Don't mess with the rules, ruin the child, and ruin yourself.
Although it is said that the love of parents for their children is out of nature, most do not ask for return, but no parent does not want their children to have filial piety.
Hope and reality are always two different things, and in life, it is not uncommon for children who are not filial to their parents.
Somewhere, an 80-year-old old woman, her wife died early, she alone with hard work and hard work to pull up 5 children. Today, all the children are married, and some even have grandchildren, but no one is willing to take care of the mother. It was freezing cold, and the children drove the old mother to live in the corridor, saying that the family could not live in it.
The mother couldn't help but cry when she remembered the past. When she was young, she did not choose to remarry for the sake of her children. Being a father and a mother by myself, working hard, reluctant to eat, reluctant to wear, only hating that there are no two pairs of hands to work, can give children better conditions.
Unexpectedly, the children were raised, but one by one they became "white-eyed wolves", and there was no filial piety to this old mother.
Some neighbors who knew about it said that the children who did not understand things on the stall were on the one hand, and they also blamed the old woman for being too spoiled with the children. Since the children were young, the meals at home were all busy with the mother on the ground, and before they were finished, the children ate. Only because the mother was afraid that the meal was cold, the children were uncomfortable eating it.
When my mother came to the table to eat, basically the plates in front of me were bottomed out. The last dish on the table, the mother also placed in front of the children, urging them to eat. This habit has been followed since the child grew older, and no one thought that the mother should be allowed to eat it first.
The child's mind is born like a blank piece of paper, and what you draw for him is what it is. From an early age, let him know that his parents work hard for their children, and children should be filial to their parents, and slowly he will have filial piety; from an early age, he has spoiled him to heaven, except for himself, there is no one else in his heart, how can he be filial to him when he grows up?
The famous educator Lu Qin said, "What is love? Love is a pocket, to the inside is a sense of satisfaction, to take out is the sense of achievement and happiness, to make the child happy for a lifetime, must let the child learn to pay. ”
Unfortunately, most parents now only blindly give love to their children, but do not give their children the opportunity to learn to love.
The mother of a single-parent family, who cut down on food and clothing herself, gave the best to her son Daquan (pseudonym). One day, my mother fried a plate of shrimp and put it in front of the big full, and the big book was eaten without anyone. In the end, there were only a few left, and the mother ate it, and Daquan said, "You spit it out for me, it's mine." ”
Lu Qin said that in a family, if the parents are in the wrong position when they are cooking at the dinner table, there will be no place for you in the future.
So what is the right way to set the dishes?
If there is an old man in the family, the dishes that have just been served are placed in front of the old man; those who do not have the old man are placed in front of the parents.
Adults do not move chopsticks on the table, children can not move chopsticks. Children should understand the hard work and efforts of their parents from an early age, know how to respect their parents, and love their parents.
In life, many families are like the single-parent families above, with children-centered when eating. What dishes the child likes, put this dish in front of the child, parents and grandparents or grandparents, four adults are reluctant to eat, contented to watch the baby alone.
Even before the adults came to the table, the children started. As everyone knows, in the long run, it will only cultivate children into "little white-eyed wolves" who are solipsistic and unfilial to their parents. Such a child, even if he goes into society, will become an undesirable person. Because he never thinks about others, he is used to doing everything only from his own feelings.
Therefore, if you don't want your child to become an unfilial child in the future, you must start small, start from the rules of the dinner table, and achieve orderly growth and childhood. Don't mess with the rules, ruin the child, and ruin yourself.