seems to be very long, is actually very short.
Learning to leave time for loved ones, giving them a smile, nagging the length of the family together, and sharing fireworks in the world is a great blessing in life.
03
Love yourself: There are countless stars in the sky, and you are the only one on earth.
This is 32-year-old Damei, who has been suffering from cancer for two years, and there are multiple bone metastases in the advanced stage of breast cancer.
Stetson said, "As far as fate is concerned, Huron is fair. ”
Fate is extremely unfair to great beauty.
When she was 8 years old, her parents divorced, and when her mother left, she promised to come back to pick her up, she remembered this sentence, there was nothing to wait at the village entrance, and when she was 14 years old, her mother did not come.
After that, Dad also reorganized the family, and Grandma took her to live with her.
At the age of 15, she chose to drop out of school and work as a waitress in a hotel to make a living.
Six years ago, she taught herself Korean and joined a South Korean trading company.
Just when she thought her life was on the right track, she was diagnosed with cancer.
In a foreign country, having cancer is desperate enough, and what makes her even more devastated is that a month after the diagnosis, her boyfriend rolled up the money and left.
For everything in the past, Damei is summed up in the word bumps.
Damei was desperate and helpless, but finally chose to face the suffering.
No one gives light, just the lamp.
She kept a cat to accompany her, called "Hiding", hoping that it would avoid disease and avoid misfortune.
After the chemotherapy, she and her mother made an appointment to take a bald wedding photo as a souvenir.
Her name on the video platform is "Great Beauty" because she wants to be beautiful all the time, and she wants to wear more beautiful dresses.
Today, Daimi is still strong enough to fight the disease and strive to live for herself.
Whitman wrote in The Land Song: "From now on I no longer seek happiness, I myself am happiness." ”
In this life, people will inevitably experience some dark moments.
But don't be careless about taking care of life because of the unhappiness of work; because of emotional frustration, you will live a mess of life.
Life is your own after all, and no matter how bad the script is, you are also the protagonist.
No matter how muddy the path of life is, we must persist in going on; no matter what kind of desperate situation we are in, we must live our own arbitrariness.
Life is only a few decades, the more difficult it is, the more you must love yourself.
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There are still many cancer patients in this world like Damei, Ah Jian, and Huo Jiujiu, who are in the dark, but want to try to live out the light.
Their story tells us:
Whether it is a family sitting idly, amiable lights, or a healthy body, no worries in the heart, it is the best gift of fate.
In this life, every ordinary daily life experienced by a person is a miracle that occurs continuously.
In the days to come, embrace every day of your life with enthusiasm, love yourself, love your family, and live the present moment to the fullest and fullest.