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When people reach middle age, there is no way to go after a place, and there is no way back before.
A writer once lamented when he was 50 years old: "When I was young, I knew that things were so difficult. Only after half a lifetime did I suddenly understand the truth of life. Years, after all, are our lifelong teachers, always teaching us to grow. ”
Man, only mature in continuous experience, only after a thousand sails of epiphany. Everything is not as simple as we think.
When we look at other people's "life experiences", we believe that we don't feel too much. It's just that when we are in the whirlpool of life, then we will feel empathy.
There's a saying that says it realistically, you stare into the abyss, and the abyss stares at you.
You pay attention to the years, and the years are also paying attention to you. No one can escape the prying eyes of time, just as flowers and trees cannot grow without water.
If years are an adventure, we are the adventurers in it. Just like the "Western Heavenly Scriptures", only after experiencing 9981 difficulties can we come to a bitter end and embrace a happy life that belongs to us.
The post-70s of BenWu are facing a life of chicken feathers. If they can't cross these 4 "hurdles", I believe that they will not live happily in their old age.
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The first "hurdle": middle-aged emotional attrition.
Psychologists believe that people are slaves to emotions all their lives and cannot completely control their emotions.
Emotions, in fact, are also divided into "age periods".
When you're young, your emotions are hot and positive. Once you encounter something, you will participate in it with a positive attitude. Because you are young and have not experienced it, there is no negative side to the mentality.
In middle age, your emotions are gloomy and negative. Once you encounter something, you will participate in it with a negative attitude. Because you know the cruelty of reality, your mentality will become gloomy.
Especially in the middle-aged people of this era, the pressure on their shoulders is simply to an extreme. To put it mildly, they are facing a huge crisis. The slightest carelessness can crush them for the rest of their lives.
Faced with such a situation, their mentality is negative, their psychological defense line is fragile, and their emotions are broken. In this way, if they are unable to regulate their personal emotions, then they will have big problems in the second half of their lives.
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The second "hurdle": family contradictions.
Middle-aged people have three fears, one is afraid of no money, the second is afraid of getting sick, and the third is afraid of family conflicts.
Middle-aged family conflicts, the problems are particularly complex, what love and hate, what trivial things, what relationship conflicts, are all contained in it. The light gives you a headache, and the heavy puts you at risk of family division.
Take, for example, the question of marriage. The relationship between middle-aged couples has long reached a "bottleneck period". You see that he is not pleasing to the eye, he has no feelings for you, and the two sides are like strangers. All this is difficult to change.
Imagine if your partner gives you problems all day, so how can you be good?
For example, the problem of parenting. There is definitely an irreconcilable contradiction between you and your child, which is the embodiment of the "generation gap". You want to take care of him, and he doesn't want you to take care of him. So the problem arises.
Just think, your child makes you angry all day, then will you live happily?
In addition, there are issues such as helping parents to provide for the elderly, as well as the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
It can be said that if the post-70s generation can't cross the barrier of family contradictions, then they will easily live in "contradictions" and will never live happily.
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The third "hurdle": workplace problems are prominent.
The problem that middle-aged people are most afraid of is that they have no money. The root cause of lack of money lies in unemployment.
As we all know, the problem of unemployment in middle-aged people today is particularly prominent. To put it mildly, as long as you are old, your company will fire you or even force you to resign. This is very realistic.
Mr. Zhang, who is 40 years old this year, is a veritable "deep drifter". However, he was just middle-aged and was fired by a large factory and is now unemployed.
Even the 40-year-old has been eliminated in the workplace, why is it a post-70s who has already run five?
Many people will wonder, why is the discrimination in the workplace so serious? Why are middle-aged people treated like this?
There is a reality that we need to understand that the human world is an assembly line, and we are only one of the commodities. When the value of a commodity is squeezed dry, it can only be eliminated.
Therefore, after the 70s of Ben Five, we must make steady progress and think about our own retreat. In this way, we can stand in an invincible position.
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The fourth "hurdle": health problems are prominent.
The pair of contradictions that middle-aged people are most afraid of - too desperate to make money, and afraid of health problems. Waste too much time on health care, and fear of not making money.
Money and health are a pair of contradictions.
If you are a big boss, or a rich person, then you can naturally resolve this contradiction and even use money to improve your health. However, not all of them are rich.
For ordinary people, whether we can live a healthy life is the root of whether we are happy and happy in the second half of our lives.
To be honest, if we don't focus on health issues, we are prone to losing more money. You know, the medical expenses of going to the hospital once may be more than the salary earned by ordinary people in a month.
After the 70s of Ben Five, it is necessary to balance the "degree" of health and money. Only in this way can we have a longer life for the rest of our lives.
Wen/Shushan has deer