Wen 丨 Qingxin Junyue
"Just right, seeing your happiness, so happy your happiness."
- Haruki Murakami
If I had to describe the recently released movie Endless Climb in one sentence, I think I would say that it is a film that gives people strength and courage.
The whole film was filmed on Mount Everest, truly recording the whole process of Xia Boyu's fifth impact on Mount Everest and successfully reaching the summit, this uncle who was nearly ancient and had his legs amputated for 43 years, ran to his dream with decades of persistence and faith, and also proved to the world with his life: "Imperfect and what, we can still shine." ”
Xu Zheng once commented that "Endless Climbing" is the most touching movie of the year.
I agree with this, but the touching point of the film lies not only in Xia Boyu's fighting spirit of being crippled, but also in the ordinary love between Xia Boyu and his wife for decades.
Go chase your dreams
Xia Boyu's wife, an old man with reading glasses, short hair, and a petite figure.
In the shot, she is a little restrained, but when she mentions her husband, she seems to forget the tension, and only the warmth in her eyes is left.
When asked by others about how she saw her husband's dream-chasing behavior, she paused to say she was supportive and understanding, even though other relatives in the family weren't so in favor.
From the accidental injury of Xia Boyu's legs in 1975 and forced amputation, to the experience of cancer, blood clots and other diseases, she has been taking good care of Xia Boyu's life. In order to support her husband's dream, she also paid a lot, not only took on more family responsibilities, but even spent all the family's savings in order to prepare for the summit, but also sold a house under their name.
They are not rich in life, and they have also been in financial crisis for a while.
But even so, she still didn't have any complaints. She once said of Xia Boyu: "He is a very simple person, so he will try to do what he wants to do." Perhaps for her, she does not want her husband's dreams to be hindered, and she does not want her husband's life to have regrets, because she knows better than anyone how much effort her husband has made and how many hardships she has experienced in order to climb Mount Everest.
This reminds me of the saying: "Behind every successful man, there is a woman who silently supports him." Behind Xia Boyu's challenge to the roof of the world and the courage to climb Mount Everest, there is also a woman who silently supports him, and his wife turns love into firm support, accompanies Xia Boyu through the dark years, survives repeated failures, and finally reaches the top of the land of dreams.
Your dream is to reach the summit, and my dream is to return safely
In the film, Xia Boyu has a gourd-shaped peace charm hanging around his neck, and he once showed off to others that his wife had specially asked for him.
Every time on TV or other programs, Xia Boyu would let this peace charm be revealed, and his wife would excitedly call him when she saw this scene to tell him that she had seen the peace charm she gave him, which was like a secret code with a sharp heart.
When the wife in the camera is traveling far away, she is always willing to sit by the window and look at the distant sky, maybe that is the direction where Xia Boyu is, or she is praying that her husband can return safely, or maybe she is recalling the past of their lives together... Her heart has always followed her, and where he is, her heart is there.
In 2018, when preparing for the last sprint to Mount Everest, Xia Boyu had just recovered from a blood clot, worried about her husband's body, she accompanied her husband to the hospital to do the relevant examinations, on the way home she told the recorder, I hope this time he can succeed, but I am really worried about his body, this is my only worry.
Xia Boyu, who set off in full gear, carried a full bag of medicine, which his wife prepared for him in advance, which may have increased some burdens and troubles, but this is his wife's full of worry and love, he can't refuse, he won't refuse. After that trip, as long as the signal allowed, he would talk to his wife every day, and the opening words on the other end of the phone were always "How are you doing?" ”
If climbing Mount Everest is Xia Boyu's lifelong dream, then his wife's dream may be that he can return safely.
Success is very important to Xia Boyu, and as a wife, she is more concerned about her husband's body than realizing her dreams. I can understand her feelings, her husband has long surpassed everything for her, and it is this kind of love that allows her to support and accompany him without complaint or regret.
She understood his persistence, and he understood her hardships
In the film, Xia Boyu shed tears twice when facing the camera, both because he thought of his wife's years of efforts and hardships, he was grateful for everything her wife did for him, and he felt that he owed his wife and son.
When he successfully reached the summit of Mount Everest, he called his wife for the first time and choked up to tell her that he had succeeded and he thanked her.
He said to the camera: "Climbing to the top is not the last stop, going home is." And his next plan is to take his wife out more, enjoy the rest of his life, and make up for the lack of husband.
Xia Boyu, who realized his dream, has never forgotten what his wife has paid for this, he understands that without his wife's support, perhaps he has long lost the opportunity to succeed, from beginning to end, she understands his persistence, he also understands her difficulty.
For Xia Boyu, there is a contradiction between insisting on dreams and fulfilling family responsibilities, but his wife's support and understanding make this antagonistic relationship not a contradiction, so he sincerely appreciates his wife, is grateful to his family, and his courage and strength are given by his wife and family, so his unwillingness and non-abandonment are not only because of himself, but also to live up to his wife's efforts.
Bi Shumin once said: "Man himself is a very complex animal, and the relationship between husband and wife is the most elusive of all the relationships that people enjoy." But this most complicated intimate relationship is so simple between Xia Boyu and his wife, there is no tit-for-tat quarrel, no chicken feathers complaining, and no endless calculations.
This reminds me of the marriage between Qian Zhongshu and Yang Chen, in order to make Qian Zhongshu feel at ease to create, Yang Dai took care of all the housework and expenses, temporarily gave up his own writing, carefully took care of Qian Zhongshu's life, and finally soon achieved the classic work "Siege of the City", and also achieved an enviable marital love.
There are thousands of emotions in the world, and perhaps this is the most beautiful way love looks.
Qingxin Junyue, an emotional observer, ta said book critic, film critic. Warm you, me with words.