When the host Zhu Xun talked about her parents' feelings, she said that the feelings between her parents were very greasy.
Every time the father comes home, he does not hold the child first, but first hugs the mother, and offers a kiss of affection, and then another "baby ~", before the father leaves home, the mother must also lie in front of the father, and he has to let him kiss it before leaving.
Their mode of getting along makes her feel very warm, but in her own family life it is completely opposite, and once she was asked this question by Chun Ni on a variety show:
"You should be the same for your husband and son (in terms of getting along), right?"
Zhu Xun said: I don't dare to spoil my lover.
Her words surprised several guests present, they thought that Zhu Xun was usually a lively and very feminine host, how could he return home but did not dare to spoil her husband?
Zhou Wei, who was familiar with her, added: "She called a Bi Gong Bi Jing in front of her lover." ”
Zhu Xun said: The reason for not being spoiled is that there is very little response from my husband (Wang Zhi), such as eating something, I said to him, "You taste it, delicious it", and his answer was to briefly "OK, let it go." "If I talk to him later, or tell him to "come over, he'll either say ,"Talk well, or go away!" “
Zhu Xun explained: Wang Zhi usually screws up and talks, but he is actually kind, so my little woman's coddled strength is all on my son.
Zhou Wei duly made a joke, saying that Zhu Xun's family was "your husband takes you as a daughter, you take your son as a husband", the guests laughed upside down, Zhou Wei was right in the second half of the sentence, but the first half of the sentence was not very prepared, Wang Zhi did not take Zhu Xun as a daughter, just regarded her as a standard wife, because Wang Zhi did not give her space to spoil at all.
For this problem, Wang Zhi and Zhu Xun and Shui Junyi explained when they went to Chunni's show together, saying that they were actually a man who was not good at expressing himself, although he had been educated by his parents-in-law for so many years after marrying Zhu Xun, he still did not learn how to be intimate with his wife, and even "I love you" was not used to hanging on his lips from time to time.
He said, "You want me to open my eyes in the morning, and before I close my eyes before going to bed, I really can't do this, after all, my parents-in-law's set is a Western-style approach (my parents-in-law have worked abroad for many years), and there is still a cultural difference with us." ”
After Shui Junyi listened to Zhu Xun talk about the greasy emotional expression between her parents, he was happy to say that goosebumps had risen.
Zhu Xun said that Shui Junyi had been in the International Department for so many years, how could he not be half edified? Shui Junyi laughed and quickly denied: "I won't, really won't."
Men like Shui Junyi, after all, are famous mouths, perhaps out of personal image considerations, it is not too embarrassed to show their emotional needs in public, but in fact, most men still eat women to spoil this set.
But in real life, not every woman knows how to spoil, the world's general understanding of women is that women are born weak and need to be protected, and it is not a particularly simple thing to lie to men?
That's not the case at all.
First, it is also necessary to combine the factors of time, place, people and several aspects to have a good chance.
For example, Zhu Xun, Wang Zhi just doesn't give her this space, doesn't give you a response, how do you sprinkle? Sprinkle it on yourself? Isn't that too boring? Over time, it naturally kills women's thoughts and habits of wanting to be spoiled.
Therefore, many men complain that the wives at home are always feminine, always shouting and doing official business, and that is also because you have not provided the soil for women to be suitable for petting.
Men are spring and rainy, and women are tender like water.
Second, spoiling is also a technical job
Zhou Xun has acted in a film called "The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman", after the film was released, it once caused women to doubt their own level of pampering, TVB also filmed a "Woman Who Doesn't Know How to Spoil", which starred the heroine of Xuanxuan, she has an old lover who is a business management elite, played by Lin Wenlong.
The first episode has such a plot, Lin Wenlong is responsible for the wedding dress brand in a large shopping mall to elect an image spokesperson. Among them, three women from the mainland, Taiwan and Hong Kong proposed to Lin Wenlong at the same time.
The sister in Sichuan said directly: I am willing to give birth to a child for you, wash and cook for you. (Good grounding ah)
The hong Kong girl hesitated and then said slowly: I am willing to pay the mortgage with you. (Too real)
And the cute girl in Taiwan blushed shyly, flashed a pair of innocent big eyes and looked at him and said: So shy, oh, these things, people can't do it! (Good shy)
After saying this, she actually fell into Lin Wenlong's arms, and she couldn't stop sneering: You are so bad
Do you guess who Lin Wenlong chose in the end?
Only to see him pinch the face of the Taiwanese cute girl and say: It's you. Then take out the ring and put it on for her.
Why didn't Lin Wenlong choose a woman who was willing to wash his hands and make soup for him to have a child, and was willing to pay off the mortgage with him? Is he stupid? Obviously, the first two women are really suitable for living at home, but men don't see it this way, and people's reasons are like this:
"Two people together are not just to pay off the mortgage, feelings are very important, do you know what feelings are?" But I know, she knows, and you don't. "
Before looking at such a bridge section, I will think that this is too exaggerated, how many men will be so stupid X? But looking at such a plot now, it is a completely different feeling.
Many men, with women, are really in pursuit of a feeling, especially eat the set of spoiled women, is to feel that such a woman has femininity.
If it weren't for the pressure to survive and find a grounded woman to share the pressure of life with him, they would really rather be with those spoiled women. Because they will give him a sense of need, of being looked up to, of conquering.
This is also why a man marries a woman with a strong personality and ability, and does not know how to be soft, after surviving the primary survival pressure, he will try to find a delicate and weak woman who regards him as an idol outside to find ambiguity or have an extramarital relationship to make up for it.
Song Siming in "Snail Residence", usually in the official field does not smile, at home in front of his wife and children is also a serious floor face, but turned his head to meet the young and beautiful delicate seaweed, she casually sprinkled a petulant willful to make a little sex, he happily unloaded the hard camouflage shell, intoxicated in her feminine taste lost.
Third, spoiling also requires self-confidence to lay a foundation
Why don't a lot of women spoil? Except for personality. Most of it is because the other party does not provide soil, and then I feel in my heart that even if I spoil him, it is useless.
That is to say, thinking that you are not valued in his heart, you have no feelings for me, what else do I tell you? Self-inflicted humiliation? Sorry, I'm not that low self-esteem.
On the surface, it is because of strong self-esteem, but in fact it is because of lack of self-confidence - feeling that I am not worthy of being loved by the other party, and do not believe in the relationship, so I will give myself a strong psychological hint: spoiling is a useless means of begging, so I disdain to use it.
What if I don't control myself by lying to you and don't get a response?
Occasionally get a response or two, and you may also think that the other person is sympathizing with themselves, rather than pampering themselves from the heart. Such a spoiled child, I don't relax, and the other party also feels weird.
Therefore, the premise of a person being able to coddle a man is that he is sure that he loves you and believes that he is worthy of being loved.
In fact, there is no woman who does not want to release her soft and cute side, if a woman never coddles, either she is really born a woman, or she is an iron heart, but because she has not yet met a reliable man who can support her little woman mentality.