In the history of the Republic of China, Lu Xiaoman can be called a generation of celebrities.
Xu Zhimo said: Her eyes are also talking, and the secret of the heart spring is swirling in the light of her eyes
The love story between her and Xu Zhimo has been enshrined by countless red dust men and women as true love in the world. After Xu Zhimo's early death due to the air crash, Lu Xiaoman gradually disappeared from the public eye.
Without Xu Zhimo, how would Lu Xiaoman live the second half of his life? What kind of entanglement does she have with Weng Ruiwu?
She is a must-see landscape
In 1903, Lu Xiaoman was born in Shanghai. At the age of 6, he went to Japan with his parents and later returned to Beijing to spend his youth.
Lu Xiaoman was born into a famous family, ancestral celebrities, according to the landing family's own words, the Song Dynasty great literary hero Lu You, the Southern Song Dynasty famous minister Lu Xiufu are all Lu family ancestors.
His father, Lu Dingdong, studied in Japan, graduated from the famous Waseda University in Japan, and was a proud disciple of the famous Japanese minister Itō Hirobumi. While studying in Japan, Lu Ding joined Sun Yat-sen's League. After the establishment of the Republic of China, Lu Ding served in the Ministry of Finance for a long time, and at the same time, he also founded the China Savings Bank.
Lu Xiaoman's mother's family, the Wu family in Changzhou, was the governor of Jiangxi in the Qing Dynasty. Lu Xiaoman's maternal grandfather is a celebrity in Changzhou, and Lu Xiaoman's mother, Wu Manhua, has a deep cultivation of ancient Literature under the influence of the family since childhood, and is even better at Danqing.
Growing up in such a family, Lu Xiaoman was proficient in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting at the age of 16, and was also proficient in foreign languages.
At this time, Lu Xiaoman has become a generation of celebrities, her style is as dazzling as the stars in the sky, and countless people are intoxicated in her eyes and smiles.
Yu Dafu said: Xiao Man is a Prometheus who shook the Chinese literary and artistic circles in the 1920s.
Hu Shi said: Lu Xiaoman is a scenery that must not be seen
It was such a woman, but she married a person she did not love early under the arrangement of her parents.
The husband chosen by his parents for Lu Xiaoman is named Wang Geng.
Wang Geng is not an ordinary person, graduated from Tsinghua University, and then sent the United States to study. After graduating from Princeton University, he was admitted to the United States Military Academy at West Point, and was a classmate of the later famous U.S. military general and US President Dwight Eisenhower. When Wang Geng graduated from West Point, he was the 10th place in the school. After returning to China, Wang Geng served in the military circles.
Whether from the perspective of family lineage or prospects, Wang Geng is the dragon-riding son-in-law of the Lu family.
But when it comes to love in the world, we always have to look at "love or not love" first.
Unfortunately, Lu Xiaoman did not love Wang Geng. Lu Xiaoman is young and playful, and is keen on various dance parties and cocktail parties; while Wang Geng is not concerned about these things, he is always a bit rigid and serious in the military. At this point, the two mouths seem incompatible. After the marriage, Wang Geng became the director of the Harbin Police Department and took Lu Xiaoman to Harbin to take up his post.
Although Harbin is also a big city, it cannot be compared with the glamorous Shanghai. Lu Xiaoman stayed for a long time and ran back to Shanghai. Since then, the husband and wife have lived in two places, and their feelings have become increasingly indifferent.
Lu Xiaoman, who lives alone in Shanghai, has a very happy life and is in various social situations. In 1924, she met Xu Zhimo.
Xu Zhimo, who is crazy for her
Before meeting Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo was immersed in the pain of losing Lin Huiyin.
Perhaps by fate, Xu Zhimo met Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman can sing and dance, has a gorgeous face, and is good at Danqing. As soon as Xu Zhimo saw Lu Xiaoman, he was deeply fascinated by her. The pain of lost love was soon replaced by enthusiasm for Lu Xiaoman.
Unlike Wang Geng's stereotypes, Xu Zhimo is born a communication master, romantic and affectionate, and talented. The romantic atmosphere on Xu Zhimo's body also fascinated Lu Xiaoman. For Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo was nothing more than a bright light in the night, which made her lonely heart see hope.
The two soon fell in love.
The love of two people is also the pain of three people. In the end, Wang Geng chose to quit.
In 1926, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a grand wedding in Beijing. Xu Zhimo's teacher Liang Qichao was a witness to the marriage, and Liang Qichao's testimony was called a person who had never come before or after, and it really embarrassed Xu Lu and the two of them.
Both of you are unsophisticated, belonging to the separation and knot. I hope that you will be single-minded and grow old with white heads
Although Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman are very much in love with each other, it is one thing to fall in love, and it is another thing to get married and live together.
After getting married, the two lived in Shanghai. In addition to the dance party and the cocktail party in Lu Xiaoman's life, she is still keen on all kinds of communication. Lu Xiaoman also loves to enjoy the pomp and circumstance, and he does not work. The family's expenses had to be maintained by Xu Zhimo alone.
At that time, although Xu Zhimo taught at several universities, his income was also very impressive. But no matter how much Xu Zhimo could make money, he couldn't keep up with the speed at which Lu Xiaoman spent money.
What's worse is that Lu Xiaoman later contracted opium, which was even greater for Xu Zhimo's economic pressure. Xu Zhimo persuaded Lu Xiaoman many times, hoping that she would quit opium and stop indulging in the lights and wine.
However, Lu Xiaoman was like a wayward child, and no matter how to persuade him, it was useless. Xu Zhimo is also a cultural person, and he is reluctant to use cruel means against Lu Xiaoman.
In desperation, Xu Zhimo had to go north to teach, and Lu Xiaoman was not willing to leave the prosperity of the Ten Mile Ocean Field after all, and stayed in Shanghai alone.
Xu Zhimo loves Lu Xiaoman after all.
When he was in Beijing, his monthly salary was about 600 yuan, and he sent 500 yuan of it to Lu Xiaoman to cover her expenses in Shanghai. After all, Lu Xiaoman needs a driver when he travels, and he has a cook and a servant at home, all of which is a big expense.
Xu Zhimo is in Beijing, but his heart is always on Lu Xiaoman's body. He kept writing letters to persuade Lu Xiaoman to change his past living habits, hoping that she would also come to Beijing and visit famous teachers to improve her painting skills.
Lu Xiaoman did not want Xu Zhimo, but she always couldn't let go of the hustle and bustle in her heart.
Friends persuaded Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman to divorce and get rid of this "burden". Hu Shi even believed that Lu Xiaoman had hindered Xu Zhimo's career development, and urged Xu Zhimo to show the courage to get married and decisively divorce.
But Xu Zhimo was unwilling, and there was still a fire burning in his heart for Lu Xiaoman.
In his days in Beijing, Xu Zhimo was reluctant to Lu Xiaoman and often ran between Beijing and Shanghai. In order to save money, Xu Zhimo tried to rub those free planes.
And it was this moneyless plane that ultimately took the poet's life.
On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo flew north from Nanjing. As a result, the plane crashed into the mountain in the fog, and Xu Zhimo was killed at the age of 34.
Living with someone else's husband and raising someone else's children
Xu Zhimo left, and Lu Xiaoman was very sad and cried bitterly.
Xu Zhimo was gone, and another person began to occupy an important position in Lu Xiaoman's life.
This person's name is Weng Ruiwu, and he is also a famous person. His father, Weng Shouqi, was a well-known painter in the late Qing Dynasty. Weng Ruiwu was influenced by his family since he was a child, proficient in Chinese painting, and later studied under the famous doctor Ding Fengshan and learned the skill of massage with one hand. In his 20s, he opened a business in Shanghai and practiced medicine, with a lot of income, and can also be regarded as a celebrity in Shanghai.
Before Xu Zhimo was killed, Weng Ruiwu was quite ambiguous with Lu Xiaoman.
Lu Xiaoman's frail and sick body, especially asthma and stomach diseases, made Lu Xiaoman particularly painful. Xu Zhimo sought medical treatment everywhere and was introduced to Weng Ruiwu. Although Weng Ruiwu could not cure Lu Xiaoman's disease, it could greatly alleviate lu Xiaoman's pain when he fell ill. Lu Xiaoman fainted several times, but he recovered from Weng Ruiwu's treatment.
In addition to the treatment of diseases, Weng Ruiwu and Lu Xiaoman also have a strong interest in opera and painting, and they are not ordinary fans. Weng Ruiwu studied Peking Opera and Kunqu Opera with famous teachers, and painting was even more homely.
In all these ways, Weng Ruiwu and Lu Xiaoman are also quite close. As long as Lu Xiaoman was uncomfortable, he asked Weng Rui to come to his home for treatment. This massage naturally has a physical relationship, and gradually the relationship between the two has a hint of inexplicable ambiguity.
Once, Lu Xiaoman asked Weng Ruiwu, what if you are not around when I am sick? Weng Rui suggested that Lu Xiaoman smoke opium to relieve pain. Since then, the two have often swallowed clouds and vomited fog at Lu Xiaoman's home.
In 1938, Weng Ruiwu and Lu Xiaoman began to live together, and Weng Ruiwu also began to assume the support of Lu Xiaoman. Daily expenses, basically Weng Rui noon money,
Lu Xiaoman's feelings for Weng Ruiwu are very complicated, and love, family affection, and friendship all seem to be mixed with a little. Lu Xiaoman himself said so
I had nothing to do with Ong at first, and then Shima crashed and died, and I was very sad and my body was too bad. Although there were many suitors and many people who advised me to remarry, I did not want to, because I always loved Shima deeply. However, because the old illness was worse and Weng's healing was more frequent, he was advised as an old friend, and he did not return to my parents, and he was committed to it for a long time
Perhaps because Lu Xiaoman also knew in his heart that he did not love Weng Ruiwu so much, but he could not get rid of his dependence on Weng Ruiwu financially and mentally, and over time, it was like this.
What is hanging is that Lu Xiaoman did not allow Weng Ruiwu to divorce, "he is not allowed to abandon his wife, we do not officially marry."
Weng Ruiwu ran at both ends, taking care of Lu Xiaoman and his original children.
For such a relationship, others advised Lu Xiaoman to make a decision as soon as possible and not to drag it down in such a vague way. But Lu Xiaoman herself didn't think so, she felt that she was not ashamed, she said
Love is not real, not on the face, on the mouth, but in the heart. In the darkness, in my sleep, it was as if I had seen and heard Shima's approval
Weng Ruiwu was very good to Lu Xiaoman, and it can be said that he took care of everything and was satisfied with everything.
As long as Lu Xiaoman is happy, he is willing to do anything, even if he sells his property, he must raise Lu Xiaoman. But from 1938, when the two lived together, until Weng Ruiwu's death in 1961, Weng Ruiwen raised her for 23 years. For 23 years, Lu Xiaoman never agreed to Weng Ruiwu's marriage proposal.
Over time, there are always some things that will change slowly. Weng Ruiwu adopted a young girl named Guan Xiaobao, and at first Weng Ruiwu only regarded Guan Xiaobao as an adopted daughter and apprentice.
But as the days went on, Weng Ruiwu seemed to see Lu Xiaoman when he was young on Guan Xiaobao's body, they were all so radiant, they were all so bright and moving.
The relationship between Weng Ruiwu and Guan Xiaobao changed, and later Guan Xiaobao gave birth to a child for Weng Ruiwu.
After Guan Xiaobao gave birth to a child, he left the Lu family and never knew the end. Lu Xiaoman adopted the child.
Time passed day by day, and Lu Xiaoman never fell in love with anyone again. Her relationship with Weng Ruiwu is still the same, only living together and not getting married. In this way, she accompanied other people's husbands and raised other people's children.
Weng Ruiwu was finally ahead of the curve, and weng Ruiwu died in 1961. Before leaving, he still did not forget Lu Xiaoman, and asked his friend to "take care of Xiaoman, I will be grateful under the Nine Springs." In this way, he was not at ease, and he wanted his daughter to continue to provide for Lu Xiaoman
Weng Rui was gone, and Lu Xiaoman became a person again. She went out alone every day and came home alone. Lu Xiaoman has been in the spotlight all his life, when has he ever had such desolation and loneliness.
But she could only spend the rest of her life in this "sea-deep desolation and loneliness".
The last days
Xu Zhimo's death touched Lu Xiaoman greatly. She is determined to become the kind of person Xu Zhimo hopes for, and she wants to do a little serious business.
She quit opium, picked up her paintbrush again, and visited famous teachers to practice her painting skills.
In 1941, Lu Xiaoman opened his own solo exhibition in Shanghai.
In 1947, Lu Xiaoman compiled Xu Zhimo's posthumous works into a collection and published, which can also be seen as Lu Xiaoman's response and explanation to Xu Zhimo.
In 1956, Lu Xiaoman became a librarian at the Shanghai Museum of Culture and History, and finally she had a job where she could support herself. This job is solid and stable, and Lu Xiaoman, who has washed away the lead, seems to have finally begun to become independent.
In 1959, Lu Xiaoman was named "March 8Th red flag bearer" by the National Artists Association.
In 1961, Weng Ruiwu died. Another important person left Lu Xiaoman's life. Lu Xiaoman said that although I have no love for Weng Ruiwu, I have feelings.
After so many years of living together, Weng Ruiwu is more like a family member to Lu Xiaoman than a lover. Lu Xiaoman's heart will always have only one lover, that is, Xu Zhimo.
In 1965, Lu Xiaoman died, and the departure of a generation of celebrities had no brilliant fireworks, no noisy music, only cold sighs.
Lu Xiaoman hopes to be buried with Xu Zhimo, but the Xu family does not recognize Lu Xiaoman as a daughter-in-law.
He could not be buried with Xu Zhimo, and Lu Xiaoman's ashes were unclaimed, and he could only lie in the funeral home for many years. The bucket shifted to the stars, the funeral home moved, and eventually Lu Xiaoman's ashes did not know where to go.
Until 1988, Lu Xiaoman's cousin Lu Zong and his niece Lu Zonglin jointly funded the construction of a crown tomb in Suzhou Dongshan Overseas Chinese Cemetery.
A generation of famous ladies Lu Xiaoman finally entered the ground.
From beginning to end, Lu Xiaoman deeply loved Xu Zhimo. All her feelings for Xu Zhimo were finally condensed on the elegy she wrote
How many former dust into nightmares, five years of mourning, hurrying and eternal tips, the heavenly path of revival, wanting to die failed to be because of the mother and old;
Don't hate who to say, a sad illness, a faint soul, the human world should not be long, the posthumous editor will answer the king's heart
She and Weng Ruiwu, affection trumps love. Two people are nothing but mutual comfort in a lonely world. Although there is no strong love for Xu Zhimo, there is still friendship.
On Lu Xiaoman's personal file, in the family column, she filled in Weng Ruiwu
What is the world? How many people can speak clearly and clearly?
Xu Zhimo can't do it, Weng Ruiwu can't do it, and Neither can Lu Xiaoman.
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