How to guide your child to face setbacks correctly

In the process of growing up, every child will always encounter some small setbacks, such as failing the exam, or having a conflict between friends, or failing the game. These small setbacks are not a big deal, they are the best classroom for children to grow and learn, can make children stronger, braver, and develop a tenacious will not to be afraid of failure and perseverance.

However, many parents now can't bear to let their children suffer setbacks, and they can't bear to let their children suffer failures. When the child encounters difficulties, they immediately help the child solve it; Try to pave the way for your child and remove all obstacles for your child; It is always praise and applause to give children... Until the child grows up, he has not tasted the taste of frustration.

However, what these parents do not know is that everything needs to rely on their own efforts, and if parents blindly dot on their children and pave all the way for them, it will be difficult for children to support themselves in the future. Moreover, no one's life is smooth sailing, and it is inevitable that they will encounter setbacks and failures of one kind or another. If the child is accustomed to walking a smooth road and listening to the heart, he will not be able to bear any setbacks in the future. Once there is a setback in the future, the child will be easily completely crushed and will never be able to stand up again. Otherwise, how can we often see such reports: so-and-so high school students have always been smooth sailing, studying very well, but the college entrance examination has failed for some reason. As a result, the child who could not withstand the failure and pressure was completely defeated, and since then, he has been devastated, and even has suicidal thoughts.

In the process of children's growth, parents should educate their children on setbacks, so that they can learn skills in failure and setbacks, and enhance their courage and ability to resist setbacks. Of course, we must not overly hit the child's self-confidence, let alone add too much obstacle to the child. Otherwise, the child's emotions will be more depressed and lose self-confidence and courage. At the same time, when children encounter setbacks, parents should encourage their children and affirm their children, so that children can get rid of bad emotions such as disappointment and sadness. "The sword blade comes out sharpened, and the plum blossom fragrance comes from the bitter cold." The road to success is full of stumbling blocks, but these current stumbling blocks are often the stepping stones for the future. Although Hawking is confined to a wheelchair, he uses his thoughts to open up a starry sky for people; although Charlotte is oppressed by life, she uses "Jane Eyre" to awaken the conscience of many people who have not slept; Although Beethoven is deaf in both ears, he still has to "choke the throat of fate and push classical music creation to a peak" Every fall is to make the next time more stable and farther. Although human nature is lazy, it is like a hammer, always hitting the strings of the depths of the heart. It is like the light at the end of the road, inspiring people to move forward, even if they are stabbed with blood by the thorns in front of them. It is a dynamic, a power that pulsates in our chests!