Lin Yu is the eldest son of Lin Ruiyang and his ex-wife Zeng Zhezhen, and when Lin Yu was 8 years old, his parents broke down and divorced, and he was sentenced to his mother.
Because the mother has to support the family, the father has a new love, and he has very little care for Li Yu.
In the difficult years of growing up, the shadow of his parents' divorce hung over Lin Yu's head like a cloud, and his boyhood was gray.
All this stems from the parents' failed marriage, although the child was small at that time, but it subtly affected the child, so that his view of marriage was different from others.
Lin Ruiyang, 1960, was born in Taiwan, China.
His parents were in the small business and were relatively wealthy in the local area.
Before Lin Ruiyang was 5 years old, he lived a carefree life. At the age of 5, my parents had problems in their business and became poor overnight.
Parents can only go out to work, reduce their children's lives, and when the children are slightly older, let them give up their studies and go out to work to earn money and reduce the burden on the family.
Lin Ruiyang, 15 years old, half studying, while working, first with his brother to deliver beer, on weekends, will go to the factory to work as an hourly worker.
At the end of the day, tired and tired but not making much money, Lin Ruiyang did not want to live such a life, wanted to become rich.
After finishing high school, he entered the society to earn money and work, but he could only do some hard work.
However, this is not the life Lin Ruiyang wants, and he has been thinking about how to make a fortune.
But his friend told him: You are so handsome, it is a pity that you are not a star! He was also modest but took this sentence to heart.
By chance, Lin Ruiyang made a cameo appearance in a play. Although he is a newcomer, he gets a good pay.
Compared with filming, Lin Ruiyang prefers to be a director, and began to start from the most basic, working as an assistant, field reporter, assistant director, etc., and also became the assistant director of the famous director Yang Dechang.
After doing it for more than 2 years, he felt that he was capable enough to start directing, starting from shooting commercials, but the effect was average.
Lin Ruiyang felt that he had some experience, and he couldn't be a director, so he went to be an actor.
He signed a 5-year cooperation contract with a TV station, and at first he could only appear in a variety show, but he was favored by the director of "The Unknown Boy" and invited him to participate.
Lin Ruiyang walked into the audience's field of vision with his handsome appearance. Career to the next level, but also ushered in love.
In 1989, 29-year-old Lin Ruiyang was named "Taiwan's first red student", and countless scripts threw olive branches to him, and not all scripts could cooperate with him.
Among the many scripts, he liked "Dumb Wife" and did not expect to meet Zeng Zhezhen, who had just entered the show business circle.
That year, Zeng Zhezhen was 20 years old, still a small white in the show business circle, but because of her beauty, she became the lover of the students in the film industry.
In "Dumb Wife", Zeng Zhezhen played a supporting role and had a rivalry with the male protagonist played by Lin Ruiyang.
Lin Ruiyang was moved to see her beautiful and launched a strong pursuit on the set. Lin Ruiyang communicated with Zeng Zhezhen as a senior and taught her how to act.
Zeng Zhezhen admired Lin Ruiyang very much, and naively thought that he was seriously teaching, but he did not expect that he had other ideas in his heart.
Later, he began to confide in his heart, sending flowers to Zeng Zhezhen, and preparing surprises in the process of getting along normally.
Whether it is work or life, Lin Ruiyang has helped her, considerate and gentle, and impressed Zeng Zhezhen.
In love, Lin Ruiyang was even better for Zeng Zhezhen and took good care of her, making her think that this was love.
Not long after, Lin Ruiyang proposed to her, but she did not agree for a long time, but she was afraid of being snatched away by others.
He told Zeng Zhezhen: Anyone can have lace news, I definitely will not.
Zeng Zhezhen was very touched to hear this sentence, he was so sincere, he had other ideas, it was not right, nodded his head and agreed.
The two began to prepare for the wedding, and as a result, Lin Ruiyang's father fell ill, and their wedding could only be postponed.
Later, when his father died, Zeng Zhezhen told Lin Ruiyang that it didn't matter if he didn't hold a wedding. Just get a license, simply eat a meal as a marriage.
In 1990, less than a year after marriage, Zeng Zhezhen became pregnant, and Lin Ruiyang asked her to give up her job, saying that he wanted to raise her.
At that time, Zeng Zhezhen's career was on the rise, and there were so many opportunities that she did not want to let go. Lin Ruiyang has already said this, and can only withdraw from the circle and teach his son at home.
After the birth of his son, Lin Ruiyang was very happy and named Li He. Later, he gave birth to a daughter.
For the sake of his wife and children, he worked harder to make films and earn money to support his family.
Although there are also scripts that want to cooperate with Zeng Zhezhen and let her make a cameo appearance, he refuses, and the money he earns is enough to support the family.
Lin Ruiyang's career is thriving, staying in the crew for many years, having no time to accompany his wife, and missing his son's growth.
In Lin Yu's impression, the relationship with his father was not close, and it was as if Lin Ruiyang was a passerby in his childhood, and he entered the group within a few days at home.
Even if Lin Ruiyang rests at home, he does not play with his children, and all the things in the family are taken care of by his wife Zeng Zhezhen.
There is a gap between Lin Ruiyang and the child's wife, and Zeng Zhezhen told him: You should work less and spend more time at home with your children.
He told his wife seriously: Shoot more dramas, make more money, and our family can not worry about money.
Zeng Zhezhen knew that he was poor and afraid, and felt sorry for her husband, thinking that she would learn to understand him.
But Lin Ruiyang's whole energy was on work, and Zeng Zhezhen was becoming more and more insecure. In order to stay in shape, take diet pills, and as a result get sick and hospitalized, and even suffer from depression.
During this period, Lin Ruiyang did not express his concern, and the relationship between the two gradually became estranged.
That day, he returned home, and Zeng Zhezhen wanted to talk to him well.
Before Zeng Zhezhen could speak, Lin Ruiyang said: Divorce it. She was dumbfounded when she heard this, not believing that the person she loved would mention divorce.
Wanting to keep this marriage, Lin Ruiyang was firm in his thoughts.
In 1998, Lin Ruiyang moved out of the house and discussed with Zeng Zhezhen a suitable day to go through divorce procedures.
8-year-old Lin Yu watched his father pack up his things and leave home, he thought it would be the same as usual, and his father would return in a few days.
However, as soon as Lin Ruiyang left this time, he never returned to this home.
He asked his mother: Mom, why didn't Dad come home? Zeng Zhezhen patiently told her son: Mom is going to divorce Dad, and only Mom will love you in the future.
Lin Yu didn't believe it at all and asked his mother: Is there no room for redemption? Zeng Zhezhen looked at his son and shook his head with tears in his eyes.
On the day of the divorce, Lin Yu watched his parents go to get a license, collapsed at home and cried, not believing that his parents who had lived for 11 years were divorced.
He tried to persuade Lin Ruiyang not to divorce, but to no avail.
After the divorce, Lin Yu was raised by Zeng Zhezhen, and Lin Ruiyang gave maintenance every month, ranging from 60,000 to 100,000.
For the sake of this family, Zeng Zhezhen gave up her career in the show business, divorced herself and had nothing, and even living was a problem.
Lin Ruiyang still has a bit of conscience, giving the 3-story house to Zeng Zhezhen and the children. Even if Zeng Zhezhen and his children have a bad life, at least they still have a house.
Lin Ruiyang is also punctual, giving child support on time every month and on time every year, but he does not care about the child's living conditions and never asks.
Even he did not go to see the children, after the divorce of his parents, Lin Yu never felt the love of his father again.
Because all of Lin Ruiyang's thoughts were on Zhang Ting, he didn't have time to care about how his children's lives were and how their studies were.
Lin Ruiyang and Zhang Ting met when filming "Golden Night Fork", and on the set, he often took the initiative to communicate with Zhang Ting.
Zhang Ting, as an actor who has not been in the circle for a long time, has an attitude of humbly asking for advice in the face of his predecessors.
He also often asked Zhang Ting on the grounds of imparting filming experience, but Zhang Ting was embarrassed to refuse.
In the later process of getting along, Zhang Ting looked at Lin Ruiyang, who was 10 years older than himself, and felt that he was very attractive and admired him from the bottom of his heart.
Taking advantage of this opportunity, Lin Ruiyang confessed to Zhang Ting, and she shyly agreed.
At that time, Lin Ruiyang had just divorced, and he and Zhang Ting were in pairs, and the outside world was full of opinions.
Under such pressure, Lin Ruiyang stood up to protect Zhang Ting and hugged her unevenly, and Zhang Ting was very moved.
Later, Lin Ruiyang faded out of the entertainment circle and began to do business to support Zhang Ting's development in the entertainment industry.
Due to the impact of Zhang Ting's reputation, the development of the entertainment industry in Taiwan cannot continue.
Lin Ruiyang came up with a way to go to the mainland with Zhang Ting, and he was also doing business there, and Zhang Ting thought it was good.
Lin Ruiyang and Zhang Ting quickly set off and came to Shanghai for development.
While doing business, he helps Zhang Ting take care of his work. With his help, Zhang Ting began to shoot scenes and became famous.
Lin Ruiyang's business also gradually stabilized, and he proposed to Zhang Ting, but did not agree.
Zhang Ting was afraid that he would do this to his ex-wife, and Lin Ruiyang assured her that he would only love her for the rest of his life.
Once, Zhang Ting and Lin Ruiyang attended an event, and he prepared a surprise for Zhang Ting and knelt down to propose marriage.
Zhang Ting was very touched and nodded in agreement.
In 2006, Lin Ruiyang and Zhang Ting entered the marriage hall, and Zeng Zhezhen and his son Lin Yu were completely in the dark until they watched the news.
However, in the past few years, Zeng Zhezhen and her children have not had a good life at all.
Friends around her advised her to make a comeback to film, but she was rejected. She didn't want her children to be disturbed by the media, so she chose to do business.
Zeng Zhezhen has no Lin Ruiyang's business acumen at all, and it is good to do business without losing money, at least to maintain the life of the child, and the child is also very sensible, do not need her to worry.
In school, Lin Yu is an excellent student and wins glory for his mother. At home, he would help his mom with housework.
When his son did this, Zeng Zhezhen felt more guilty and wanted to do a good job in the business, and he lost money.
All this, Lin Ruiyang did not know, after the divorce he did not care, until the news broke that his ex-wife's life was not good.
He asked his agent to contact Zeng Zhezhen to help her.
When Lin Ruiyang's agent went to zeng Zhezhen, she was refused, and she had to rely on her own hands to support the child.
Friends around her can't see it, and her living conditions give her advice.
Friends found that Lin Yu inherited Lin Ruiyang's handsomeness and suggested that Zeng Zhezhen let her son go out to film to make money, but she refused.
Lin Yu, who was in the house, overheard a conversation between his mother and a friend.
Lin Yu knows how difficult life is after her mother divorced her father, and she is very distressed about her mother and wants to reduce the pressure on her mother.
While he was going to school, he was looking for opportunities to shoot.
As a result, Zeng Zhezhen knew about it, was very angry, and told his son that now he should focus on his studies and make money is something that his mother should consider.
After that, Lin Yu never mentioned filming anymore and concentrated on learning culture lessons, but he wanted to shoot dramas in his heart.
After Lin Yu graduated from The Culture University, he discussed with his mother that he wanted to follow the path of an actor.
The son is already an adult, and Zeng Zhezhen should not be in charge, so he lets his son go.
Lin Yu came to the Performance Department of Beijing College for further study and began to study acting.
At that time, Zhang Ting quit the show business circle and did business with Lin Ruiyang, doing a prosperous job.
However, Lin Yu watched their news and was not happy at all, and secretly resolved to film well and take good care of his mother and sister.
Lin Ruiyang knew that his son had come to Beijing to study, and he still pretended to care, but his son ignored him.
Later, Lin Ruiyang never contacted his son again.
Lin Yu also did not take it seriously, studied well, and has not yet graduated to sign a brokerage company and officially debuted in the entertainment industry.
The company planned a route for him, hoping to rely on the reputation of his father and stepmother to develop in the entertainment industry, so that he could get up faster.
Lin Yu refused such a request, and did his duty to shoot and record the program, not wanting to rely on anyone.
Later, he not only filmed, but also participated in the talent show, but his fame did not rise.
Lin Yu attended the event and was asked if there was more between him and his father, Lin Ruiyang, and he didn't want to answer.
Once, the media deliberately asked Lin Yu about the matter with his father, but he still did not say it, replying: "If you say too much, you will be scolded."
The media knew it when they heard this.
Over the years, although Lin Yu and Lin Ruiyang are father and son, they have no father-son relationship, he has very little contact with Lin Ruiyang, and he has no interaction when he grows up.
Lin Ruiyang did not even do the most basic to visit his son, let alone help his son, only thinking about Zhang Ting and her children.
Later, Lin Yu felt that this father did not need to be in contact, so he deleted WeChat, and Lin Ruiyang did not take the initiative to add.
Lin Yu was strong enough, well educated by Zeng Zhezhen, didn't care about these at all, it was enough to have maternal love.
Now that Lin Yu is 32 years old and his career has gradually stabilized, Zeng Zhezhen is worried about his son's lifelong events.
She hopes that her son can get married and have children early, and she also has the physical strength to show her son children.
Lin Yu is not in a hurry, although he has been in love, but it ended in a breakup, and he is more cautious about marriage.
His parents' failed marriage had a certain impact on him, fearing that his marriage would repeat the same mistakes as his father Lin Ruiyang.
When Zeng Zhezhen and Lin Ruiyang divorced, Lin Yu was still young and did not understand love and love, but it left a shadow in his heart, resulting in him not having much desire for marriage, and even fearing marriage.
Maybe Lin Ruiyang gave Lin Yu more love, maybe it wouldn't be like this.
As the saying goes: parents are a child's first teacher! Not only teach children how to grow up, but also how to learn to love someone.
Parents' behavior is subtly influencing children. The people who hurt the most from divorce are the children.