#Under what circumstances can people realize it##人生在世, what truth do you realize##What is the most important thing in people-to-people interactions.##有什么社会潜规则 #
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Some people say: Zhang Yiman is relatively speaking, in fact, he prefers coppersmiths. And a series of performances by the coppersmith are indeed more suitable for marriage. However, if you compare him with Pei Kuishan, it is unfair to Pei Kuishan. After all, a coppersmith is someone who has been married. In other words, his series of good ones is likely to be the result of another woman's long-term "training", and Zhang Yiman just picked up a ready-made one.
It is also said that the simplicity of a coppersmith is only an appearance. He can be "in a nightgown", indicating that he has evil thoughts in his bones, he has a wife, but he is a person who has no status in the family, is enslaved by his wife, and is also a complete soft egg. After two months of study, he has fully understood what his needs are, he is fed up with his consistent way of survival, like a "cattle" way of survival, but unfortunately the nature is so, the class can not break through, no matter how many books he reads, he cannot change his rude heart. Compared with his illiterate and vulgar wife, Yi Man is too beautiful, for Yi Man, he can never reach the class of an intellectual; the free image represented by Zhang Yi man is what he yearns for but cannot get. Therefore, after being scolded as an animal by Ichiman, he wants revenge. His revenge psychology can be described as extremely terrifying, in addition to making everyone insult Zhang Yiman and not to solve the hatred, but also to cut off her curly hair that is completely different from the woman he has met before.
To figure out who's right and who's behind it, we first need to know what it means to live after marriage.
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People like to chase glamorous and better life experience, but whether they can pursue it or not is another matter. If love is a period of longing, then marriage is a very practical manifestation of falling into mortal dust. In fact, some people have been dragged into a very practical stage by the cruel reality even in the love period, such as the blood-sucking family that Fan Shengmei must face, which will not be alleviated because of Fan Shengmei's marriage, and even become more intense.
I believe that many people will also have a feeling: the kind of people who have a heavy burden on their original families, even in the period of prosperity, will appear to be worried and tied hands and feet. It's not that they don't want to feel that kind of flying youth, but the heaviness of reality that weighs them down too hard.
In addition, in the traditional marriage system of Chinese is very particular about male superiority and female inferiority, according to the reason, the coppersmith's wife is unlikely to treat the coppersmith like that, even if it is only not to give the coppersmith face, but the coppersmith's wife can do this, and not only again and again, but also very efficient. Except for the explanation that the original status of the coppersmith's wife is higher than that of the coppersmith, there is almost no other possibility.
In other words: the coppersmith actually forms such a marriage in a similar way.
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In the feudal era, the status of males who entered the feudal era was very low and subject to a series of restrictions. Moreover, in the deep-rooted view of marriage in Chinese society, it is widely believed that the marriage of men and women should be the model in which daughters are married out and sons marry daughters-in-law. Many men know that the woman's family situation is difficult for him to achieve all his life, but he still chooses to break up. Not to mention the remote countryside where men are clearly dominant.
The bad attitude of the coppersmith's wife to the coppersmith, the coppersmith is not without feelings, nor does it not want to resist, but his situation determines that he cannot resist. This is also easy to explain why, in the case of clearly asking him to play a dead man, as soon as he heard the opportunity to go to the United States, he would rather ignore the consequences, regardless of the fact that he was a fake, and directly "revived" to chase.
From another point of view, the coppersmith's later bad attitude towards Zhang Yiman has a lot to do with the accumulation of negative emotions that have long been in a low family status, especially under women. However, the coppersmith's wife did not give him this opportunity to smash the window, but Zhang Yiman gave, and zhang Yiman's surrounding environment gave. If it weren't for the increasingly terrible situation that followed, he probably wouldn't have wanted to go back at all.
Moreover, according to the concept of traditional men, Sun Jia is far more ideal than Zhang Yiman and the coppersmith's wife, with a good background, culture, young age, and good looks, since there is a choice, why not pick a good one?
As for what is meant by these beauties, it is not something that the coppersmith can know.
Of course, if it really develops according to such a plot, the next thing may be a different look. The film, however, does not unfold here.
However, in my judgment, the coppersmith still cannot get rid of the fate of low status, and even more tragic. After all, even in the United States, whether it is Sun Jia's background or the education system that the coppersmith relies on when he goes out, the coppersmith is in an absolutely low position, and it is very likely that the power between him and his current wife is far less equal. That's not "cattle", that's "ants", that's "dust".
Because compared to Zhang Yiman, Sun Jiacai is more likely to have a dream that the coppersmith can't reach.
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Zhang Yiman aroused his desire for Chinese men to pursue traditional gentle women, but Zhang Yiman was too hard to wake him up from his dreams, except to see a more cruel reality, but did not know where to go.
This kind of woman is very annoying to vulnerable men, just like Tian Xiao'e in "White Deer Plain".
Tian Xiao'e is an important character in "White Deer Plain", and like Zhang Yiman, she belongs to the transitional women between traditional women and new women. "White Deer Plain" is a work that describes this simple, kind, helpless, innocent woman.
This woman, who was born in Shuxiang Mendi, was sold by her parents from the beginning to Guo Juren, who was old enough to be her grandfather, as a concubine, and was bullied by the main chamber. However, she is not a peaceful woman by nature, an instinct of life makes her to "seduce" Heiwa, and then lived in the cave with Heiwa for a while, originally thought that she could last a long time, but the fate was not good, Heiwa still abandoned her, and her fate could not escape the shackles of the times.
In "White Deer Plain", although Heiwa is in a very low position like the coppersmith, Heiwa has many incomparable advantages of coppersmiths: independent, bloody, dare to love and hate, dare to be bold, and is a real man. However, the coppersmith obviously did not have it. Not to mention, Heiwa was unmarried when she was with Tian Xiao'e, and there was no concern, but the coppersmith was married and may involve some of the worries of the original family.
However, even if Heiwa and other men turned towards Tian Xiao'e, they still could not change the tragic result of Tian Xiao'e's fate of assuming the notoriety of a slut. Among them, the broken window effect and the scapegoat effect play a great decisive role.
In the feudal era of China, this system of interpersonal relations, no fault is more important than good. Although the coppersmith's wife is useless compared to Zhang Yiman, she has a very important life-saving support: a clean reputation, not to mention some of the advantages behind her being able to treat the coppersmith like that are invisible to us as outsiders.
Regarding the analysis of the coppersmith's wife, I will specifically carry out it in the future sharing. And, here we need to know: the coppersmith to Zhang Yiman is far more complicated than Pei Kuishan to Zhang Yiman on the surface, and behind this involves the marriage that the film has not yet had time to unfold and a series of contradictions and entanglements between the traditional customs of the local people and the changes in the outside world at that time. Otherwise, it is really difficult to explain why the coppersmith would "come back to life" in such an unreliable situation and marry Sun Jia.
And Zhang Yiman's situation is that after such a sleep and a scolding, it is extremely embarrassing. What's even more frightening is that no one has the ability and determination to rescue her.