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Li Shangyin of the Tang Dynasty wrote:
"Junwen returned to the autumn pond at night. He Dang cut the candle in the west window together, but when it rained at night. ”
There are still lovers in the world, and there will be such a beautiful verse.
You ask the return date, the return date is really difficult to say accurately. Bashan rained heavily overnight, filling the autumn pond. When will you be able to return to your hometown, cut candle flowers with you under the west window, and talk to each other about their thoughts in the night rain of Bashan tonight, how good it should be!
However, some people feel that money is more important. Some people will choose to be with a person because of money, and some people will choose to be separated from the object because of money.
When a young man got married last year, his mother asked his subject for a dowry of 200,000 yuan, and the object promised to give 200,000 yuan.
However, after four months, it was found that Fa Xiao was pregnant, and after learning that Fa Xiao was pregnant, the boyfriend did not give the bride price. Seeing that the wedding date was approaching, Fa Xiao turned his head and married another person.
After that, the boyfriend found Fa Xiao, but Fa Xiao said that he had a family and did not bother himself again.
01. Discouraged will marry someone else
When a woman is pregnant for this man, it means that the woman has already thought about living with this man for a lifetime.
Pregnancy is also a particularly serious thing for a woman, many women will be particularly afraid, if the man is not so trusting, women will not be desperate.
But when this woman is pregnant, the boyfriend does not want to give the bride price, and men who think this way are particularly terrible and can easily discourage a woman.
So at this time, my hair is small, and it is understandable to marry someone else, because I am already discouraged by this man, so I have to marry someone else.
As a man, don't let this woman be discouraged, because some women have great expectations of you, but one day when you betray this woman, when you make this woman feel cold, the woman will leave you.
Men do not feel that as long as a woman is pregnant with her child, then this woman has no way to retreat, the current medical treatment is more developed, so women have a way out, on the other hand, people's minds are now relatively open.
As long as it is not the woman's fault, when the man abandons the woman, many people will have some condemnation of the man's attitude, will sympathize with the woman, and will not blame the woman, so the woman still has someone to want.
02. Selfish men cannot marry
Men must not be too selfish, and women must not find a selfish man, because selfish men cannot marry.
Peng Dehuai said:
"If a person only thinks of himself, it is the most shameful, and if a person lives only for himself, it is better to die." 」
Although we do not have peng Dehuai's ability to be righteous and awe-inspiring, because we are ordinary people, our cultivation is not as high as such a great man, but when we are human, we still have to have a bottom line, if you are selfish to a certain extent, even if it will not affect this society, it will also affect your feelings.
There are some men who always think about getting what this woman wants and never think about giving anything to this woman.
A woman who wants to marry a man needs courage, and some women are afraid to marry this man, but they especially like this man, so the two people are together.
But men always feel that when a woman thinks like this, he wins, and he thinks of cheating this woman step by step, so that he has a lot of initiative in his feelings, so that this girl gives in his feelings again and again.
When a man has this idea, if the girl is smart enough, then the girl will definitely leave the man. Even if this girl is not smart enough, even if it is this girl, there is very little emotional experience.
But if the boy continues like this, then the girl's parents will also stand up, so the man still does not take the risk.
There are some men who do not have much ability, but when they are with this woman, men can give this woman enough security, and men can also make this woman trust enough.
When a man knows that a woman is pregnant, the first thing a man thinks about is not how to pit the woman, but how to help his own woman.
Generally responsible men will be particularly nervous after seeing their girlfriends pregnant, because getting pregnant before marriage is also a particularly serious thing.
Now the society is relatively open, but there will be some pressure when unmarried and pregnant, and it is an invisible pressure for a girl, because her parents may not be satisfied, and girls are afraid of their boyfriends abandoning themselves, so girls are embarrassed.
A responsible man will know that girls are not easy, so they will be good for girls.
03. The woman should have a heart and eyes
As a woman, you must have your own mental judgment.
First of all, when a woman is looking for a man, she must find a good man, don't be deceived by some rhetoric of the other party, and then you may call it every day and call it the earth not working.
Voltaire said:
"Selfishness is always there."
Everyone is selfish, this selfish behavior is always there, no matter what age you are, you will meet some selfish people. No matter what you're doing, you're dealing with selfishness, and it's the same in love.
Men are more or less selfish, but some people will grasp the measure, and some people will have no bottom line, always feel that as long as they are good, then this woman is not good? None of it has anything to do with themselves.
Therefore, when eating and buying things, women should also pay attention to observing this man, if at this time, the man is particularly selfish, indicating that this man cannot marry.
On the other hand, if the man usually shows that he is selfish, the woman must have her own bottom line, do not hand herself over prematurely, and cannot let herself get pregnant, because you know that this person is very selfish and does not love you so much.
After you are pregnant, this person will be more terrifying, and you will regret it even more, and this person's face will be exposed.
As a girl, don't put yourself in a disadvantageous state, because our female structure is different from that of men, although we also have certain needs, but sometimes we must restrain ourselves.
I often hear people say that now it is not a Qing Dynasty girl, but also to open up some gender equality. But think about it, if a girl is pregnant, then it must be the girl who is hurt, and the world is so unfair.
In terms of body structure, we are not the same, so we must consider ourselves, although men and women are equal, but there are some things we have to admit, this kind of thing is unequal, for girls is unfavorable, so we must protect ourselves.
Only by protecting your daughter can you have a happy life and a happy marriage.