We all know that interpersonal skills are still very important in this society, such as a boss who takes care of subordinates, often will be rewarded by the efforts of employees, which actually shows that the respect between people is mutual, how you treat others will get the same return. Not only does today's society follow this law, but it also applies in ancient times.
Today we will talk about a real thing that happened in ancient times, which actually reflects how important it is for superiors to handle their relationships with subordinates. It happened in the late Spring and Autumn Period, when the princely state of Song was already very weak, and it was only a matter of time before the country was facing the fall of the country. But that's no reason to slack off.
In order to solve the crisis of the Song State, Hua Yuan often negotiated between the forces of the surrounding countries, or to win over friendly forces, or to talk about some conditions, so the Song State was also temporarily stabilized. I have to say that Hua Yuan's personal ability is still very strong, but he is not so wise in the handling of interpersonal relationships, and in the end he also paid a painful price for this.
In 607 BC, Zheng Guo launched a war against the Song State, when the Song State army Song Wengong hurriedly sent Hua Yuan to lead the army to meet the battle, Hua Yuan knew that the victory rate of frontal confrontation was very low, so it was like a way to improve morale, after all, in war, the morale of soldiers is a very important factor, and often the morale of the army can defeat the enemy army that is multiplied by themselves.
Hua Yuan can be said to understand this very well, so he searched for a lot of sheep, slaughtered and made sheep soup to treat the soldiers, plus some exciting chicken soup, the soldiers' war spirit really rose, after all, at that time, the Song State was weak, the soldiers saw the general take out so many sheep to treat themselves, or very moved, to know that mutton was a very scarce material at that time.
If this is the case alone, Hua Yuan's behavior can be said to be no problem at all, but what happened next can be said to have caused Hua Yuan to lose everything. When the soldiers were all eating meat and drinking soup, there was a person who was staring dryly, and this person was the coachman who drove for Hua Yuan, Yang Hui, because without Hua Yuan's permission, the sheep would naturally not eat. At this time, someone found this problem, and reminded Hua Yuan, but he did not expect Hua Yuan to say impatiently: "Fighting is a soldier's business, and the coachman is making a fuss." ”
It can be said that the sheep did not eat meat, maybe the sheep did not want anything in their hearts, but Hua Yuan's words made the sheep thoroughly hurt his heart, to know that after so many years of driving for him, there was no merit and hard work, but I did not expect Hua Yuan to say such hurtful words. When the battle was fought the next day, the soldiers saw Hua Yuan's car rushing all the way to the enemy army, thinking that the general was the first soldier, and all of them rushed up, but what happened afterwards made the soldiers instantly break up, because Hua Yuan's carriage drove all the way to the depths of the enemy army, and Hua Yuan on the car asked Yang Zhuo why he did this? The sheep said the famous sentence: "The sheep of the past, the Son is the government; the things of the present; I am the government." "It means that yesterday you have the final say, today's affairs I have the final say, and this sentence is the idiom we are familiar with, each for its own affairs." It has to be said that Hua Yuan, who was proud of his lifelong interpersonal skills, was eventually defeated on this, and Hua Yuan, who rushed into the enemy army, was quickly captured by the enemy army.