How many people were deeply impressed by the character of Grandma Liu when they first read the Red Chamber? When we were in middle school, there was a pause in the words that described people as having opened their eyes, and it was often said that it was like Grandma Liu entering the Grand View Garden.
Once, following those princes and ladies in Jia Province, we who made fun of Liu Grandma as a female film, only to find out after adulthood that Liu Grandma's self-deprecation was full of wisdom and bitterness of the people at the bottom.
When Grandma Liu entered Jia Mansion for the second time, because she cast Jia Mu's desire to find an old man's house to talk to, she was able to enter the Grand View Garden, and under the leadership of Jia Mu, she deeply experienced a three-day tour of the nobility.
First, the old style of loving flowers and powder
When Liu Grandma entered the Rongguo Mansion for the second time, she used a sentence at the beginning of the "Preface to the Tengwang Pavilion" to say, that is, "Shi Wei September, the order belongs to the three autumns." "At this time, when autumn is high and refreshing, the most ornamental and wearable in this season is naturally chrysanthemums."
Chrysanthemum is a custom before and after the ancients Chongyang, so when Jia Mu took Liu Grandma and her party to enjoy the play in the Grand View Garden, they met Li Feng, who had just picked up the chrysanthemums to send. So Jia Mu put on a big red flower herself, and then asked Grandma Liu to wear the flower as well.
At this time, Wang Xifeng had already thought of the idea of teasing Jia Mu and everyone else with Liu Grandma, so he took the initiative to help Liu Grandma wear flowers, and as a result, "inserted a plate of flowers horizontally and vertically for him." Jia Mu and the crowd laughed uncontrollably. ”
Sister Feng's move is obviously to treat Grandma Liu as a female film that amuses Jia Mu and everyone, and to plant flowers on the head of an old man with white hair in his seventies, who is still a poor cropper, such an image appears in the Grand View Garden, and now in the eyes of this group of aristocratic men and women, it is not sympathetic and pitying, but full of laughter.
Can Grandma Liu be angry? Of course not. Not only can you not be angry, but you also have to laugh at yourself, find yourself a step down, if you are at the mercy of others and do not say a word, is not too self-respecting? Not only to say it, but also to follow the expressions of the crowd and laugh and laugh.
What do you think Grandma Liu said? Grandma Liu smiled and said, "I don't know what blessings I have cultivated, but I am so decent today." This is Grandma Liu's self-deprecation, and it is also the step she found for herself. Although she is a poor cropper, I have to say that this is said at a high level, and ordinary people can't say it yet.
Grandma Liu did not speak from her own point of view, but took her own head as the subject and felt honored for her head. In the eyes of everyone, this is Sister Feng making fun of Liu Grandma, but Liu Grandma did not think so, but felt that this was the blessing and decency of her own head.
As soon as these words were spoken, they not only broke the siege for themselves, but also did not embarrass Sister Feng, but also let everyone continue to laugh by the way, for Grandma Liu, a word can make everyone happy, why not enjoy it?
Not only that, when everyone asked her to pull the flowers off and throw them on Feng Jie's face, saying that she was dressed as an old goblin, Grandma Liu continued to add self-deprecation: "Although I am old, when I was young, I was also merry, and I loved a flower powder, and today's old style is good." ”
Grandma Liu said these two words successively, not only found herself a step down, but also gave Wang Xifeng enough face, and not only did not destroy the joyful atmosphere at that time, but also pushed this atmosphere to another small climax, saying that few people can entertain people's wisdom and eloquence in such a self-deprecating way, right?
But why did Grandma Liu do this? As the saying goes, the draught does not forget the person who digs the well. For her, Jia Fu used to have the grace of survival, and Wang Xifeng, the executor, was more equivalent to her savior, so even if a group of noble men and women made fun of her seventy-year-old man, she would not be angry, let alone calculate.
But if we think in reverse, Grandma Liu is our own grandmother, and when we go to the homes of rich relatives and are treated like this, what will it be like in our hearts? Even if later, as Mandarin Duck said, even apologized to Grandma Liu, there was no malice, but would we really not mind at all in our hearts?
Second, eat an old sow without looking up
Grandma Liu, who was planted with flowers, may not have expected that this self-deprecation with bitterness has just begun, and if she does not have the great wisdom she has seen on the road of the world, she may face embarrassment many times or even the situation of not being able to get off the stage.
Mandarin Duck and Feng Jie have already seen Liu Grandma's "humor cells" and are ready to make her happy today, of course, the main thing is to make Jia Mu happy, because as long as Jia Mu is happy, everyone will be happy.
Grandma Liu is also a smart person, and as soon as Mandarin Duck explained it, she understood: Isn't it to make the old birthday star happy, isn't it to make everyone happy, this small dish is a piece of cake, wrapped in me.
Therefore, when Jia Mu first hosted a banquet in the Grand View Garden, Jia Mu just said a "please" word, "Liu Grandma stood up and said loudly: 'Old Liu Lao Liu, the amount of food is like a cow, eat a sow without looking up'. But he was silent with his cheeks.
It was this joke that pushed the atmosphere of the family banquet to a climax, "the crowd was first frightened, and then when they heard it, they laughed up and down. From Xiangyun to Xichun, from Daiyu to Tanchun, from Jia Mu to Madame Wang, and even Aunt Xue, they all laughed a lot.
Every time I read this, I wonder, when I watch everyone laughing because of their foreign appearance, leaning forward and backward, what is Grandma Liu, who is drumming her cheeks and not speaking, thinking in her heart? Did she feel that she was a little proud of her ability to make everyone laugh, or did she feel that this group of aristocratic men and women did not treat her with an equal heart in their hearts?
That Liu Grandma, who not only tells jokes, but also dresses up as a big cow that eats old sows, will she really feel funny when she sees this group of aristocratic men and women laughing wildly and even a little out of shape? Or is it bitter?
Grandma Liu, who entered Jia Province for the second time, no longer came to fight the autumn wind to borrow silver, but pulled a cart full of vegetables and vegetables, thanking Jia Fu for coming. And what did the people of Jia Fu give her back? There seems to be no respect, no gratitude, but one teasing after another, even if there is no malice in this teasing, but I still feel that Liu Grandma's heart is helpless and bitter.
Self-deprecation and teasing did not end, because mandarin ducks commanded That Grandma Liu to continue to play her female film and continue to make everyone laugh happily, so there was another joke of pigeon eggs. Can flex and stretch, informal, know the gratitude map, I have to say that Grandma Liu is really an old man with great wisdom.
Since Jia Fu had saved her and her son-in-law's family from water and fire, saved them from hunger and cold, and had not frozen to death in the wind and snow, Liu Grandma was naturally repaid by the grace of dripping water, compared to the grace of life, what is this self-deprecation? I believe that even if you come back ten hundred times to laugh at yourself, Grandma Liu is also willing.
But as a reader, when I saw Jia Mu laughing and crying because of Liu Grandma's jokes, I also laughed out of tears, and I felt empathy for Liu Grandma's experience, and even I could fully perceive her complex psychological activities. I laughed, not because I thought Grandma Liu was self-deprecating and humorous, but just inexplicably felt bitter.
In that era, how many poor people like Grandma Liu had to put down their dignity in order to eat three meals a day, and in a self-deprecating way, they went to please the rich in exchange for a little food and clothing. And she was somewhat lucky to meet someone as lenient as Jia Fu, and she did not let her return empty-handed every time.
Third, the septuagenarian who falls and gets up again
When Jia Mu took Liu Grandma to visit Daiyu's Xiaoxiang Pavilion, Yu Yu Amber was worried that Liu Grandma was slipped by the moss and asked her to come up and walk, but Liu Grandma said that she was familiar with it and irrelevant. As a result, "he only cared about talking to people on the top, but he didn't want to step on the bottom and slip, and he fell down with a kick." ”
For normal people, if someone in the industry slips and falls, the people around them will subconsciously help, but what is the reaction of these people in Jia Fu? "Everyone clapped their hands and laughed." Every time I read a plot like this, I can't help but get a little angry.
How indifferent does it have to be to ignore it, to not only turn a blind eye to a seventy-something old man who accidentally slipped, but also clap his hands? Are the "people" here just slaves of Jia Fu? Aren't there those ladies and ladies and grandmothers?
Perhaps these noble men and women and rich slaves are still immersed in the jokes of Wang Xifeng joking about Liu Grandma by wearing flowers, they don't think that there is anything for a cropper like Liu Grandma to fall, they only think it is funny, even if there is no malice, it still makes people feel that the world is cold.
About Liu Grandma also has some accidents, Dai Hua was teased and can be understood, but everyone wants to have fun, but the old man of her age fell down, it is not a small thing, light is hurting bones, heavy may be old life, but Liu Grandma did not expect that she accidentally fell, attracting not caring about inquiry and rushing to help, it was actually a laugh.
Since this was the case, she could only continue to laugh at herself: when she spoke, Grandma Liu had already climbed up, smiled herself, and said: "Just say that she hit her mouth." Since everyone did not care about the support but clapped their hands and laughed after seeing him fall, Grandma Liu could only continue to pretend to be stupid and laugh at herself.
Although Jia Mu was a noblewoman, after all, she was an old man who had experienced great winds and waves and was generous and benevolent, and when she saw Liu Grandma fall, she asked the servants to quickly pick up Liu Grandma and care whether she had sprained her waist, or if she was a blessed person.
Everyone pays attention to a detail, after Liu Grandma fell, she quickly "climbed up", and a "climb" word wrote out the shape of the elderly Liu Grandma, after all, she was no longer like a young person with sharp legs and feet, sharp movements, and could stand up quickly.
Grandma Liu was already seventy-five years old, and although she said that it was all right, who knew how painful this fall was? But in the face of the laughter of the people in Jia Province, even if it hurts, Grandma Liu has to endure it and swallow it. She was a farmer, and when she fell, she cried out in pain, which seemed very pretentious.
Jia Mu may never fall, because there is never a shortage of people around her, whether it is Wang Xifeng, The Lady of Wang, or Amber the Mandarin Duck, who dares to let the old lady fall? It's deadly! But a cropper like Grandma Liu doesn't know how many falls a year, she doesn't care about herself, and probably few people really care about whether she hurts or not.
With the simplicity and kindness of Grandma Liu, we can probably guess that when she returns to the countryside, she will praise the poor and weak of the neighbors, recite countless bodhisattvas for them, and tell her family how the old ladies of Jia Province enjoy happiness and how handsome the princes and ladies are, and the teasing she has been made, her self-deprecation of bending down, she will never mention it.
For Grandma Liu, compared with the last gifts that Jia Fu gave her, those who had been self-deprecating and teasing were really not worth mentioning. Besides, as a farmer, even if she didn't come to Jia Province to fight the autumn wind, didn't she see less cold eyes and ridicule on the road of the world?
Author: Xi Si Shao, this article is to read less of the original works of the Red Chamber.