- Three short stories below
Is the true story of The Sea Blue Happy Home -
01
Xiao A is a financial worker, she is seriously responsible in her work, after the amount of funds in her hands has tens of millions, every day and money deal with her, the most afraid is to calculate the wrong account.
After work, I will always keep thinking about whether the account is correct or not, knowing that it is not necessary, but I still keep checking it over and over again, afraid that which link will go wrong and cause losses to the unit.
Being fired by the leader is small, and the huge compensation is big. The nature of her work makes her meticulous, and she does not dare to lose anything. Everything you do yourself has to be confirmed more than three times in advance (even more so in cash accounts), and sometimes it annoys others.
Some simple addition and subtraction, after mental arithmetic, use the calculator to calculate, and then use the computer to calculate; confirm that the computer is turned off before work, the important financial statements are locked in the cabinet, and you have to confirm repeatedly, sometimes you have to come back to confirm it when you go out of the unit.
When I confirm it repeatedly, my heart is also very broken!!!
The reason for this was that it was because of the year when she first joined the work, or when the probationary period, because I made a mistake in a decimal point, I was almost thrown out of the unit by the leader, and later several leaders "interceded" for her, and I barely stayed, but the two-month probationary period was extended to five months.
Since then, the nerves in her brain have a string, firmly staring at a minute and a centimeter, as well as the decimal point of various data reports.
In the past few years, she has not made any mistakes, but it has had a very serious impact on her life, everything needs to be confirmed and repeated before it can be implemented, if there is a change in the middle, it will be very anxious, must be implemented according to the original plan, the psychology will feel stable.
It made the people around her very nervous and uncomfortable when they got along with her, and slowly many people began to stay away from her. Later, she also realized her own problem, but the work habits and thinking patterns formed over the years made her begin to become confused.
In fact, we want to do things well, and the key to doing well is to pursue the pleasure of being perfect in the process of being perfect about something. Doing a good job can also bring a specific enjoyment to our service recipients, and also let us enjoy ourselves.
And when we're doing something that makes us incredibly anxious, it's time to adjust our emotions, cognition, and mindset.
While doing good things, we must also maintain a pleasant feeling in our hearts
Otherwise, work becomes a form of kidnapping
02
Little B and her boyfriend have been in love for 8 years, standing at the intersection of marriage, but she seems very anxious, she is too worried, worried that their marriage will not be happy in the future, worried about what if he does not love me? Worried about what if he has an affair?
He would often have dreams about him hanging out with a woman, and as long as the other person didn't answer her phone, he would guess who he was talking to.
In fact, we see that they occasionally have quarrels and quarrels, but they are still a very happy and enviable couple, encouraging each other at work and being very considerate in life.
Its roots lie in the girl herself, as she is often haunted by a certain mindset: Yes, what if? That's right, but what if? Yes, I'm well prepared, our relationship is stable, what if?
Can we have another mindset?
Yes, so what?
Yes, my tomorrow may be miserable, I may be terminally ill, I may be wandering away, I may be lonely, but so what?
A lot of people put the main goal of life on preventing what happens in case it happens, and as a result, if it doesn't happen, if it doesn't happen, it doesn't happen for a lifetime. Our energy should be fully used to build our own strength and value, and we must turn ourselves into "sought-after goods".
With their own strength, a lot of cases will not disappear!
03
Little C is a boss, especially like to buy jewelry, there are many beautiful things, like to buy it, the chest of drawers at home can not be put down, reluctant to throw all into the garage.
Later, I chatted with her and asked her: You buy so many beautiful things, think about it carefully, is it to hide the lack of a beautiful thing in your heart? Only then did she calm down and begin to reflect on herself.
In fact, many people eat unconsciously and desperately, which is also filling a kind of emptiness in the heart. There are many beautiful things in this world that we can appreciate with our brains and eyes, rather than necessarily bringing them home.
There is too much beauty in life, just feel it with your heart
Any anxiety stems from worry, worry about the outcome, worry about the future, worry about the uncontrollable, worry about not doing well... And any worry is a form of fear.
Someone is always very critical of themselves, very dissatisfied with their bodies, thinking that they are not good here and bad there; even if 1,000 people think you are very OK, you still feel that you are not good enough.
Some people ignore their tired bodies and continue to stay up late to play games and surf the Internet? It's to alleviate the anxiety that you don't want to face something. Some people must strictly implement the plan, in order to be unable to tolerate change and generate anxiety.
And anxiety and stress also make us miss out on a lot of the beauty of life
- Always seeing what is not done enough, what is not good, the world is full of frustration;
- Ignoring the feelings of those around them, doing bad things with good intentions, making it difficult to get close to, lonely;
- Every minute of your life becomes a battlefield, exhausted;
- Inability to truly feel the love and warmth of your lover for you;
- Want to do a good job, but always unable to start, full of disappointment in themselves;
- ......
The thought of facing so many things, the mood suddenly fell to the bottom
No matter how you alleviate anxiety, you must see what the source of this fear is, and the anxiety will really dissolve.
And many people who are kidnapped by anxiety, most of them have high IQ and are very smart, but their energy is often scattered, and if they are healed, they will have very much love and energy, and they will be more comfortable in life and have the life they want.
How do you have the life you want?
There are three main sources of human suffering: 1 regret of the past, 2 concern for the future, and 3 dissatisfaction with the present. When we can resolve these difficulties, can not regret the past, worry less about the future, and be grateful for the present, there will be a rich life completely different from the past.
Everyone can change, as long as they are willing to learn, face, practice, and persist in practicing. So far, I've seen changes in all those who have worked hard, have the courage to face, actively practice, and persevere in practicing.