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On the issue of women choosing a son-in-law, there has always been a widely circulated saying in the folk, that is, when marrying, you must remember to see your mother-in-law. Behind this statement, it is most likely that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, or that the mother-in-law will steal her position in her husband's heart in future life.
But in fact, this is only the appearance, and the real core is in the father-in-law. If the father-in-law has a good character, takes care of the family, and loves his wife and children, then the mother-in-law will basically not do something that makes it difficult for the daughter-in-law to do.
When Zhao Shasha just fell in love with Yu Tao, many relatives, friends and friends around her jumped out and kindly reminded her: "When there is nothing to do, you must often go to the small house to run, see what kind of person her mother is, save yourself from marrying in the future."
At that time, Zhao Shasha went to Yu Tao's house almost every day, but she rarely saw Yu Tao's mother. After all, during the period of love, Zhao Shasha is not good at asking about the whereabouts of others every time. However, Yu Tao's father left a good impression on her.
The old man didn't say much, and every time he went to the house, he just asked Zhao Shasha's parents at the dinner table out of politeness. Others, neither "check the household registration", nor talk about special talk, basically other times are a person to the bedroom to watch TV, leaving more space for young people, this is a courteous and courteous old man.
Later, she and Yu Tao married, and a year later a son was born. When the child is full moon, many relatives and friends go to the room to see the child, but the father-in-law never goes in to see it.
At the beginning, Zhao Shasha was still quite aggrieved, thinking that her father-in-law did not like boys. Because the two brothers of the Yu Tao family have no sister or sister, the in-laws have always been quite rare girls. And I gave birth to a fat boy, how can I get a foothold in my in-laws' house after this?
Yu Tao advised her: "If you think too much, who will not like boys." They don't have no granddaughters, the eldest brother has two in the family. My father's thinking is too traditional, and he feels that it is not like the husband entering the daughter-in-law's room. He's trying to avoid suspicion. ”
Zhao Shasha still didn't believe it, and Yu Tao continued to help her with her thoughts: "Think about it, whether it was before or after we got married, my father never entered our room once, right?" Even if the door is usually open, he didn't step into the door for half a step, right? Also, the crucian carp soup and chicken soup you drink during confinement, those fish and old hens are all bought for you by dad himself to go to the market to catch the morning market. ”
Later, the child can be carried out of the room at any time, and Zhao Shasha can really open her heart. The father-in-law called the eldest grandson a kiss, and he was reluctant to put it down when he held it.
The mother-in-law likes to break up thoughts, and sometimes when she sees Zhao Shasha making her home as dirty and messy as the "pig nest", she can't help but say a few words to her. Seeing that Zhao Shasha often went to her mother's house to take this and that, she would also muttered two times with dissatisfaction, and she was sad that the money earned by her son was moved to her mother's house by her daughter-in-law.
But the father-in-law pulled the mother-in-law back to the room, and very quietly advised: "How their own money loves to spend is their own business, young people have their own way of life, we just have to help them bring good children, don't mix." ”
"What is their own money, xiao Zhao will not help others to do some work of shoe material?" The three melons and two dates, there is not enough to eat, all of them are spending my son's money. Besides, she spends her own money I have no problem, but she has been stealing things from her mother's house like a hamster all day long, giving his brother's family money and things that are not a tool, and why does my son marry a wife and still raise the size of his brother-in-law's family? The mother-in-law's voice shook the ears.
"Oh, what can happen then? And can't tell the son to know, if our grumpy son knows, he must not fight with Xiao Zhao, divorce is possible, are you willing to see the son and wife scattered? Okay, Xiao Zhao herself is also a mother, she is willing to vacate her home for the welfare of her mother's family, then it is up to her to go. When her own son grows up and can't come up with the money when he uses it, she knows to reflect on herself. We are in-laws, and we can't manage it so wide. The father-in-law patiently advised the mother-in-law.
Zhao Shasha was very angry with her mother-in-law for being nosy, but when she heard her father-in-law's words of persuasion to her mother-in-law, she had a feeling of being suddenly awakened.
Yeah, I'm so dissatisfied. Husband hard work outside every day to make money, and put all the money to their own custody, how much to spend leftovers never ask, the only requirement is to take care of the in-laws and children, they do not love to do housework, the husband will find housekeeping. But as for himself, he always wanted to supplement his mother's family and his brother's family.
All along, I always felt that my parents had never enjoyed happiness in the countryside, so I wanted to compensate them more. After the younger brother got married, he had two children, his work was not good, his life was miserable haha, he wanted to help.
But I forgot that I also have my own small family to maintain, my own husband to be distressed, my own children to support...
He often subsidizes the affairs of his brother's family, if it is not the father-in-law has been helping to hide, the mother-in-law who can't hold things in his heart has long told her husband, even if she does not divorce in the face of the child, it will be difficult to have a safe life, money, husband will also be taken back together.
Now Zhao Shasha has changed, buying something for her parents, buying a copy for her in-laws, and buying more things for her father-in-law that he likes to eat. She said that she missed her father-in-law very much, although she knew that her father-in-law did all this for Yu Tao's sake, but it was herself who benefited.
Therefore, every time someone says that marrying someone to see the mother-in-law, Zhao Shasha will take over the stubble: "In fact, it is more important to have a good father-in-law than to have a good mother-in-law, and the most important thing for a married person is the father-in-law." ”
To this end, she also summed up two reasons: first, the father-in-law is good, will play the role of "fire extinguisher" in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, on the contrary, it will incite the wind and ignite the fire, so that the family has no stable life; second, the father-in-law is good, the mother-in-law does not lack love, and there will not be too much excess energy to stick to the son, mix with the son's small family. Third, if the father-in-law presses the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in time, there will be less gossip to the husband's ears, which will greatly reduce the generation of marital contradictions.
Thinking about it carefully, Zhao Shasha's reflection and summary do have a certain truth. In a family, the focus of the contradiction between two women is nothing more than the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the contradiction between husband and wife, and every man in the family can use love and patience to resolve the resentment in his wife's heart, then the contradiction between the big family and the small family will be reduced by more than half. On the contrary, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only become more and more intense.
Therefore, instead of marrying someone to see the mother-in-law, it is better to say that marrying the father-in-law is more in line with most women's mate selection considerations, and the top pillar of the father-in-law's family is stable, and the emotions between the family are more stable, which is also the luck of the son and daughter-in-law. (Figure from the network, graphics and text independent)