<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="1" > Author: Yan Wusheng</h1>
Lao She's short story "Neighbors" tells the story of two neighbors.
The Ming couple are city servants, they have a pair of children, Mr. Ming works under foreigners, and there are servants in the family.
The Yang family and his wife are teachers who cherish their "courtesy" and "identity".
Mr. Ming looked down on the Yang family and his wife, and he always thought that the people who taught were "poor and sour" and "had no chance".
But he especially hated Mr. Yang for marrying a "very good-looking" wife.
Mr. Ming's children "stole" the neighbor's grapes, and Mr. Yang's family planted them for three years, the first result.
Mrs. Yang decided to report to Mrs. Ming that the two neighbors had a series of laughter and scolding conflicts around the "grape incident".
From the text, we can see that Mr. Ming does not love Mrs. Ming, how does he treat his wife?
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01: Mr. Ming looks down on his wife
Although Mrs. Ming bore Mr. Ming a son and a daughter, Mr. Ming looked down on her in his heart.
The text reads:
In his heart, he really looked down on his wife.
Mrs. Ming knew she had a big flaw: she didn't know words.
Between husband and wife, it is a game.
In which way you are inferior to others, you will have a sense of inferiority in your heart.
In order to remedy this deficiency, Mrs. Ming "had to break her heart."
For her children, for her husbands, she took great care of them.
As for her children, she indulged and did not dare to punish and discipline them.
The reason is simple: the husband is everything, if she scolds her husband's daughter, if he is annoyed, he can treat her with the most embarrassing means, Mr. Ming can marry another one, she has no way at all.
Mrs. Ming also has a disadvantage, that is, she is not beautiful.
Mrs. Yang is very good-looking, which makes Mr. Ming hate very much.
The book reads:
Yang Qian acid actually had such a good wife, more than ten times better than his own, and he couldn't help but hate.
Mr. Ming's eyes often slipped to the side of the low wall, and Mrs. Ming could see this.
The woman's intuition is very sensitive, and the husband loves to see the beautiful wife of the neighbor, so that she can see everything, but she can't prevent it.
From these two points, we can see how much men want their wives to be cultured and good-looking.
Only in this way can we win him glory and let him have face.
A heartfelt truth between husband and wife is that you are inferior to others in any way, and you will be looked down upon by the other party.
Women must learn more skills and try to dress themselves up beautifully.
02: Mr. Ming is autocratic to his wife and gives her some freedom
Mr. Ming's head was raised very high.
He looked at himself as admirably as if he were looking at a saint.
He thought he had capital: he was worthy of his wife, loved his children, had a lucrative career, and had no hobbies.
Marriage is like this: whoever will earn money will have a high status at home.
Mr. Ming earns money to support the family, and his wife is a housewife, so naturally she is shorter in momentum.
However, Mr. Ming gave his wife some freedom.
Mrs. Ming indulged her children, quarreled with her neighbors, and dismissed servants, and he was the wife's.
Although he despised his wife, he did not allow others to look down on her.
Mrs. Ming had this freedom, and she was very arrogant and domineering in front of her neighbors and servants.
Children fight with other children, she can break the fate to join the war, so that others know how powerful she is.
The servants looked down on her, and she dismissed them to take a breath of evil.
The more angry a woman is in front of her husband, the more she is domineering compared to her weaker person, in order to obtain psychological balance.
If you see a woman who is arrogant on the outside, it's probably because she's not favored by her husband.
03. Mr. Ming beat Mrs. Ming
Mr. Ming will beat Mrs. Ming.
The children of the Ming family picked the grapes of the Yang family, and Mrs. Yang found Mrs. Ming.
Mrs. Ming not only did not apologize, but said that the children were naughty, and if you were not convinced, you would move away.
Some people are good at bullying.
Mrs. Yang cried angrily and went back to talk to her husband.
Mr. Yang wrote a letter in which he only asked Mr. Ming to instruct the children not to waste the grapes again.
He felt that Mr. Ming was an "educated man", and he also fantasized that Mr. Ming would be "grateful" and "extremely fortunate" after seeing the letter, and he also thought that Mr. Ming would personally apologize after reading the letter.
The maid of the Yang family came to deliver the letter, and Mrs. Ming had many eyes, thinking that Mrs. Yang had written it to Mr. Ming.
She hated Mrs. Yang and decided not to accept the letter.
Mr. Keming wanted to see Mrs. Yang's words.
Mr. Yang went to the Ming family to deliver the letter, and the servant of the Ming family gave the letter to Mr. Yang.
This time, Mr. Yang found that the letter was not written by him, but was sent by the postman to the wrong letter.
It was an important letter, but it was rejected by his wife, and Mr. Ming beat her up.
Mr. Ming was an arrogant man who did not want to beat his wife loudly, but the beaten Mrs. Ming did not talk about decency, and she cried vigorously, and the servants and neighbors heard it.
It can be seen that men can dress more than women.
Obviously, he beat his wife at home, but outside he acted like a good husband who loved his wife.
Therefore, we should not only see some appearances and feel that people are affectionate with each other.
Behind closed doors, you don't know what's going on with the couple.
This also shows that if a woman survives on men, she does not even have the courage to resist.
04: Mr. Ming does not divorce and will not remarry
Although Mr. Ming does not love Mrs. Ming, he will not divorce.
Why didn't he divorce his wife?
The book reads:
Because he was working under a foreigner who had made a fortune by believing in his religion; divorce or remarriage would be enough to break his job.
Men are best at weighing the pros and cons and then going to the advantages and avoiding the bad.
The fact that they could afford servants and houses with gardens showed that the job earned him a lot, enough to make him a stable and decent life.
Divorce or remarriage will make him lose his job.
If you lose your job, you have no income.
Looking for a job again, it may not be so good.
Therefore, he chose to be on the spot.
Not divorcing, not marrying, at least maintaining the status quo.
He also had an ideal: to save more money and make himself stable and independent like a hill.
It can be seen that the man does not divorce, or because he does not have enough money.
If he has enough money, he has nothing to fear.