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As the saying goes: every baby is the most surprising gift from Heaven.
But in the eyes of parents, this gift, which has not been "carefully selected", does not seem to be as satisfactory as imagined. Some babies are very obedient from an early age, so that parents can save a lot of heart. But some babies do not stop from birth, living like their parents' "debt collectors".
In fact, the child's performance as a child already hints at their future personality situation. Whether the child is here to repay the favor, you can see at a glance a few characteristics.
Ling Ling and her good girlfriend Xiaowen have been growing up together since college, and even the time of marriage and children is similar. But although Lingling and Xiaowen's two children have played from childhood to adulthood, their personalities are very different.
Ling Ling gave birth to a girl, who did not cry or make trouble every day, and would blink happily when she saw people, and when she was hungry, she would go to sleep by herself without worrying too much about adults. So Ling Ling is very worry-free, and even has time to go shopping.
On the other hand, Xiaowen, she gave birth to a boy, although the boy is naturally more active, but Xiaowen's son is very noisy, sleeping needs people to hold and not say, as soon as he puts it down, he cries. So that Xiaowen couldn't even sleep well, and even sometimes woke up to find that the child was missing, and she was scared out of a cold sweat.
This made Xiaowen feel very curious, her mother's personality is so similar, how can her own children be like natural "debt collectors"?
【Feature 1】: Children have strong physical fitness from an early age
As a parent, the biggest worry is that your child is sick. Some children have been sick since birth, and the old diseases have not yet gone to the new diseases, which has caused great financial difficulties for the family. Children who come to repay the favor will generally have a good physical fitness, not only to save money for their parents, but also to save a lot of heart for their parents.
In particular, the child's body mechanism has not yet fully developed, the body's ability to regulate will be damaged due to illness, and every illness is a bottomless experience for parents.
If the child is rarely sick from birth and has been very healthy, no matter who the parents can save a lot of heart.
【Feature 2】: The child has a good personality from an early age, does not cry or make trouble
Sometimes a child's personality is also a major reason for parents to suffer:
Every day is either emotional and not eating, or crying for no reason, which parent can only be a headache.
If a child is born without being particularly crying, laughing, and having a very gentle temper, it will make parents feel very gentle, and such a child will undoubtedly come to "repay the favor".
【Feature 3】: Children can appreciate the difficulty of parents
Many times, parents will not tell their children that it is not easy to make money to support their families, and children have not experienced and will not understand the hardships of their parents, so most children will follow the child's set to their parents.
If in this case, the child can understand what the parents are doing from the heart, can feel sorry for the parents, and will take the initiative to take care of the parents when the parents are sick, then I believe that such parents are very happy, and the children are also here to "repay the favor".
● Help children develop a regular routine
Helping children develop regular routines is not only to meet the needs of their bodies, but also to save a lot of heart for parents.
First of all, the child's sleep time should reach more than ten hours a day, and parents can keep the home dim and quiet when it is time to sleep, so that the child can go to sleep.
At the same time, it must be noted that children must not carry out intense exercise or watch exciting cartoons before going to bed, otherwise it will be difficult to fall asleep. Once the child's schedule is adjusted, the child will automatically go to bed every day when it is time to go to bed, which can save parents a lot of heart.
● Pay attention to the cultivation of children's independent ability from an early age
Many children still rely on their parents at a very old age, because their parents did not develop good habits of independence for them when they were young.
Children can usually train them to dress themselves, wash their faces and brush their teeth, go shopping for themselves when they grow up, and even go to school and school by themselves. In this way, they will slowly become autonomous, no longer dependent on their parents, and will save their parents efforts.
● Don't succumb to your child's crying
As soon as the child cries, the parents can't stand it, followed by an endless process of coaxing the baby. How can parents who are surrounded by such things all day long be at ease?
In fact, this is quite problematic, in the long run, the child will think that crying can attract the attention of parents, let parents help him do some things, buy what he likes. No matter what happens, just crying can solve the problem, and it is dangerous for such an idea to form in the child's heart.
Are your children here to "repay the favor"? Do you bother with raising children? What kind of habits do you usually help your child develop? Share your story and let's discuss it!
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