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Between the opposite sex, there is never a truly pure friendship! Men and women who have close contacts in the name of "friends" are all covering up "crossing the line"!
Of course, not every pair of the opposite sex who is very close to each other has crossed the line, but the distance between crossing the line is only time and opportunity!
In this life, people want to have a confidant, no matter who they are and how they know themselves, abandon the value relationship and put aside the interests. From acquaintance to acquaintance and companionship, it is like getting along with another self!
With the increasing pressure of the current society, people are more looking forward to such a "confidant"! Two people who come and go like roundworms, only relaxed and comfortable, how desirable and beautiful should it be?
Walking in the world, the most difficult thing is not to work hard for survival, but on the way to no one "understands".
Although it is normal for a sense of security to be self-sufficient and to be born lonely, who is willing to "talk to themselves" in a hundred years of life?
For true friends, it is the "luck" that countless people have been looking for in the long river of years. And because the opposite sex heals the soul of each other more than the same sex, people can unload their defenses, so that friends of the opposite sex are not uncommon in the open moment.
However, if the opposite sex is too close, it is doomed to be a disaster about the "wind and snow moon". The distance control is not good, because the crossing of the line makes the "love" between each other change the taste.
Between the opposite sex, it is not that there is no contact, but there is a "degree" of communication!
Will there be pure friendship between men and women? Look, this is the "real" confidant of the opposite sex! Friends of the opposite sex, who are truly "not crossing the line", will get along "like this":
1: Do not spend time alone in private
The best friendship between men and women is not to be alone in private.
True friends of the opposite sex are mutual help in the necessary partnership, not over-pampering in private. If necessary, private message interactions other than work are 0!
Friends who are alone in private must be of the same sex, no matter how far away!
People are sentient animals. Between men and women, after getting along for a long time and getting along more in private, they will have feelings and will easily amplify each other's goodness.
When a non-single person magnifies the advantages of other opposite sexes, the person in front of him becomes a negative weak person who "contrasts" the object. Then, when there is any unhappiness and disagreement with the person in front of him, he will definitely find his own way out of the "confidant" of the opposite sex for the first time!
Even, during the period when the relationship between himself and the person in front of him continues, he has already crossed the line with the "confidant" of the opposite sex spiritually!
2: Outside of work, do not get involved in each other's private life
True friends of the opposite sex are each other's pressure-free mutual support, but this definitely has certain prerequisites:
In addition to the necessity of non-work and cooperation, there will never be any "assist" for each other's private lives.
All kinds of trivialities in the lives of non-single people have their fixed other half as assists, and other members of the opposite sex have no right and no identity to get too close!
When friends of the opposite sex need excessive "help" in their personal lives, and the other party also "spares no effort" to lend a helping hand, the friendship between the two people has long since changed.
In particular, some friends of the opposite sex are most willing to share their emotional lives and family trivia with each other, and then act as each other's interpreters and comfort each other's spirits...
This completely opens the door for both sides to cross the line! After all, if it is not intentional, it is also the speaker who has no intention of listening!
Healthy friends of the opposite sex either do not mention any personal private affairs other than each other's work, or when they mention their other half, they are mainly praised, which is the best distance to grasp.
3: Will not make a scale of "jokes"
I don't know since when, some men and women are together, and they don't shy away from exporting all kinds of paragraphs! Even, some of the body language between the opposite sex is intertwined, and they don't think so!
You know, too many crossings between men and women start with these passages and body language. Many times, the passage and body language are a kind of purposeful temptation to "joke".
One half pushed, the other blatant, and the crossing of the line was thus produced!
What kind of person you are, what kind of person you will attract, this is the best attraction in the world! If you slyly argue that "I really don't think so much, but the other party thinks too much", then you must have no better reason to prevaricate yourself!
Some people, perhaps, really don't have any real good feelings for their "friends" of the opposite sex, but they feel that they are very attractive and attracted to the opposite sex very self-satisfied, so they will not mind some jokes and body language!
However, in this case, whether it is actually crossed or not, their own thinking is not so pure! Talking too much is just to cover up your own shame!
Pure friendship between the opposite sex is limited to mutual help in work and cooperation! If you are not single, any private interaction, involvement in each other's private life, jokes or excessive body language is superfluous!
When you harshly blame your other half for your pure friends of the opposite sex, have you ever asked yourself, for the people in front of you, who is more important to the other people in front of you and your own people?
When you are angry because of other closely related opposites and your own eyes, you are already "ashamed and angry"!
If you say that your other half can also have their own "confidant" of the opposite sex, you can only say that you don't love enough, so you want to "not interfere with each other" in order to make excuses for yourself and other members of the opposite sex to cross the line.
True friends of the opposite sex, existing in your life, will not cause any burden on your marital relationship.
When the presence of a friend of the opposite sex affects your marital relationship, the best way to prove your innocence is to "keep your distance" from your friends of the opposite sex.
If necessary, take your so-called opposite-sex friend out of life, and if you really don't have anything, you will do it!
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Love is man's purgatory in the world. Love or friendship, the right time meets the right person to cultivate the right results!
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