Text/Wei Chen
Everyone can't do without interpersonal communication, but some people have good popularity, and some people have bad popularity.
In fact, life has never been lively, we meet in a hurry, and then leave in a hurry, and the fate is only between gathering and dispersing.
It doesn't matter if you fit in or out, the meaning of life is never elsewhere, but in itself.
Once a person reaches a certain age, he will involuntarily be a person who no longer wants to join the crowd.
If you look closely, you will find that more and more people around you have no friends. Everyone seems to be very thin, even if life is not smooth, they no longer want to talk, but silently in their hearts, emotionally indifferent or angry.
We have to come into contact with a variety of people every day, most of whom are just nodding their heads, and a small number of whom maintain a polite smile for the common good.
In the adult world, there are too many people without friends. It's just that everyone is afraid of face and is unwilling to admit it.
In people who don't have friends, there are often the following 5 characteristics, see if there is you.
Uninhibited personality, longing for freedom and pursuing freedom
Everyone has their own personality, but some people hide their personality for life, and some people pursue themselves and abandon the world to live the life they want.
There is a passage in "We All Have to Be Well" that reads: "When we were young, we gave up, thinking that it was just a relationship, and later learned that it was actually a lifetime." When we were old, we cherished it, thinking that it was forever, but later we learned that it was only a moment. ”
In fact, whether it is a lifetime or an instant, it is only a judgment after that. About happiness, it is always a summary of a lifetime, and about happiness, it is often only a momentary judgment.
No one can predict the separation, perhaps a turn each other has become a stranger, the fate of the gathering is not controlled by subjective feelings, some people choose to go, some people are free.
The person with the uninhibited personality, longing for freedom, tried his best to break free from life to pursue.
For some people, loneliness is a heartfelt choice that doesn't make them feel bad.
Excessive inferiority, fear of social interaction is always fleeing
The relationship between people is not all warm, only the companionship given by people who understand you is warm companionship.
Unfortunately, who in this world can really understand who, everyone is busy with their own lives, clenching their teeth to work every day, being wronged or unfair treatment, and can only find a corner where no one is, crying alone.
Everyone has low self-esteem, but there are very few confident people.
Zhang Yueran said: "Sitting alone in the corner, I leaned against the cold wall expressionlessly, absorbing the only bit of heat from the hot tea in my hand. Looking at the laughing crowd, still smiling, my sadness was not noticed. ”
Not everyone is good at articulating. There are some things that I want to talk about, but I don't know how to say them.
Some people are used to hiding in the corner and grieving alone, trying to blend in with the crowd and fleeing in panic. They have excessive inferiority complex and suffer from social phobia.
In the trough period, once in distress, birds and beasts scattered
A person can only see the truth when he is in distress. It's easy to add icing on the cake, but it's hard to send charcoal in the snow.
This world has always been easy to get, and confidants are hard to find. The number of friends does not depend on the number at all, but on the quality.
When people are in a low period, although there are all kinds of disadvantages, there is a reality, that is, they can easily see the relationship around them.
Mr. Yang Dai once said: "When you are in a high position, all you see is flashy spring dreams, and when you are in a humble place, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the situation." There are all kinds of changes in the world, each with its own difficulties, and everyone only sees the world in their own eyes, and cannot see the whole picture. ”
When people are in trouble, the years are passing, and what is left is the confidant of true feelings, and the little people who leave are vain and false.
Too many people are not lucky, and may not have the opportunity to meet the legendary confidant in their lifetime.
Once in distress, birds and beasts scattered. It is both unfortunate and fortunate.
Likes to be solitary, introverted, and taciturn
There are always some people who are not born to be lively, just like to be alone.
They expect to be alone, because when they are alone, they don't have to cater to others, and they can save a lot of time and energy to improve themselves.
This kind of person is strong in heart, independent in personality, has good life planning, and takes the initiative to stay away from useless social interactions.
He seems to be taciturn and introverted, but in fact he has a good idea, and the nobleman speaks slowly.
There is no distinction between introverts and extroverts, introverts are wise and calm, and extroverts are enthusiastic.
The Analects of Li Ren has a cloud: "A gentleman wants to be sensitive to words and sensitive to deeds." "Words spoken are like water spilled out, and truly wise people are always careful in their words and deeds.
It can be said to be a kind of ability, not a kind of wisdom. The more you talk, the more shallow it seems, and the wider your friends are, the more difficult the road of life is.
Seeing through reality, I have been emotionally devastated
Bai Yansong once said: "There are always such moments in a person's life, your heart has long been chaotic and the world has been turned upside down, but in the eyes of others, you are just a little more silent than usual, and no one feels strange." This kind of war is destined to be one-sided. ”
In this life, some of the pain and pain are destined to be borne silently by themselves.
People who have been emotionally battered are more likely to see through reality. They understand that the road is dangerous and obstructive, there is no need to disturb others, all beings are suffering, and the only way to cross is to cross themselves.
Wounded people are more vigilant, and they are reluctant to have too much contact with others, because they deeply understand the truth that it is better to seek others than to seek themselves.
When a person no longer values networking very seriously, it is when he begins to work hard to make himself stronger.
The things that can be lost have never really belonged to you, so we don't have to feel sorry for it.
Please feel free for the rest of your life, don't be demanding.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.