Gallery of Masters | Claude Monet, French painter, representative figure and founder of Impressionism.
People with different beliefs have different lives.
There's a question on the Internet: "Are you happy with yourself?" ”
The answers are varied, but most people say they're not very happy with themselves.
The result of dissatisfaction with oneself is inferiority, anxiety, not feeling one's own value, and not knowing how to love oneself.
In the past, we used "narcissism" as a pejorative term, believing that only by achieving what kind of achievements and meeting certain standards could we be qualified to believe in ourselves and like ourselves.
Many people regard these achievements and standards as their own value.
If you do well, you will be confident; if you can't do it, you will be inferior.
A netizen said that he was once a person with a low sense of self-worth and low inferiority. After studying psychology, he began to think, why did he not have self-confidence?
He found that he grew up under the indoctrination of the idea that "a good child is the best" and "a smart child is a valuable person".
His father worked for a large construction company, and for his father, being smart was the most important thing in the world, and even if he scored a 99 on the test, it was not a perfect score, it was worthless; if he didn't get the first place in the class, it would be meaningless.
In this educational environment, he was always dominated by fear.
Research has shown that psychological trauma and negative life scripts in early childhood can affect a person's personality, beliefs and choices.
Gallery of Masters | Claude Monet
Facing the same thing, different emotional reactions, comes from the belief in the heart.
The so-called sense of self-affirmation is a positive psychological feeling similar to "I am important" and "I have the value of existence".
Be confident in yourself, be able to affirm yourself in all directions, and be able to deal with it calmly whenever and no matter what.
Try to change your mindset and discover attachments that you are not aware of.
Write scenes and situations that make you feel distressed, such as "I am a coward, always trembling, not confident."
Then ask yourself, "Is it really like you wrote?" "Can you assert that it's exactly what you wrote?"
Strive to transform negative obsessions into positive ones. Envision the life you want, be positive, confident and cheerful, and do what you like with ease.
How do you feel in such a future? What is your ideal self? What would you tell you about your future self?
"You're great, even if life is hard, you're always a kind, hard-working person who believes you deserve everything you want..."
With the continuous improvement of self-affirmation, your life will also usher in changes.
The key to improving self-affirmation and changing the number of letters is to re-program the brain. By constantly making positive psychological cues, the brain forms a pattern of positive self-confidence.
Someone said, "Believe in yourself before others believe in you." ”
Confidence gained through having superficially valuable things like power, fame, money, opportunity, jobs, and lovers is not true self-confidence.
True self-confidence is the full affirmation of the value of one's own existence and the ability to love oneself.
Many people are both eager to get better and afraid that they are not worth it.
It's as if you don't have that much ability to do so many things, and you feel like it's a very stressful thing to be good.
You were originally a unique being in the universe, and when you believe that you deserve all the good in the world, all the good will come closer.
Be your best friend, strengthen your precious values, and live out the abundance and abundance you are born with!
Light up "watching" and believe that you deserve everything!
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