In most of the blind date introductions, the most heard by the matchmaker is: the woman's parents are very anxious, you have to work hard, the boy should take more initiative, ask the girl to come out to dinner, be generous.
However, the family is in a hurry, and the girl wants to get married, it is really two different things. To the point of blind date, the age is not small, and many because of high requirements, personality and other reasons. Most of them are girls who are not easy to get along with.
Among the girls I am dating, the vast majority of girls do not want to get married, or want to get married and are afraid to get married. It's a very contradictory mentality. Especially the older the age, the more serious the contradiction will be.
In fact, don't say it's a girl, as far as my older leftover man is concerned, it's the same. On the one hand, I think I can get married early, and on the other hand, I am particularly afraid of getting married.
Mainly because marriage is not as beautiful as imagined, I see more of the various unhappiness of the people around me. There are also less and less expectations for marriage.
Of course, there is also one biggest fear, that is, no money. Think about the salary is so little, to buy a house, to buy a car, as well as children's training fees, the elderly's medical expenses, etc., so many expenses, relying on such a little salary, really do not have the courage to get married.
When a concern and worry, excess itself is beautiful. It is not easy to feel that those who are married must be happier than single. Conversely, if marriage doesn't improve quality of life, it's better to be single.
With the increase of age, I now feel that if it were not for the fact that my parents were constantly nagging and urging marriage every day, I really did not feel that there was anything wrong with being single now.
In the past, I may have envied others, in pairs, with children in groups, looking particularly happy. But as I get older, I'm less and less likely to envy others.
Maybe it's seeing through, maybe it's despair, maybe it's timidity. Now I feel that it is very good to be alone, to read a book quietly every day, to do something I want to do, and there seems to be nothing unhappy in my life.
I believe that this kind of thinking, both men and women, is actually similar. The older you get, the lower your desire to get married.
For marriage, reason is superfluous when impulses are superfluous. Once rationally thought. Wherever you want money, how to live happily can be said.
The only way to relieve worries is to get rich. This is the self-deprecation of middle-aged people and helplessness. Money can really solve 99% of the current troubles, but unfortunately there is no money.
There are a lot of people who often say that you're not single because you don't have money. I may have thought it made sense before, but now when I get older, I find that it is because I don't have any money.
Because I don't have money, I have to work hard, have to work part-time, and do side business. At the end of the day, all the time and energy, are making money. You said that you want to make the girls happy, take the girls to dinner, watch movies. Sorry, middle-aged people who make money are not available.
Because I don't have money, I don't have self-confidence. Since I started admitting that I was just an ordinary person. Every day, I look at my income and think about various future expenses. Start to get angry, start to account. The mentality is no longer the same as before, and it used to cost as much as you earn. Now how much you earn is not enough to spend, because of the pressure, more demand, less income.
At last:
As you get older, being single can become awkward. People around you will constantly remind you that you are getting married. In the unit, I felt completely untied with everyone and became incompatible.
The older you get, the more afraid you are of getting married. Afraid of not meeting the person you like, afraid of all kinds of quarrels and contradictions after marriage. Afraid of not really getting to know each other for a short time.