"Dear child finally comes home"
The abduction movie "Dear" came seven years after its release
The real sense is approaching the finale
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But "going home" for Sun Zhuo
Maybe it's like suddenly discovering that the world is a huge lie
The new world to which Truman is engaged
Haste arrived
On physical coordinates, a family was reunited
Psychological coordinates, face reunion
They seem to have some way to go
Traffickers brutally separate more than just one family
Fourteen years of separation
Also preempted a child before the age of 18
All life memories and family belonging
How do trafficked families face reunion?
On December 6, the son of Sun Haiyang, the prototype of the story of the abduction movie "Dear", was found after 14 years of abduction, and the family was reunited to recognize his relatives.
Whether it is the hugs and tears of a family of three at the scene of the recognition, or the Tracyphus-style search for the Sun Haiyang family over the years, this story of loss and recovery has touched the hearts of countless people.
"Supporting the sale of the same crime" "How did the new identity of abducted children come about"... The social, gender and legal issues behind the trafficking of children have been repeatedly discussed.
At the same time, the recovered child also faces a huge upheaval: suddenly learning that he is a child who has been trafficked, everything is fake, identity, name, parents and relatives.
Sun Zhuo's choice to stay in Shandong to live with his adoptive parents and the news that he did not hate his adoptive parents was exposed, causing many netizens to "hate iron is not steel" style heated discussion.
For many onlookers on the Internet, this is a judgment question with a "standard answer", or even a "sending question": whether it is from the background of being abducted, or the motivation of adoptive parents ("buyers") to raise "children", the love of parents for many years to find children... Looking at it, many people think that they must return to their own parents.
And Sun Zhuo, the "rescued" in everyone's eyes, does not seem to have handed over a satisfactory answer that is recognized by the public. But what did he do wrong? Life is not a black and white judgment, and 18 years of feelings cannot be erased overnight.
"How to face the reunion after recognizing relatives" is the next problem that Sun Zhuo's family faces. No one can replace Sun Zhuo to face, for the choice of individuals, we should bless, understand, not blame.
"How about Truman after he left?" Reality is more complicated than movies
"Truman's World" movie stills, Truman who has been stared at since birth
In the classic movie "Truman's World", the entire life has been "shown" to the audience since birth, and has been living under the eyes of the whole world for more than 30 years without knowing it, and the trajectory of parents and friends and even life is set by the director... The protagonist, Truman, desperately escapes the "world" that closes him.
Truman who suddenly learned the truth
At the end of the movie, in the cheers of the audience, he stepped into the truman of the real world and wanted to rebuild his life.
In a sense, Sun Zhuo is the "Truman" of the real world.
From the moment he was told who he was, the line between true and false was blurred: blood is fake, what about 14 years of affection? Parents who are about to recognize their relatives are real and strange.
Because of the question of which side Sun Zhuo ultimately followed in life, this recognition of relatives caused more attention, and yesterday, the entry of "Fu Jiantao Sun Zhuo" was also on the Weibo hot search.
Fu Jiantao and Sun Zhuo are both children who were abducted and sold by the same person 14 years ago and rescued this year. The difference is that Fu Jiantao remembers the abduction, remembers his family, remembers many details: "He said I took you out to play, and the little yellow dog was waiting for us outside." He carried me on his shoulders and flipped out of the fence of the community...", while another younger child, Sun Zhuo, had no memory of the abduction and never doubted his identity, until one day, he was suddenly told the truth.
Many netizens said that Fu Jiantao was luckier than Sun Zhuo, and he remembered his parents. Some people say that this is the child who does not recognize the thief as a father, and Sun Zhuo is too ignorant. Such talk has been seen everywhere on the Internet in recent days.
But why compare the two victims in this way?
In the vision of God of the indignant bystander:
Fu Jiantao is a lucky child, he remembers the occurrence of abduction, grows up with doubts, confirms early that he is not biological, returns to his parents with love and gratitude, and is a child with love and righteousness.
Sun Zhuo, who did not know anything, grew up to 18 years old, never doubted his origins, until he was told of his "origin", faced with the choice of where to go, made the "wrong" choice in people's hearts, and then was accused of right and wrong.
"Who is luckier" is a cruel comparison between families whose children are trafficked and children who are trafficked at an early age. For parents looking for children, the health and safety of their children is already the greatest luck.
Fu Jiantao is undoubtedly a comforting child, he and his parents are two-way search, two-way thoughts.
However, the "realistic version of Truman" Sun Zhuo, in the face of the huge trickery of fate and the changes in life, should also get the kindness of onlookers.
Life is more complicated than the movie, in any case, for the Sun and Fu families, it is a happy thing to find the abducted children.
I hope that Sun Zhuo, like Fu Jiantao, will get more kindness from the outside world rather than accusations after recognizing his relatives, and re-establish a loving connection with his family.
Author Tong Tong