Quanzhou Anshen Psychological Hospital: The incidence of depression in children and adolescents increases with age. Shockingly, not only do adults suffer from depression, but so do children who should be carefree. Although depression is often found in adolescents, it can begin at any age. The reason is that in the long-term education, little by little, it is infiltrated and eventually revealed.
Why do children get depressed?
First of all, the pressure on the child is very high.
In the eyes of many parents, grades are still the most important evaluation criteria for children. Parents with educational anxieties can only be relieved by their children's academic performance. As a result, the child becomes a bearer of anxiety and lives under the high expectations of their parents for a long time.
When children's inner anxieties are not resolved, their physical and mental development will deviate. Every time they don't meet expectations, they become more frustrated and lose their sense of self.
It is often heard that a child who has experienced years of high pressure and is on the verge of collapse says: "I don't think my mother loves me, and she will only love me if I get a perfect score," he complained.
He was especially upset when he cried out loud about how hard it was to do what he loved.
However, life is not a test paper, there is no standard answer, and the standard of "excellent" is not limited to good grades.
Our parents should pay more attention to their children's strengths than other people's children. Be patient and guide to help your child find the right path and let him walk every path.
Second, the emotional neglect of parents leaves a trauma on the child.
Many parents have a hard time acknowledging their children's pain and bad emotions. In the face of children's help, they are indifferent, and even think that it is their own fault, as if they can make their own choices. Ignoring the child's real needs and feelings will not only comfort the child, but also hurt the child's sharp edge.
Real people are people with problems, difficulties, moments of vulnerability, illness and collapse. Parents who do not accept their child's nature, are harshly critical, treat each other coldly, or show more sadness than their child when they are vulnerable, and the child may feel helpless. Children who are treated in this way not only cannot accept themselves, but constantly blame themselves.
Finally, the contempt and denial of parents.
Many parents consider parenting to be "high standards" and constantly point out and criticize their children's mistakes. Doing this for a long time will not only help the child grow, but also easily make the child feel frustrated. Because the establishment of children's self-awareness has a lot to do with the evaluation of children by parents.
Self-knowledge refers to your ability to see and understand, including self-observation and self-evaluation. In fact, to put it bluntly, children have a clear positioning of themselves and can correctly understand their own advantages and disadvantages.