Excellent parents are afraid that their children are not as good as themselves, ordinary parents hope that their children will surpass themselves, and educational anxiety will be born.
As the saying goes, "The dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse will punch holes", but when the real tiger father gives birth to a dog, it is estimated that he can be killed on the spot.
Parents are highly educated academics, children's learning is a mess, the father was even once angry to the heart attack, who can still calmly deal with it?
The parents are all 985 masters, but the helpless son is a "scum of learning", and the mother's bitter spit resonates
A young mother in Beijing shared her parenting experience online and complained about her scum son, which resonated with everyone.
The woman said that she and her husband graduated with a master's degree in 985, and after graduation, they settled in Beijing through the introduction of talents, and the family of the double combination of learning is bound to be the icing on the cake.
The father is also very concerned about his son's learning, and has been accompanying his child to do his homework since the first grade, almost not a day. As a result, now the child is in the third year of high school, but he begins to be bored with school, resulting in poorer and worse academic performance, and even becoming the "scum" in the class.
The child's Dongcheng District alone has a promotion rate of up to 70%, and as a result, his child now does not say one, not even three books can not be tested, and it is good to be able to successfully mix to graduate from high school.
This mother can't understand how to understand that Beijing has such a good educational resource, her parents are all from 985 masters, why is her son's learning a mess, is there no bit of genetics?
The mother helplessly said that even if the child does not study well, he is still a bar spirit, and he raises the bar with himself every day. My father was even angry with mebotics twice, and the family had to always have quick-acting heart-saving pills. Now they have no expectations for their children, only hope that he can be safe and healthy.
Netizens looked at the mother's complaints, began to talk about it, some people speculated that parents were too harsh on their children from childhood, resulting in rebellious psychology after growing up, and there will be boredom.
It may also be that the parents are too good and strong, and the child is easy to appear mediocre, after all, the intelligence level is normally distributed, and the child may just return to the mean.
Even Ding Yanqing, a professor at Peking University, had to accept his daughter's "ordinary", he was known as a "prodigy" since he was a child, recited the Xinhua Dictionary at the age of six, and is still a professor at Peking University.
As a result, his daughter is a scum, once anxious and distressed about this, helpless in the end the old father can only admit his fate, admit his daughter's mediocrity.
Some netizens also expressed empathy, many high-IQ parents around them will not educate their children, it is obvious that there is a problem with parents' education methods and attitudes. "Hoping for a son to become a dragon" is too eager, but it is easy to pick up seedlings and promote it, which is counterproductive.
This parent said that he did not expect much from his children, but this kind of public complaint is obviously still unwilling and unwilling to admit his fate, and it is difficult for children who grow up under such family education not to be bored with school.
In fact, it is not difficult to find that almost all parents have a certain degree of educational anxiety, parents always like to impose their will on their children, when there is a gap between reality and expectations, there is a contradiction.
Accepting that you have a mediocre child is also a lesson that parents must learn, expecting too much from your child and easily blunting your child's cognition.
There are survey data reality, 80% of parents want their children to become excellent top 10%, but the college entrance examination data shows that only 6% of students can be admitted to a book, and only 0.85% of people can be admitted to 985 colleges.
It can be seen that most people have to face their own mediocrity and the ordinariness of the next generation, appropriate expectations can provide the driving force for progress, excessive expectations are easy to become stumbling blocks, learn to face calmly, in order to let children grow up healthily.
Parents should not pass on their anxiety to their children, strengthen the pressure in their children's hearts, lead to their boredom, and finally gain more than they lose.
Write at the end:
The mentality of parents can be understood, but we must also pay attention to methods and scales, pay attention to the middle way, and be too eager to achieve results is not conducive to children's development.
Empathetic thinking, if it were you, could you accept that your own children are very mediocre?
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