Zhou Enlai suggested that his niece marry later
In August 1960, one Saturday afternoon, Zhou Enlai's niece Zhou Bingde came to Zhongnanhai, and his uncle Zhou Enlai worked in the West Flower Hall, when Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao both went to Beidaihe, she came to the house, took a book, and prepared to take it home to read. When I got the book and went out, I just saw Zhou Enlai get out of the car at the door.
"Uncle, aren't you in Beidaihe?"
"Something's coming back." Zhou Enlai shook hands with his niece Zhou Bingde kindly, "Tomorrow is Sunday, Bingde, wait a while with me to Beidaihe District, your seventh mother has something to talk to you." ”
"Good!" Bingde casually agreed.
Bingde returned to the West Flower Hall with Zhou Enlai, and as soon as Zhou Enlai entered the office, Bingde habitually sat in the living room and read a book.
Although there are no signs in Zhou Enlai's office, it is a "forbidden area" for people, even Deng Yingchao, who is revolutionary and life-and-death with Zhou Enlai, knocks on the door when entering Zhou Enlai's office, so Zhou Bingde does not enter the office, but just sits in the living room.
After zhou Enlai was busy in the office for a while, he came out and came to the living room to chat with Bingde.
"Uncle, am I taking a special train with you to Beidaihe today?" In the early days of the founding of the People's Republic of China, Zhou Bingde often went out to watch theater with Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao, but he never took a special list in Beijing.
Zhou Enlai nodded, and the conversation turned and said, "Bingde, will you discuss something?" Although Zhou Enlai was an elder, he still spoke in a consultative tone.
"Of course it's good, what's not to like!" Bingde agreed.
"Can you solve your marital problems after the age of 25?" Zhou Enlai's piercing eyes stared at his niece, "Girl! After the age of 25, it is also possible, not too early, our country should implement family planning, otherwise the development of industry and agriculture can not catch up with the rate of population growth, the people can not even eat enough, according to my idea, your generation should insist on marrying late, you see, can you get married again after the age of 25? ”
In the 1950s and 1960s, girls generally got married around the age of 20, and many of Zhou Bingde's classmates also became mothers, but when she heard her uncle say this, she also felt very right, as the niece of the prime minister, this is her obligation.
"No problem, of course no problem!" Bingde readily agreed, "I will definitely do this for you to ask." ”
"Good!" Zhou Enlai's face also appeared with a heartfelt smile.
The train started, the wheels rolled, and the body shook. Zhou Enlai was in the seat of the train, intently reviewing the documents, as if he were in no man's land. Bingde sat not far away, looking at the scenery flashing outside the window, her heart was warm, and she firmly believed that she could do it for Zhou Enlai's request for a late marriage.
In fact, Zhou Enlai's words also pointed out, when Zhou Bingde's mother, Wang Shiqin, introduced one of his relatives to Zhou Bingde, a college student who was studying in Moscow, when the two met, the feelings of the two quickly warmed up, but Zhou Bingde still had to seek the advice of his uncle and his seventh mother first.
So Zhou Bingde wrote a letter to Deng Yingchao, and Deng Yingchao said in the reply: We should first understand him from the organization. And this time Deng Yingchao asked her to go to Beidaihe, which was undoubtedly to discuss this matter.
After coming to Beidaihe, Deng Yingchao hugged Zhou Bingde very affectionately, dragged her all the way to the beach, and walked along the golden sand beach of Beidaihe while talking: "Bingde, the young man you told me last time, I have learned from the relevant departments, she is very motivated to learn, but it is more casual to contact with Soviet girls, you decide whether to talk about it yourself? ”
Deng Yingchao's words were very calm and objective, and he did not explicitly oppose their exchanges, but what Zhou Enlai said to her when he came is still fresh in his memory.
"Forget it!" She said to Deng Yingchao without the slightest hesitation. This relationship also came to an abrupt end.
For the sake of the national interest, give up a relationship again
After another two years, Zhou Bingde is already a 25-year-old girl, and she can also be regarded as an older young woman. One day, Nie Li, the daughter of Marshal Nie Rongzhen, smiled and handed a photo of a young officer to Zhou Bingde's hand.
Only to see this photo, Oh, a handsome young man with a masculine face, Nie Li introduced in detail his situation in all aspects, returning from studying in the Soviet Union. Zhou Bingde seemed to have a special relationship with the students who stayed in Susu, and when she saw this young officer, she admired Nie Li's elder sister's vision even more.
This young man has a wide shoulder, clear eyebrows, mature but not lack of enthusiasm, steady and humorous, the two fell in love at first sight, after contact, they talked more and more closely, and unconsciously, strangeness and restraint have disappeared without a trace.
As usual, Zhou Bingde told his seventh mother Deng Yingchao about his friend.
A few days later, on a late autumn weekend, after dinner, Deng Yingchao beckoned Zhou Bingde over: "Bingde, we have time to talk." ”
Zhou Bingde knew very well in his heart at this time that Deng Yingchao wanted to talk to her about making friends. She picked up Qima's teacup and went inside the living room.
"No, By virtue, let's go to the courtyard and talk."
"It's windy in the yard, you?"
"I put on my coat, I put on my scarf, and it's all right."
Zhou Bingde took the arm of The Seventh Mother and walked slowly along the courtyard path inside the West Flower Hall. It may be because Deng Yingchao grew up watching Bingde grow up, knows Bingde's personality very well, and when talking to her, he never has to bend over backwards, and always speaks directly when he has something to say.
"Bingde, I know your friend is very good and has a good conversation. It's just that my uncle and I consider that now that the relations between China and the Soviet Union have broken down, the Soviet Union is doing everything possible to find people who can be used among the students studying abroad, spying on China's intelligence, if this friend you are now in contact with has really become a husband and wife, often going in and out of the West Flower Hall, will the Soviet Union take advantage of this relationship? Deng Yingchao's tone when he spoke was extremely serious.
Obeying to listen, Deng Yingchao's words, although he did not directly say that he did not agree, nor did he directly oppose, but Zhou Bingde already understood her meaning, and at this time, Bingde did not hesitate in the slightest, and clearly said:
Seventh Mother, of course, I must ensure your safety, and I cannot bring any trouble to my uncle, I am sure to break, and I will break it no matter how satisfied this person is.
Zhou Bingde knew that the safety of Uncle and Mother Qi was the safety of the party and a matter of great importance, so this was not only his own personal affair, but also a matter of the party and the country.
Deng Yingchao nodded in relief, shook Bingde's hand and said, "Bingde, I believe in you!" ”
Deng Yingchao is a long-weathered revolutionary, and the reason why she pulled Bingde in the courtyard to talk about this passage was to be vigilant against "having ears across the wall" when Sino-Soviet relations broke down.
After that, the relationship between Zhou Bingde and the young officer was also broken, and from then on, she closed the emotional door for all the students who stayed in the Soviet Union, and the relationship between China and the Soviet Union became increasingly tense, and she was doomed to have no connection with the students who stayed in the Soviet Union.
If it is said that at that time, Zhou Bingde did not have nostalgia for this very excellent comrade, and there was no trace of regret in his heart, it must be a lie. He really touched The Heart of Bingde, and subconsciously, believing in his own intuition, he will become a very good person and will definitely be able to contribute to the country.
And Deng Yingchao naturally also knows that forcibly separating this relationship is difficult to do without a strong will, so he often praises Bingde in front of outsiders: "Bingde understands us very well and is very obedient." ”
With the passage of time, with the development of the times, people now often regard love as the most self-contained and free synonymous. Many young people were also very sorry after hearing about Zhou Bingde, and even asked her: "Why were you so obedient at that time?" Don't even pursue love that is completely your own? ”
Zhou Bingde never defended this kind of questioning, nor did she regret it, because she knew that if the responsibility of the two parties' respective families was missing in love, they would not be able to grow into a towering tree after all. If you want to have eternal love, you can't just pursue personal romance, but also have actions to pay for each other's family, so that you can truly share hardships and hardships.
Blind date meets Shen Junru's eldest grandson
In 1963, Zhou Bingde, who was already 26 years old at this time, was still in the middle of the word, and at this time, Bingde became happy and happy, still looking carefree, which made her mother Wang Shiqin, who was nearly half a hundred years old, anxious like ants on a hot pot!
And Zhou Bingde has never worried about her marriage, she is very confident that her popularity is good, and believes that there is a person in this world who is really suitable for him, but the time has not yet come, and the two have not yet met.
Zhou Bingde's idea made the mother more anxious, and she felt that the child was "missing a string" in this regard, she was impatient, wanted to come and go, and pulled Bingde to find Zhou Enlai's old guard secretary He Qian.
"Sister Wang, don't worry." He Qian's wife enthusiastically served tea.
"Can I not be in a hurry?" I have two children when I was 26 years old, and the days passed so fast, this child dragged on any longer, it will be 30 years old, will I be able to marry out when the time comes? The matter of virtue, please, please, you two. ”
At this moment, He Qian's eyes suddenly lit up, and he said to his wife: "Wife, what do you say about the son of Dr. Shen who just came back?" ”
"Which Dr. Shen?" How old is his son? What do you do? Wang Shiqin's eyes widened and he asked hurriedly.
"It is Shen Qian, who was originally the director of internal medicine of the Zhongnanhai Outpatient Department, and now the vice president of Guang'anmen Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital, who lives on the third floor of our house. His son's name is Shen Renhua, 33 years old, is a lieutenant officer in the Air Force, and knows four foreign languages! ”
"Gee, why didn't I hear you talk about it?" As if joy had fallen from heaven, Wang Shiqin asked anxiously.
"Yes! In the past, we only knew that Dr. Shen had a daughter, and this time Mr. Shen Junru died, and Shen Renhua, that is, Shen Junru's eldest grandson, came back to attend the funeral, and we only knew that Director Shen's family also had a eldest son who was a soldier, and he was not yet married! ”
"Really, isn't it bad looks?" Indeed, in such a family lineage, 33 years old is not married, and indeed people will doubt his appearance.
"Nearly one meter eight tall, handsome, modest, steady. As for why I'm not married yet, I didn't ask, but..."
"Why don't you arrange for them to meet?" Wang Shiqin couldn't wait to interrupt He Qian's words.
At that time, Shen Renhua and He Qian lived in the same building, Shen Renhua lived on the third floor, and He Qian's family lived on the first floor, and since he mentioned it, He Qian also went upstairs and invited Shen Renhua to sit in his home.
When Zhou Bingde saw that standing in front of him was indeed a handsome young man, not much to say, just smiling, no matter who spoke, he was always listening politely.
At that time, Shen Renhua also saw Zhou Bingde at a glance, he was fascinated by Bingde's simple and bright smile, and the girl he had always hoped for in his heart was her.
Finally, Shen Renhua's words accelerated the process of the relationship between the two: "Teacher Wang, since you have arrived here, please go to my parents' house on the third floor and sit down!" ”
At that time, Shen Renhua did not know that the girl he liked in front of him was Zhou Enlai's niece, and if he knew, he probably would not have issued an invitation so quickly.
When Zhou Bingde met Shen Renhua's parents, the gentle and charitable smiles of the two old men left a sense of intimacy for Zhou Bingde. Although Mrs. Shen is said to be a housewife, she knows the book and is very polite, and she also sees at a glance that Bingde is kind and kind.
After Zhou Bingde knew Shen Renhua, he went to the West Flower Hall on the weekend and told Deng Yingchao about the matter in 1510, and when Deng Yingchao heard that Shen Renhua was the eldest grandson of Old Mr. Shen Junru, a smile also appeared on his face: "Old Mr. Shen Junru and your uncle are familiar with each other." Among his four sons, Renhua's father, Shen Qian, was the most progressive. ”
"Seventh Mother, do you know each other?" Zhou Bingde asked.
"Isn't it more than recognition? It's still familiar! Deng Yingchao began to talk about this history.
Shen Junru and Zhou Enlai first met in 1937, and although the age difference between the two was 20 years, they were the same at first sight and talked about everything.
During the War of Resistance Against Japan, Shen Junru repeatedly proposed to join the Communist Party of China, but after discussion within the Party, it was believed that he played a greater role for the country outside the Party, and until his death, he was still a Bolshevik outside the Party.
Shen Renhua's father, Shen Qian, was a medical doctor studying in Germany, with excellent medical skills and good medical ethics, and had been staying in Shanghai during the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, and the Japanese puppet government knew that his medical skills were superb, and hired Shen Qian as the dean with a high salary, but Shen Qian refused to resign, and together with two classmates, he ran a private clinic in the rental.
After liberation, Shen Junru had reached the age of ancient rarity, and it was very inconvenient for him to live alone in Beijing, so Zhou Enlai consulted with Shen Junru: "We need doctors now, and your body also needs the care of your children. ”
The old man was very happy after listening to it, and immediately wrote a letter to Shen Qian. At that time, Shanghai had already assigned Shen Qian the post of president of the hospital, but when he heard his father say that the central leaders needed doctors, he immediately gave up his position in Shanghai and the whole family moved to Beijing. Director of Internal Medicine at Zhongnanhai Clinic.
After Deng Yingchao carefully explained the history of the two families' contacts, he still did not forget to tell his niece: "Of course, the hero of the father's generation does not mean that the children must be good men, and shen Renhua's character is still dependent on your own contact, more understanding, and see if you can live together like-minded." ”
After Zhou Bingde listened, he nodded his head and said that he fully agreed.
After a period of dating, (520 words are omitted here) both of them found themselves attached to each other and truly found the sweetness of their hearts.
Shen Renhua saw Zhou Enlai
On a Sunday in the spring of 1964, at 10:30 a.m., Zhou Bingde called Rio Shen Renhua and came to the West Flower Hall. Walking into the northwest gate of Zhongnanhai, Renhua suddenly asked, "Is the prime minister here today?" ”
"Of course! Seven mothers called to tell me that uncle was at home today, and the two of them wanted to see you. ”
"I'm really nervous!" Shen Renhua was dressed in a military uniform, sweating in the palms of his hands, and even there were tiny beads of sweat on the tip of his nose.
"Nervous about what? After a while, you will think that the person in front of you is an uncle. ”
That being said, when Zhou Enlai walked into the living room, Shen Renhua suddenly stood up from the sofa, pressed his right hand against the brim of his hat, respectfully performed a standard military salute, and blurted out: "Hello Premier!" ”
Zhou Enlai nodded, shook Shen Renhua's hand and asked with a smile: "Renhua, are you younger than Bingde?" ”
"I'm older, I'm 7 years older than her!" Renhua answered Zhou Enlai very seriously.
"I can't see it, you look handsome, and you look younger than Bingde!"
Strange to say, after Zhou Enlai said these words, Shen Renhua, who had just looked restrained, immediately relaxed.
"Renhua, I remember that there is a stipulation in the law that the only son is not allowed to become a soldier, and you are the only son, so how can you join the army?" Deng Yingchao asked.
"At the beginning of the War to Resist US Aggression and Aid Korea, I thought that defending the family and defending the country was the obligation of every Chinese, so I signed up to join the army, but at that time, I did not dare to tell my parents, so I only wrote a letter to my grandfather Shen Junru, who replied with support, and I went."
"Elder Shen is indeed the banner of the center-leftists of non-party democrats, and it is well deserved!" Zhou Enlai's eyes showed a sincere look.
Seeing the dishes that had been laid out on the table, Deng Yingchao also beckoned everyone to sit down.
"Renhua, what's your mother's last name?" Where are they from? Zhou Enlai asked after eating two mouthfuls of food.
"Surname Zhang, a native of Haiyan, Zhejiang."
"Oh! Haiyan people? Zhou Enlai asked with a crooked head, "Is there anything to do with Zhang Yuanji?" ”
"Zhang Yuanji is my mother's cousin."
"Oh! It really doesn't matter! This family has been cooperating well with our party for many years! Zhou Enlai nodded.
Although Shen Renhua said that he had met Zhou Enlai for the first time, he was also amazed by Zhou Enlai's question.
The bride rides a bicycle to deliver the dowry
One day in September 1964, when Zhou Bingde walked into the door of the West Flower Hall, he happened to meet Zhou Enlai sitting in the living room reading the newspaper, and Bingde came forward and shouted: "Uncle! ”
"Bingde, is there any joy in being so happy?"
"Nothing can escape Uncle's gaze." Mainland Celebration is getting married! ”
"Is it?" Zhou Enlai put down the newspaper and asked rhetorically.
"Uncle, I promised you that I would get married after the age of 25, and this year I am 27. Zhou Bingde couldn't help but smile.
Zhou Enlai smiled slightly, turned his head, pointed to the large mirror frame placed on the heating shelf on the east wall of the living room, and said: "Bingde, you take this, it is a wedding gift from your uncle to you!" ”
"Great!" At that time, Zhou Bingde was flattered.
In this frame, it is a landscape photo taken by Deng Yingchao himself in Lushan Mountain, on the picture is the top of the Pokou Qingshan Mountain, two exquisite pavilions looming between the fluttering white clouds, the whole picture feels that it is not static, as if those clouds are still flowing in the photo, very expressive.
This photo Zhou Enlai was particularly fond of, so Deng Yingchao also asked someone to enlarge the photo to 21 inches, with a frame, and placed it on the heating rack in the living room, before it was hung on the wall. Zhou Enlai gave it to his niece as a wedding gift.
Deng Yingchao was like his own daughter getting married, preparing the dowry in a complete way, packing it in a paper box, and then tying it with a large bag of skin and tying it to the back shelf of the bicycle. Zhou Bingde rode a bicycle and sent it straight to his mother-in-law's house.
Shen Renhua's mother saw this scene, smiled and shook her head: "It is really a different era, the new daughter-in-law rode to the door to send the dowry herself." ”
Bingde made a suggestion to his in-laws: "I've seen those weddings before, it's like playing tricks on a couple, it's very boring, we don't have the usual wedding." ”
After the two old men listened, they gladly accepted this suggestion.
On the day of "Eleventh", there was no food, and only candy, melon seeds, peanuts, and tea were placed on the table, informing relatives and friends in Beijing that whoever could come would come, sit down and talk, and completely free flowing water.
It was National Day, the annual military parade was held in front of Tiananmen, and Chang'an Avenue was under martial law throughout the day, but the relatives and friends who came to Hexi and Shen Renhua's comrades-in-arms came one after another. Talk and laugh, lively and festive.
While everyone was talking and laughing, Deng Yingchao knocked on the door with a large bag and came in. At that time, Deng Yingchao, who was already the year of Hua Jia, climbed to the third floor and was also a little breathless. After she sat down, she said with a smile: "Enlai has come to Tiananmen Square to attend the National Day ceremony, and I will come to congratulate you as a representative." ”
"Hello big sister! How did they alarm you? Shen Renhua's aunt Shen Pu, on Deng Yingchao's visit, her face was full of confusion.
"How can I not come?! Bingde is Enlai's eldest niece, who grew up in front of us, and she married like her own daughter! Deng Yingchao reacted quickly and immediately asked, "What, you don't know?" ”
"That's great!" Shen Pu suddenly realized, sighing, "In the second half of his life, his father (Shen Junru) has always regarded Enlai as a confidant, and if his old man knows in heaven, he will be happy to see this marriage." ”
After marriage, Zhou Bingde and Shen Renhua, due to work reasons, lived in Xi'an, Guizhou and other places, in the work, no one knows their identity, no one knows their relationship with Premier Zhou Enlai, they are in the unit, just an ordinary person, the feelings have always been very good.
epilogue
Zhou Bingde experienced several emotional setbacks and finally found someone to accompany him for a lifetime.
In the present, many people may think that she is too obedient to even dare to decide her own marriage. But in Bingde's life creed, there is a more important and more inviolable principle, that is, his private affairs must also be subordinated to the overall situation of Uncle Zhou Enlai!
She knew that although falling in love was a personal matter, she was also Zhou Enlai's niece after all. Therefore, their love is not a simple ordinary family affair, many things must take into account the overall situation of Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao, and always put the party and the country in the first place. In order to pursue his own happiness, he will never create a little opportunity and possibility for Zhou Enlai to be insecure!
Because Zhou Enlai was not only her uncle, but also an important leader of the People's Republic of China, when she joined the Communist Party, she had to take the interests of the party and the country as her first life.
Even now, when Zhou Bingde talks about his love in many public speeches, he is still full of gratitude to Zhou Enlai and Deng Yingchao, who gave him a mature concept of love and found the right person to accompany him for a lifetime.