At home with my children on the weekend, I accidentally saw a warm movie "Fluttering My Life". I thought it was a nonsensical movie, but after watching it, I couldn't help but burst into tears.
The film was co-starred in 2015 by Song Hye-joo and Kang Dong-won and is based on the original novel by South Korean writer Kim Ae-ran.
The story mainly tells: the love between Mei Luo and Daxiu, and the story of facing life strongly with his son Ah Rin, who suffers from Progeria, under the torment of disease.
The 17-year-old Mei Luo and Daxiu met by chance and began a hot love. At the age when they should be chasing their dreams, they secretly tasted the forbidden fruit and became pregnant with Ah Rin, but they did not choose to give up, but bravely assumed the responsibility of their parents.
With the passage of time, Ah Rin is almost 17 years old, his body is stuck at 8 years old, and his appearance is 80 years old. Even if it costs more for treatment, because the body is different from the rapid aging of ordinary people, Ah Rin may die at any time. In the face of this situation, the three members of the Daxiu family have always maintained an optimistic and happy life, defeating the sadness in life with love, and also using love to race against time.
I still don't understand: Ah Rin's parents are kind, fearless, and strong, but how can a child who will die at any time and suffer from illness from childhood live such a sunny life? Living so transparently and sensibly?
Tolstoy once said: "Happy families are all similar, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." ”
What does a happy family look like? Bing Xin said, "What is home?" I don't know, but the troubles and sorrows are destroyed and melted in this. ”
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Daxiu was a school taekwondo long-legged Oba who kicked the headmaster in order to show off his skills. However, when Mei Luo told Daxiu that she was pregnant, Daxiu said a bunch of reasons to escape: "I am very saccharine, my family is poor, and there is no future." By the way, I don't have a mother and I can't help with the children. ”
Faced with a bunch of reasons and a bit of a cowardly performance, Mei Luo is disappointed, and she jokes that Daxiu is a bird hiding in bird droppings.
When Daxiu was scolded by his father, he resolutely decided to elope with Mei luo. If the news that Mei Xiu told him about his pregnancy at the beginning caught the young man off guard and chose to escape, the moment his father beat him, he deeply realized that Mei Luo's life would not be better. Even if he is only 17 years old, he should have the courage to take on the responsibilities of a man and a father.
After starting a family, in the face of a seriously ill child, the formerly loose and rebellious Daxiu took on the responsibility of supporting the family. Renting out, working as a security guard, working odd jobs, using all your time, doing everything you can.
After Daxiu and Meiluo got married, although sometimes they still looked like a big boy who didn't grow up, liked to talk, chase stars, fight... Compared with his son's understanding, he is not a father with a full score, nor is he a husband with a full score.
He discussed with his son which beautiful woman he liked to sing; watched the female star dance in front of Mei Luo; and even served as a guard for the young actress.
But none of this affected his responsibilities to his family, and his love for his wife.
Mei Luo was distressed that Daxiu was too tired, and advised Daxiu: "Don't force yourself to work in the future, and play with your children more when you rest." ”
Daxiu said that he should work hard to make money, buy more delicious food for his son, and move to a better place after his son is discharged from the hospital.
No matter how many shortcomings Daxiu has, what he sees in Meiluo's eyes are all advantages. She said to her son: "Daxiu is tall and has a kind heart, and his shortcomings are also tall and kind-hearted." ”
Daxiu not only takes on the responsibilities of a family, but also fulfills all the fantasies of a son and a father.
Ah Rin was ridiculed and teased by a group of unscrupulous teenagers on the street. In their eyes, Ah Rin is a monster with an infectious disease, and they laugh at Daxiu for walking with the old man, saying that he gave birth to the monster "Gollum".
The humiliation in life is tolerable, but the son is teased, which he cannot accept no matter what. Daxiu decided to teach them a lesson, and Ah Rin was worried that his father would suffer losses by one enemy and six enemies, but Daxiu told his son with practical actions: You can believe me.
Looking at the long-legged father's taekwondo dashing figure, Ah Rin's eyes were full of admiration and admiration.
Ah Rin is seriously ill, but he does not like to be slighted, and he does not like the insecurity that arises from it. The father's behavior not only sets a good example for his son, but also makes his son feel an unprecedented sense of security.
Psychologist Maslow said: Security is the foundation of mental health, children have a sense of security, in order to have self-confidence and self-esteem, in order to establish trusting interpersonal relationships with others. Children's sense of security is not innate, and many are formed in the day after tomorrow.
Although Daxiu is ordinary and ordinary, his work is humble, but he holds up an umbrella for his son. From Daxiu, Ah Rin observed what is a man, what is a father, what is responsibility, and what is love.
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For a child, a mother is not only a continuation of life, but also the inheritance of the soul. To a large extent, the mother's education directly affects the child's sound personality. Mothers are kind, optimistic and wise in order to cultivate a child who is self-reliant, self-reliant and confident.
As a girl, Mei Luo was beautiful and generous, and she wanted to become a singer. But after having a child, she gave up her dream, eloped with Daxiu, and took on the heavy responsibility of a mother early.
Whenever she carried the child on her back, walked down the street, and looked at the beautiful girl students passing by, her face was full of envy; in the face of the beautiful clothes hanging in the window, she could only stop and look at it from a distance.
All this did not make her resentful, resentful of the drag of her son with Progeria, resentful of her husband's incompetence, but made her love her family more and do what she could. To supplement her family, she even worked as a washer in the laundry room.
Under the wear and tear of difficult days, Mei Luo has always maintained the optimistic spirit of a mother.
No matter where he went, Ah Rin could always feel the strange eyes of others.
On the way home from the hospital, he couldn't help but urge Mei Luo: "Hurry up, people are watching us." ”
Mei Luo said calmly, "They think I look good." ”
Ah Rin could not accept Mei Luo's attitude and asked her mother, "Doesn't mom feel ashamed?" ”
Merlot's words and deeds showed me the optimistic attitude of a mother. She said: "You are a sick child, you don't have to worry about other people's eyes or medical expenses, you cry when you hurt, just like other children!" You are strong!
She even proudly told Ah Rin that she had become a mother at the age of 17. In the eyes of others, early marriage and childbirth is not an honorable thing, in Meiluo's view, this itself is a manifestation of responsibility and courage, and there is no need to care about the different eyes of others.
The mother's optimism deeply affects the child and lays the foundation for the formation of the child's sound personality. A mother in a state of anxiety, worry and fear, the child will also have the same emotional response, become restless, lack of self-confidence; on the contrary, it will make the child a kind and brave, confident and positive person.
Elon. Musk also shared in an interview: "His mother has a hard time, but she never complains, and every time she sees her, she is full of smiles." Such an attitude is the most precious asset she has given us. She not only taught me a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, but also used her actions to tell me how to achieve my goals. ”
Ms. Hong, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan and a brain expert, said in a TED speech: Mother is the soul of the family, mother is happy and the whole family is happy, and mother is anxious and the whole family is anxious.
A family, even if the family is surrounded by disciples, as long as the mother is kind and optimistic, thanks to the mother's words and deeds, the child will become kind and confident.
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Montessori said: "Everything we do to a child will blossom and bear fruit, not only for his life, but also for his whole life." ”
The child is like a seed, and what flowers he wants to blossom depends on what kind of family environment his parents cultivate.
Daxiu is a veritable funny two goods, and Mei Luo is a beautiful woman who loves to be violent and rude at every turn, after a long 17 years of married life, the temper of the two has not changed at all, nor has they disliked each other in the slightest. For two people in a marriage, it is rarely possible to do this.
The love between the two of them satisfies all of Ah Rin's beautiful visions of life. In Ah Rin's eyes, his parents are the legendary Princess of The Explosion and the Prince of Kicks.
For his son, Mei Luo always has a deep apology. She regretted that she did not understand things in her youth, and had exercised vigorously to kill the fetus, causing Ah Rin to become like this.
Daxiu did not blame him in the slightest, but comforted Mei Luo: "Ah Rin is just a genetic mutation." "
When there is a problem in life, the couple has never blamed each other, but empathized, never regretted the decisions they made, and treated life calmly and optimistically; no matter how much pressure life is, they are on the basis of love and respect, they tolerate each other and share responsibility.
There is a saying in "The Road Few People Walk": The spiritual wealth of children comes from the consistent love and persistent care of parents, which is the best gift that parents can give to their children.
Ah Rin was terminally ill, and he never complained about the world, let alone gave up on himself. In the face of death, he showed open-mindedness and strength that was different from ordinary people, and his understanding and caring were painful.
In order not to worry his parents, he secretly took medicine when he was tormented by illness in the middle of the night.
Because of the disease, he can't go to school like a normal child, but he knows how to pour his heart out to the computer.
He likes to sit in his father's taxi and feel the colorful world and feel the different meanings that life gives to everyone.
For love, Ah Rin is full of expectations, and after receiving a letter from a "girl", hazy love quietly sprouts in his heart. Unexpectedly, when he was full of expectations, he suddenly stopped. It turned out to be just a male writer who no one admired wanted to hype up and earn living expenses.
After Ah Rin knew the truth, he was in a depressed mood and asked his father to take him to the top of the mountain to see the stars, he had never cried before, and cried once for this "love", which led to sudden blindness in his eyes.
When Dad carried him down the mountain, he said to Dad, "I'm sorry Dad, when I should carry you, you are carrying me hard." "
For his parents, Ah Rin is always grateful, thanking his parents for choosing to give birth to him and give him life.
He always wanted to do something for his parents, so he wrote a book about his parents' love by his own imagination, "Fluttering Summer", thanking his parents for their kindness in giving birth to and raising him.
At the last moment of his life, lying in his mother's arms, Ah Rin also prayed for his future brother: to bless his brother with peace and health, to take care of his parents for him, and to fulfill his unfulfilled wishes.
As the New Year's bell rings, Ah Rin's life comes to an abrupt end in his mother's arms.
In raising his son, Daxiu learned to love and be loved. At the age of 17, after he broke up with his father, he never went back to see his father. Raising his son made him experience the hardships of a father, and after 17 years, he chose to reconcile with his father.
The father said: "I learned through television that my grandson was terminally ill, and the first thing that hurt me was my son. Big show, it's really hard for you! ”
His father's short and affectionate words made Daxiu cry silently.
Love is reconciliation and inheritance.
Maybe one day, the people who love us, or the people we love, have to leave this world, but their love is always with us, even if we have suffered because of loss, we must have the ability to love and be loved.
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