Zheng Banqiao famously said, "It is rare to be confused: it is difficult to be smart, it is especially difficult to be confused, and it is even more difficult to turn from being smart to being confused." ”
It can be seen that the higher realm of intelligence is confusion.
Confusion is a great wisdom, it is not stupidity, it is not ignorance, it is not cowardice, it is not a loss; on the contrary, it is a blessing, a wisdom, a cultivation.
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Confusion is not stupidity, but a kind of self-kindness
There is a saying in China that "cleverness is mistaken by cleverness." If people are too smart, they never forget to calculate, for fear of losing a little. One day it will hurt itself.
Because, too tired.
You are very worried every day, can you not be tired? People's energy is limited, and people who are shrewd in everything have to use a lot of energy to think every day, spending too much energy, and the body will naturally be overwhelmed and will be overdrawn.
In life, it is not uncommon for smart people to "die young". If you want to open up a little, don't let shrewdness become your problem.
When you meet someone you can't get used to, don't look at it.
When you encounter an inexplicable reason, don't say it.
When you meet someone who can't read it, don't understand it.
The true wise man can see what is going on and knows how to stop at the right time. Life is short, don't blame yourself, be kind to yourself, learn to be confused. Confusion is not stupidity, but a broad attitude to life, a wisdom to embrace life.
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Confusion is not stupidity, but wisdom.
When the water is full, it overflows, and when it is full, it is taboo. Pretending to be stupid and confused is an extraordinary talent.
At that time, Liu Bang alone was sick and fought outside, Xiao He stayed in the rear, in order to relieve Liu Bang's worries, Xiao He was exhausted, everything was done thoroughly, and the people praised him. Liu Bang sent a quick horse greeting letter every day. Xiao He's doorman came to him and said, "Xiao Gong will have difficulties", Xiao He was puzzled, and the doorman said: "The lord is outside, you are in power, such a thorough matter, it is inevitable that it will attract suspicion."
Xiao He was such a clever person that he immediately understood. Then, he deliberately connived at his protégés to do several illegal things, causing the people to resent. Sure enough, Liu Bang was overjoyed when he learned about it. Xiao He's self-defiling behavior made many people think that he was confused, and his good reputation was ruined. Where did these people understand Xiao He's great wisdom, only in this way could Liu Bang's suspicion of him be resolved.
There is a saying in Shakespeare's Twelfth Night: Because he is very clever, he can pretend to be a fool. There are many smart people, but there are not many smart and confused people, and they are confused, not foolish, but wise. It is a great philosophy for dealing with people in the world.
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Confusion is not stupidity, but a blessing
Throughout the ages, truly intelligent people have understood that confusion is a blessing.
Folk legend has such a story: One day, Zhu Yuanzhang walked to a large hall that was about to be completed, looked at the carved beam painting building, the magnificent decoration, thought of his poverty at that time, looked around at no one, and couldn't help but say: I originally just wanted to grab some belongings, eat enough, have clothes to wear, which Cheng wanted to get a throne. Laughing, he looked up and was startled, and there was a painter on the girder who was working.
Zhu Yuanzhang was shocked to realize that he had lost his word. So he immediately ordered the old painter to come down, but even after shouting several times, the old painter did not respond. Zhu Yuanzhang sent someone to call the old painter again, only to see him come down from the roof in a trembling state, kneeling on the ground and pleading guilty: "The little man is deaf, and the sin deserves to die!" Zhu Yuanzhang listened, thinking that just now it was so far away, what could a deaf old man hear? He left, ignoring it.
Seeing that the emperor was gone, the old painter sweated on his head. In fact, every word Zhu Yuanzhang said, he could hear clearly. But he knew in his heart that if he didn't pretend to be deaf, his life would be in danger.
When it is time to be confused, do not be stingy with "stupidity".
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Confusion is not cowardice, but a kind of cultivation
As the old saying goes, "Leave a line for others, and see each other in the future", is to warn us not to be too cruel, to leave some retreat for ourselves. To be a person, many times we must learn to pretend to be confused, to spare others and spare others, and to leave room for others in everything.
Ancients: When the water is clear, there is no fish, and if people are too observant, there is no strategy. Choosing to be confused is a kind of concession, but not cowardice, but a kind of kindness, a kind of cultivation, a philosophy of life.
Smart people have a confused heart: big things are clear, small things are confused.
Understand what to say and what not to say.
Understand what to do and what not to do.
Understand when to flex and when to stretch.
Zeng Guofan is also a person who has adhered to the "confused view" all his life, and he has greatly admired the word "respect and forgiveness" in his life, leaving room for people to pay attention to the world.
He once said, "Today I am in a good situation, and I expect that he will be in a bad situation in the day; today I will overbear others with great arrogance, and I expect that he will also overpower my body or my descendants with great arrogance." Often with the word 'forgiveness' to self-mourning, often leaving the rest of the people, it is difficult and less. ”
As the saying goes: thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi. Zeng Guofan not only practiced the word "confused" himself, but also used it to warn his son Zeng Jize:
Ze'er is naturally intelligent, but it is too exquisite and transparent, and it is advisable to use some work from the word 'hun'.
Zeng Jize obeyed his father's teachings, and after entering the official field, he was low-key and introverted, so he stepped forward.
Really smart people have a smart and confused heart, clear in big things and confused in small things. As a result, the career has been able to develop steadily, the cultivation has become more and more advanced, and life has been relaxed.
Isn't such confusion the highest state of a wise person?