In the past two days, the winter Olympic champion Gu Ailing has been on fire, along with the hot search for "family education" that she has brought.
Among them, in thousands of comments, I saw a sentence by Professor Huang Rihan, and I expressed my deep opinion:
"Don't always think about chicken babies, chicken yourself, crossing classes often takes generations of efforts."
Why do you have a deep sense of identification with this sentence?
This is due to a personal realization of mine.
In recent years, I have been studying online and offline, participating in many communities, enrolling in many parenting courses, and reading a lot of books on cognition, psychology, and education.
From the original single-mindedly thinking of finding a way to solve the child's problem, to the end of the child found that the child has no problem at all, the problem is only the parents, it is the family education that is a problem.
It was only at this moment that I realized and realized the importance of family education, and that this family education is not just parent education, it includes generations of family education.
Why are so many children in today's society bored with school, depressed, and even born lightly? In the end, the most important point is in the family education.
Parents do not understand education, family education is not good, and it is impossible to cultivate healthy and excellent children.
As the saying goes, a dragon gives birth to a dragon and a phoenix, and a son born of a mouse will make a hole.
What is the family environment, how the parents are, the children are almost inseparable.
Parents are the biggest confidence in the growth of children's lives
Such as Gu Ailing.
A search on the Internet reveals her family background at a glance, and three generations are appropriate objects of envy and amazement.
Why can 18-year-old Gu Ailing be so good?
In addition to her own interest development and continuous efforts, it is more that her parents have given her the courage to be herself and the confidence to choose freely.
How many parents in Chinese education can make it possible for their children to sleep 10 hours a day from childhood to adulthood?
Again, in family education, how many parents can support their children's interests and hobbies and let their children do what they like?
The answer is self-evident, and there is a high probability that there is none.
The reason why Gu Ailing was able to excel and become famous in just one year is that in addition to talent, she also has a thick material foundation of her parents and the wealth of her spiritual world.
As the saying goes, the material foundation and spiritual world of parents determine the height of life that children can reach.
The famous French writer Balzac once said: "It takes three generations to cultivate an aristocrat."
Not to mention the cultivation of aristocrats, even the cultivation of a college student in the countryside may require three generations of efforts.
I vividly remember that in a village in my hometown, the first person to get into college was the effort of many generations.
His grandfather was an accountant who could calculate the accounts, his father was often responsible for arranging various major events and small affairs in the village, and his brother dropped out of school to earn money to study for him, and his own efforts day and night.
Many years ago, he became a professor and an official, and he had long since left his original class and crossed to a higher level.
Indeed, crossing classes has never been achieved by one person, but by the efforts of generations.
If generations don't work hard and don't have the consciousness to climb up, then they can only rely on themselves, starting from their own generation.
Parents have a family foundation, the child will be much easier, if not, then fight themselves
I have to say that parents have a family foundation, and children are much more relaxed.
Two family-starting men of the same age, still good friends with each other, one by the family's façade rent, a family of four living leisurely.
The other is surrounded by disciples, and his parents can't help a little, and they fight alone. But even if it was so hard, he could only support the family's daily living expenses, and he couldn't afford any accidents.
No way, people who are born in Rome and who have a lifetime of difficulty reaching Rome live two very different lives.
What if you don't have the family foundation of your father and want to break the cage of your own destiny?
It's up to you and your children. But it is better to rely on your children than on yourself, because you are the "backer" of your children.
Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, wrote in the book "Zheng Yuanjie's Family Education Class":
"The mark of a qualified parent is to choose the burden of creating glory for the family and build a relaxed and comfortable life for the children."
That's all right.
Just as netizens came to the conclusion after analyzing Gu Ailing's family education, the chicken baby is not as good as the chicken itself.
The parents themselves are excellent, and the children will naturally not be bad.
epilogue
Zheng Yuanjie once said: "As a father, in the 12 years that my daughter was in primary and secondary school, I never said to my daughter that you should work hard, I only said to myself, Zheng Yuanjie, you have to work hard."
Yes, no matter how hard the parents work, the child will naturally see it in the eyes and remember it in the heart, needless to say that he knows it.
Family education is really too important, parents are the biggest confidence of children, parents' knowledge, vision and pattern determine the height that children can reach. If you want to cultivate your children into talents, parents must first cultivate themselves well.