Before watching the news to see that there are children committing suicide, most of the elders will say: Now the children are here to collect debts, not at all distressed parents, parents raise you so big, say two sentences, hit twice what's wrong? Saying that you and beating you are all for your own good, and outsiders will take care of you. Tell me how this makes your parents live?
The school teacher said this: Today's students have poor psychological endurance, even like when we were young, we had food to eat and were happy to go to school. I can't say anything now.
Their reaction on this issue is surprisingly consistent, that is, thousands of mistakes are the child's fault, even if you say (wrong) what you say ( wrong) something , do ( wrong ) it is for your own good, you should suffer, you should be considerate, you should understand, otherwise you are not right. The attitude is called a matter of course.
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When listening to it, I feel that something is wrong but I don't know how to refute it, and then I think about it, isn't this the psychology of "not seen is not"? Or there is also the psychology of evasion, the fear of being held accountable, the first to be strong, occupying the moral high ground.
Today's children are psychologically fragile, but weren't they vulnerable before? Now the children can't stand to be crazy and commit suicide, and the previous children are crazy and committing suicide so that you can know why they are crazy and why they committed suicide?
Elementary school classmates have a cousin who is a few years younger than us, and the first time we met, we felt that she was different from a normal child, of course, she couldn't see anything wrong if she didn't talk. Speaking of intellectual disability, it is not good to say that she has not yet reached the age of school, but she recognizes people; say mental disorders, I have not seen her have a seizure, usually well.
Classmates say that cousins and parents quarrel in front of their children, scared like this (does this prove that it was normal?). ）。 At that time, I wondered what kind of quarrel it would take to scare the child like this, or was it caused by other reasons, and being frightened was just an excuse?
My cousin reached school age and didn't go to school or a special school. I stayed with my grandmother in the family shop. Outsiders are embarrassed to ask why they are not sent to the hospital for treatment, the mental illness caused by the day after tomorrow, if active treatment, it is not impossible to live like a normal person.
I have never met her parents, and her grandparents do not seem to have the intention of sending her to the hospital, if there is no accident, she will either raise her for a lifetime, or wait until she is old enough to marry, and casually find a family to send her away.
A male classmate in junior high school, inexplicably insane, at least in our opinion is a sudden disorder, because usually at school did not see him anything abnormal, at most introverted. His parents came to the school to make trouble, saying that the classroom teacher had beaten him like this.
The classroom teacher was a bit mean, unforgiving, and the students would sneer if they didn't obey. But it is indeed unjust to say that he beats students (not that the previous teachers will not beat students, but the supervision of economically developed areas is still in place, and once the teacher beats the students to the education bureau, the rice bowl is gone).
At that time, there was no monitoring in the classroom, the teacher and the parents were not clear in their own opinions, the school could not transfer the teacher to the library, did not let him give lessons to the students, and did not know whether there was money lost.
The child's mental disorder always has to be cured, and the classmates and their family do not know what to think, so they let him stay in the shop at home and take some medicine when the attack is finished. Other students passed by their shop and saw him, and people sat there and giggled when they saw them. Call him by name, and the look in his eyes will make you instantly understand that he doesn't recognize who you are.
The rest of their family did not see anything abnormal, and the neighbors around them said that his life was not good, and they did not want to say more as to how bad it was.
This is crazy and cannot be hidden, and outsiders will know it. Some of them died suddenly at home, as long as they did not die in front of outsiders, the family could hide it, and they couldn't hide it and cry again.
Many years ago, a girl in her early 20s in her hometown did not sleep without illness or pain, and when the family found out, people were already stiff. Whether the death is unclear should be sent for autopsy, at least check the cause of death. People don't send it, there is no funeral, and it is hastily buried.
A big living person just went like this, and the people around him had to ask why the good girl was gone? There is not a single superfluous word in the family, saying that everyone has a life, and she will leave (die) when the day comes.
This kind of thing is very rare (not to say that there are no, some people are genetic or chronic diseases have died), if the elderly people can't wake up, it is a blessing, such a young girl is very strange, at that time people who knew and did not know knew about it, adults were whispering, seeing us half-grown children immediately did not say. No one knows why she died or someone knows but can't say.
Some people say that children are actually fragile, whether they were before or now. It's just that in the past, poor, not enough to eat, people put their energy on the problem of eating a full meal, and few people will pay attention to the matter of mental health. When a child suddenly goes crazy or dies, he will say that he is evil or stimulated by what stimuli cannot be opened, and generally does not think or dare not admit that it is caused by long-term physical and mental oppression and abuse.
Besides, before the information was not developed, the child suddenly went crazy and committed suicide, except for relatives and friends and people who are more familiar with each other, outsiders know. Knowing it is also a strange child who does not understand things.
Today's children have a look at things, as long as it is not a poor rural area, the news is broadcast, most of China knows, a pass ten, ten passes a hundred can not appear that the current children are more fragile than before.
It is irresponsible to let children grow up in an unsuitable environment