"Poor, why did you give birth to me"! Do parents really understand their children's inner voices?

Poor, why give birth to me. This is a phrase that has appeared on the Internet in recent years. But do Chinese parents really understand their children's inner voices? In China's traditional culture, the grace of parents to procreate is greater than the sky, China has been attaching great importance to the filial piety of children in terms of home education for thousands of years, and gratitude is advocated by Chinese from ancient times to the present, so when the phrase "poor why give birth to me" appeared, it caused people to criticize the generation, not filial piety, no conscience, great rebellion, etc., and some people proposed to strengthen the education of children's filial piety culture, in short, all kinds of criticism and education of children are full of comment circles. But what I do want to say is that parents really misunderstand their children. Because I used to be a child too!

When I first heard this sentence, I was deeply touched in my heart, because how many times I wanted to question why my parents gave birth to me. So why do children question their parents so much? What hurts the child's heart? Talk about some of my childhood and some of my personal insights.

1. I admit that my parents had a hard time raising me, but they turned this hard work into a temperamental and ruthless desire for their children. Children are only victims of family poverty.

When I was born in the countryside, my parents worked every day, the fields and mountains were busy, very hard, my sister and I knew the hardships of our parents since childhood, but there was nothing we could do, because we were still young and could do very little. My sister has been very sensible since she was a child, and she can help with housework from a very young age, from cooking in the vegetable garden to feeding pigs, and many housework can be done. I was 4 years younger than my sister, and there was very little I could do to help my parents. However, the most common impression I have of my parents since I was a child is the kind of complaints about life after hard work, and the rough temper, especially the merciless flood towards children. I could only silently bow my head, and did not dare to look up at my parents' faces, because at this time my parents' faces were like the devil, and I did not dare to cry, because crying would only make them more rude, and they did not even dare to cry, but could only cry in their hearts. I think my sister's heart should hurt more than mine. The hardships and poverty of life make the personality of parents become like water, sometimes calm and sometimes fierce. When you think they're calm, it's possible the next second they're fierce. Every bit of unhappiness and dissatisfaction in life will lead to the loss of control of their emotions, and we will always be victims of family poverty, and my parents will never know how terrible they are in my heart. I thought that if my sister and I hadn't reincarnated into this home, my parents' lives might have been better because there were two less burdens.

2. When I grew up and started junior high school, I found that as a child, I should not eat my parents' clothes, and I should not study to find my parents for living expenses.

At the age of 13, I went to junior high school, and my parents were still poor. However, I found that I had indeed become the cause of my family's poverty. Tuition, living expenses, all kinds of miscellaneous fees, all kinds of school fees can make parents angry at home with their children, and more importantly, every reason for my parents to get angry is nothing more than me eating, drinking, wearing and reading. The most terrifying thing I was afraid of throughout junior high school was going home, because every time I came home, it meant reaching out to my parents for living expenses again. To me, every time I ask my parents for money, it's like a crime, my parents will complain to me over and over again, how hard they work, we will only eat, parents can spend a day to lose their temper with me to tell me how much I drag on them in life. Every time I came home, it was a torment for me, my hands took the expenses given by my parents but my heart was dripping blood, I was used to bowing my head in front of my parents, and I didn't dare to look at his cloudy face. Am I wondering if I would have made a fortune if I hadn't been born in this family? When I told my parents that I would not read and went out to work, my parents actually taught me a harsh lesson again, saying that I did not study. It is wrong to be born in this family, it is wrong to eat, drink, wear and take it, it is wrong to read, it is wrong not to read, and I think if I jump off the building like many children, it may also be wrong, because my parents will say that I am stupid, stupid to jump off the building. In the final analysis, it was because of the poverty of the family that I was once again a victim of the poverty of the family.

3. Many parents blame their children for the poverty of their families.

Family poverty is the cause of parents, it has nothing to do with children, even if you do not have children and should be poor. As a parent, you don't know that any child born needs parenting, and it takes parents to pay time and money. Isn't that what children deserve when they eat their parents and wear what their parents deserve? This is also what a parent should give. I advise parents that if they are poor and not ready to give their children, then they should not be born, or it will be a sin.

When children say the words, "Poor, why give birth to me," this is the inner voice of the children. Remind all parents, don't just look up and blame your children all day long, you can only understand the inner world of your children if you lower your head and put your face down.

Finally, I hope that all families in the world can be happy and all children can grow up happily!