When children enter puberty, there will be many psychological changes, and there will often be times when they are not sure about emotional problems.
At this critical turning point in life, parents must pay enough attention to educate, guide and help their children, so as not to let them do regrettable things under impulse.
There was a helpless incident in Britain, there was a 13-year-old boy, who was still in school age, but had become the father of a baby.
How can a child whose outlook on life and values are not yet mature take on the heavy responsibility of being a father? At that time, many people were worried about the boy.
Fast forward 13 years, and people can't help but be curious to know how the boy is doing.
Neglected from an early age, the 13-year-old boy became a father
The boy's name is Alfie, and he has a clear eyebrow and a melancholy temperament between his eyebrows. Born in a poor family, he was malnourished when he was a child, and his physique was not as strong as that of children of the same age.
Alfie's parents also had no intention of raising their children carefully, they gave birth to 9 children in one go, but they did not think that they had enough ability and energy to educate their children.
As a result, Alfie and her siblings were almost in a state of "being herded", and no one told them what was right and what was wrong.
After entering puberty, Alfie's heart began to sprout, and he and the neighbor's 15-year-old sister Shenderton fell in love, and also confusedly "stole the forbidden fruit".
Until one day, when his girlfriend told him she was pregnant and that he was going to be a father, Alfie didn't understand what was going on.
His heart was very panicked, afraid that his parents would blame him after they knew, and he was also afraid that his friends would laugh at him when they heard about it, so he made an appointment with his girlfriend, hid his family together, and secretly waited for the arrival of the child.
Soon, the child was born, and the matter was over, and the parents of the two families had to accept the reality. The girl's parents are quite enlightened and willing to help their daughter through the difficulties.
Alfie's parents were very angry, especially when his father said directly: "He is still a complete child, and he cannot be the father of another child!" "It's too late to educate him now, but I still want him to know what a sense of responsibility is!"
13 years on, the boy's situation is sad
But in fact, Alfie's performance was still good, and he had to let himself grow up, like a father, changing the baby's diaper and feeding him. In order to take care of the children, he even gave up his favorite game.
But he did not know that the test in life was not so simple, he became a father at the age of 13, and he had to bear people's pointing and looking at him differently, which made him have great psychological pressure and was unwilling to go out to school.
At such times, his parents not only did not find a way to explain him, but instead used this incident as a good opportunity to make a fortune, selling stories of their sons, taking pictures of their babies, and so on.
With Alfie's popularity, the unthinkable happened, it turned out that Alfie's girlfriend's private life was very chaotic, and this baby was not actually Alfie's own child.
It's hard to imagine how a 13-year-old boy would have to face such a terrible scene, and since then, Alfie has gradually faded out of public view, rarely hearing anything about him.
Thirteen years later, Alfie is now an adult, but he doesn't look as energetic as a young man, and the whole person is decadent.
He did not escape the influence of that incident, did not want to go to school again, did not look for a job, lived on petty theft, and was imprisoned for theft. His eyes were confused, and he couldn't see the direction of the future at all.
Parents should take care of their children and guide them out of confusion
Seeing such a tragedy, people can't help but sympathize and sad, Alfie will fall into such a situation, and has a lot to do with the parents' negligence in education.
His father once mentioned that talking to his son is simply "playing the piano to the cow", which can also be seen from the lack of communication and understanding between father and son, and the father does not have the patience to open the child's heart.
Even when children encounter difficulties, parents do not think of providing good advice for their children, but are bent on making money, which is really unacceptable.
So, after the child enters puberty, how should parents deal with it in order to avoid undeserved problems?
Pay attention to the psychological changes of the child. Children's sense of independence is getting stronger and stronger, self-esteem, sense of boundaries are awakening, parents should respect and understand their children, communicate with their children in an equal manner, and should no longer regard children as young children who do not understand things.
Pay attention to the child's early love problem. It is normal for children to have a hazy liking for the opposite sex, and parents do not have to stop it rudely, but they must correctly guide their children, focus on learning, and tell them that their current vision is not mature, and they will encounter better objects when they have academic success in the future.
Remind your child to keep the bottom line. If you really can't stop your children from falling in love early, you must also do the necessary education for them, tell them to protect themselves, and can't easily taste the forbidden fruit, otherwise it will cause serious harm to their own body and mind.
Conclusion: Children who enter puberty will have a lot of confusion and troubles, parents should not ignore it, and do not always preach to their children with a straight face.
Parents may wish to check and make suggestions for their children from the perspective of those who have come over, so as to help their children get rid of confusion and find the right direction.