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What happened in the Yi neighborhood of my sister's family (12)
The sister and brother-in-law broke their hearts over the marriage of their eldest son.
If a son gets married, he will empty the house, and I say that if another son gets married, he must not eat you?
My sister said that the younger son said that he was not in a hurry, he wanted to earn his own money, and if he did not earn it, he would not get married!
I said that's okay!
My sister-in-law said that' what? The eldest son has given, the younger son has not given, although he does not say it in his mouth, our parents' hearts cannot get by! After all, a bowl of water should be flattened!
I said don't you Yi people pay attention to living with your younger son? In the future, he will follow you through, and aren't all these houses and fields in your countryside his? These are not money?
They were stunned for a moment and said, it's money, yes, but the children are out, they want to start a family outside, they don't go back to the countryside, they get married outside without a house, the money is not enough, you can't buy it for him?
The brother-in-law said that you also have a son, and you will know it at that time.
I told Teacher Zhao that what we have always said to our son is that we will manage when he goes to school, no matter what he goes to. It turned out that he didn't care until he graduated from college, but then he was guaranteed to graduate school and went to graduate school, so we will take care of him for another three years. If he graduates from graduate school and still has a Ph.D., then we will also take care of it.
Our educational philosophy is that we will pay for school, and the parents will only take care of his education, and as for him to start a family in the future, he will have to fight with his own hands, and to what extent. Because parents can only provide for this, the parents' ability is so great.
There is no old age in our family, because after his parents provided him with school, he did not have much savings in his hands, and what he could leave him was the house we lived in, but that would be only after we had a hundred years later.
The little savings in his parents' hands, in addition to providing him with school now, and then used for emergency use after the pension, there is no more.
That's why we are so relieved to teach outside now, Teacher Zhao takes a meager salary of volunteer teaching, I volunteer to teach, with a pension of less than 1800 issued by the state, we feel very satisfied.
My brother-in-law was stunned to hear it, and he sighed and said incredible! He said how do you do this to your son? Isn't he your own?
Teacher Zhao explained to him that this has nothing to do with being born or not, it is our educational philosophy, we have also come this way, and our parents have also educated us in this way, because parents also have days for parents to live, parents are not all for their children to live, we have always thought so.
Our son's original wish was to study in Japan after graduation, because the Japanese animation industry is more developed, but when he reached his sophomore year, he suddenly decided not to read.
We asked him why he didn't read it? He said that our family's money is too small, the two of us (referring to his parents) have not gone out to earn money, if he goes out to study, he will spend all the family's money, then what money will we take for the elderly? Because he was afraid that he would not earn so much money to give us a pension.
You see, we children, he is still so sensible! He just wants to graduate and be completely independent on his own, without spending a penny from his parents at home.
The child thinks so, he understands things, and of course we are very happy! But see when the time comes, if he doesn't have it, we have it on hand, and we will give it to him, right? After all, there is only one child in the family, more money and less money, life does not bring death, today to tomorrow, anyway, when you go empty-handed.
When we say not to give it to him, we also don't want him to have the idea of dependence, and we must rely on ourselves for everything, because parents cannot accompany their children for a lifetime, and the rest of the road has to be walked by themselves. If you live to see that your child can support himself and live a good life on his own, then which parent will be unhappy?
Therefore, I think that parents should not be afraid of their children, but should arrange everything properly for their children when they are born, and never underestimate the creativity of children!
If you are strong, he is weak, and if you are weak, he is strong, and everything is dialectical. Leave creativity to the kids.
Friends, are we right to do this? How do you arrange the marriage of your children? The way we educate our children, my Yi brother-in-law does not agree. [Shy] [Than heart]
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